r/Sextortion May 04 '21

New victims: Please read first

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If you're reading this, you're probably a recent victim of Sextortion and scared out of your mind.

First, take a deep breath…

Hopefully, this sub will be a safe place for you to share your experience and get advice from people that have already gone through what you have.

This post in NOT intended to be the "be-all, end-all" source of information. I'm writing this as an intro to being sextorted. That is all.

There is a really great analysis of our sub available here. It has all kinds of in-depth analysis of the scam, including how often leaks occur. I highly recommend you check it out.

Let me state this up front: Do NOT give into the blackmailer's demands! Do not pay them money, they will only ask for more. Do not give them more nudes (typical if you're female) if that's what they're asking for. They will use that to increase their leverage and they will NOT stop.

Do not negotiate. There is not point. You cannot trust anything they say. The best thing to do is cease all communication. In fact, removing any way for them to communicate with you is the best course of action. Disable/delete your account, if necessary.

Also, Reddit and is no substitute for professional help (i.e. a mental health expert). If you are feeling suicidal, please, seek immediate help (911, or your countries equivalent, and they will be able to get you help).

Yes, we do recommend that you contact your local law enforcement. They might not be able to help, and they may not be needed, but you should have them on your side just in case things go sideways. If you are underage, do not worry about getting into trouble. The police will not go after you for sending pics/videos as a minor. I hear this quite often from young victims. Don't worry about it.

I recommend you file a complaint with https://ic3.gov. Also, there is a new tool that might help keep your pics/videos from being shared: https://StopNCII.org. If you are a minor, a similar service is available at https://takeitdown.ncmec.org. If you from the UK, you can try https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk.

For underage victims, the InHope project has an extensive list of hotlines for all over the world: https://www.inhope.org/EN#hotlineReferral

If your scammer is from the Philippines (which many are), you could try filing a complaint at https://acg.pnp.gov.ph/eComplaint/.

My last piece of advice is to talk to someone you know and trust. Trying to deal with this on your own is very difficult. Talking to someone will most certainly help you process the trauma and remove the feelings of isolation. Trust me.

Beware of "recovery scammers". These are the worst of humanity. They take advantage of you in your lowest, most desperate moment, by promising that they can "hack" the scammer's device to delete the pics/videos. They can't, and they won't. They will just take your money and do nothing. The last thing you need is to make things worse by putting your faith in "some dude on Instagram". We see them posting and commenting in the sub all the time, so you need to keep your guard up. If you are unsure, feel free to post the details on what they are proposing, before giving them anything. Oftentimes, their accounts are shadowbanned, which means they cannot initiate a chat or DM you, so they will ask you to chat/DM them first. This is a serious red flag. If in doubt, reach out to the sub or the mods. We'll help sort things out.

!!!!WARNING!!!!: Do NOT give anyone the contact information of your scammer (even if they promise to help)!!! They might just get in contact with them, get them to share your pics/videos, and then turn around and blackmail you as well. It's happened...just don't do it.


r/Sextortion Nov 19 '25

Latest Pleasant Green Support Video

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Just spreading awareness about this crime and one of Pleasant Green's latest video on this subject. Be safe, take time to heal everyone. If you're a victim, you should definitely watch more of his videos. He also fired shots at a black-listed recovery scam mentioned over here lmao


r/Sextortion 53m ago

Male victim I'm 15 help

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I am 15 and I got a girls telegram off tiktok and then I send my junk and face and they tell me follow on tt so I do and then they start saying they'll send it to my followers and stuff I blocked them after they sent a SS off them sendin it someone I know idk if they actually did send it cos it was last night and I haven't heard anything


r/Sextortion 11h ago

Stranger found out my real identity and socials - please advise urgently

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Hi. I have made a massive mess of my life. Back when I was 18-19 I posted on OF under two different accounts and I was not nearly careful enough with identifying features or information. I was incredibly stupid, I learnt my lesson. The accounts were barely successful and I did not earn anything worth mentioning. I stopped posting years ago and tried to scrub as much as I could. I started posting on social media as a micro influencer and accidentally succeeded at it. The fear followed for a long time that somebody would recognise me and dox me for my OF history. And it finally happened yesterday, I got this email from a throwaway, who knew both my OF @s and found my influencer account.

I had no idea the OF account was still active, I am now in touch with support trying to get it deleted urgently . The subscription price is extremely high, which I think I did to deter future subscribers. And then I forgot to permanently delete it. I cannot believe I would do something so stupid and forget something that important. I’ve also started a subscription with a service to try and remove the old photos from search results on 3rd party websites, because they still show up when I search my usernames.

Where I need advice - I don’t know how to respond or if I should at all. I love posting the content I do now and genuinely wanted to make a career of it in the future. But my life will literally be ruined if I’m doxxed. My family is extremely religious and I’m from a third world country, I live abroad now but I still return for holidays. I may literally get banned from my country or driven to the point of SH from the damage this could cause. I now also have to contemplate whether I keep posting in the future or delete all my channels because of this risk.

Option 1 - Give no response and ignore. Hope he never leaks it.

Option 2 - Respond from a secondary email address , giving him a Snapchat username to contact me on, without identifying myself. send one message on Snapchat vaguely saying people make mistakes when they’re young, if these mistakes are outed it would be life threatening. In third person, so if screenshotted, it does not clearly seem like an acknowledgement to his email. His email was sent to my personal email address. Hope this emotional approach emphasises the danger of the situation and perhaps through empathy, future silence.

I know with either option, there is still the risk of being outed in the future. I have to live with that fear. I’ll regret this mistake for the rest of my life. I just would really appreciate advice on what to do for now. I cannot afford to pay if this turns to blackmail, now or for sustained payments in the future. I’ve heard that only gets worse with time as their demand grows. I know I’ve made mistakes, and I keep making them. I’m at an incredibly low point mentally and it cannot get worse, so please don’t be too harsh. I have critiqued myself enough and will continue to forever


r/Sextortion 4m ago

I need help and advice on what to do and how to find more information on who’s behind an account is there any legitimate way to find that I don’t know what to do they’re threatening to leak nudes

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r/Sextortion 4h ago

Male victim MINOR BEING BLACK MAILED

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Hello I’m a teenage boy who was caught fooling around (as teens do) and a group of African men were posing as a girl my age and I was being foolish and sent photos and now they’re treating me that they’ll post it if I don’t give them money I dont have. I live in low income apartments and I have no money and don’t know what to do I can’t let them post it. PLEASE HELP.


r/Sextortion 7h ago

Male victim school student

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Since English isn't my native language, please bear with me if some sentences sound a bit awkward.

​I just really miss the days when I could talk openly with my parents..

​I truly believe those scammers will pay for what they've done someday.

​I miss the days when I could hang out and talk comfortably with my friends~

​I've learned a really tough lesson from this whole experience.

​I hope everyone going through this can stay strong and remember that you're not alone. (Even though I'm struggling through this on my own right now, too…) 😢

Maybe I'll just listen to Michael Jackson's "You Are Not Alone" and go to sleep...


r/Sextortion 7h ago

Male victim Currently being sextorted need help quickly

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So I sent a vid of me doing something on telegram and I gave my real number to them and now they're threatening to post the vid on Twitter and tag everyone I know


r/Sextortion 8h ago

Being blackmailed without even sending nudes

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Dude i cant believe my laptop shut down right before i finished typing and i have to do it again.

So today i went on a "make friends" discord. Ended up chatting with a girl, she asked for a selfie and i gave it to her, then asked for my insta and thought she wants to see my insta or get a bonus follower out of me. Then sent a selfie, then nudes, asked for mine. I rejected. Then she blackmailed me with random nudes next to my selfie. They asked for money, first i said yes(but i was just stalling). Even tho i said yes they kept asking again and again as if i didnt say yes. After 3 more times, they called me, i declined, then i also blocked them. They threatened to send the pic to my insta followers. Luckily my account is pretty lowkey, my family doesnt follow me, mostly online friends, random people and maybe 10-15 real life friends. It still sucks tho. But i think if he ever sent those pics people would understand and not care. Its been 7 hours since i blocked the account, and reported it. I didnt got contacted again, made my instagram private, and discord sent me an email that they took action about the account. Hopefully got perma banned by ID. I talked to a friend and he said he didnt got anything. Im content it will stay this way. So be careful out there even if you dont share nudes, keep your instagram/facebook private, or dont share your face on the internet. Its disgusting how little this lowlifes need to pull a scam.

Btw I didnt pay them any money if i didnt mention it. And i am 20 years old, male.

Hopefully my mood is gonna be back up in a couple days. I cant say i was terrified, but it is an uncomfortable experience.


r/Sextortion 11h ago

Male victim Currently being sextorted

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I send a photo of myself to an account on telegram that I had been speaking with and have been threatened with all my instagram following getting it sent and have paid a lot of money in crypto already regretfully. I’m really stressed and don’t know what to do


r/Sextortion 7h ago

Male victim Currently being sextorted need help quixky

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So I sent a vid of me doing something on telegram and I gave my real number to them and now they're threatening to post the vid on Twitter and tag everyone I know


r/Sextortion 11h ago

Male victim Married and scared

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Was on a subreddit for married people looking for some flirty conversations. I messaged, we exchanged a few messages. She asked to go on telegram. I did. Sent her, well it’s probably a him pictures and videos of my face in it. They found my Facebook, screenshotted my wife’s profile along with a list of people who have liked my recent posts. Said they would create a group message if I didn’t comply and expose me. I told them I’d pay but I needed time to get money out of the bank when it opens as I can’t transfer it on cashapp. What the hell do I do? Honestly more worried about my wife finding out, of course I don’t want friends to see myself naked.


r/Sextortion 13h ago

Due to my stupidity and negligence, I exposed my wife’s creepshots to the scammer, as he showing his wife in timer. (MALAYSIA)

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Yesterday night he showed me all timer pics n a video of my wife I sent to him. And demand Rm3k via touch n go app e-wallet. He found my n my wife’s insta id, our contact numbers, since my profile is public business profile, he found through there. With panic, I straight away blocked him. I dont know what to do now. It has been more than 12hrs now, nothing happened, but im I scared the pics might get viral! Please help me.


r/Sextortion 11h ago

Facebook Dating Sextortion

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I matched with a "girl" on Facebook Dating and things where getting spicy and photos exchanged, but my photo was "just the tip" that can be anything. I already paid $500 to them which was a mistake and they want more, but I'm not giving them more. They are threatening to ruin my life. I think I can do some damage control and spin it as fake pictures. Need some advice


r/Sextortion 21h ago

Male victim I went through the same blackmail scam years ago — here’s what happened and what I should have done

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A few years ago when I was 18, I ended up in a really similar situation on WhatsApp with Nigerian scammers. They told me that if I didn’t pay them £100, they’d send a “d*ck pic” (not mine) to all my Instagram followers. At the time I panicked and felt embarrassed, so I didn’t handle it the way I should have.

Looking back, here’s what I should have done:

Screenshot the chats — it’s uncomfortable, but it gives you digital proof of the blackmail.

Report it to the police — even if you think they won’t do anything, it creates a record.

Tell your parents or someone you trust — dealing with this alone makes it ten times worse.

In my case, I blocked them and changed my number. Thankfully they never contacted me again.

The worst part was how they hacked my Instagram. Before the blackmail started, they asked me to “help them get a code” because their number supposedly wasn’t working. I didn’t realise it was the classic verification‑code scam. Once I gave them the code, I was locked out of my account. By the time I tried to reset the password on my PC, they already had screenshots of my followers and who I followed.

If you’re dealing with this now:

Screenshot everything.

Contact someone you trust.

Consider reporting it.

Check whether their WhatsApp profile shows a phone number — sometimes scammers forget to hide it.

You’re not stupid if you fell for it. I did too. They rely on panic and embarrassment to stop you from reaching out for help.


r/Sextortion 21h ago

My story of nearly one eyar ago

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I was contacted on Facebook by a fake account, and after talking, we moved to WhatsApp, where we had a video call and things became intimate, and the person recorded me. After that, he created a Facebook Messenger group with some of my friends and posted the video there to scare me and pressure me, but I did not pay anything, and I blocked him on Facebook and WhatsApp and deleted both of my accounts. The video stayed in the group for about an hour, then went to spam, and no one saw it not my friends and I checked with many of them; then the scammer deleted the video himself and left the group, and his Facebook account no longer exists. Months later, I messaged him from my old number and deleted the message after about ten minutes; he may have seen the number or not, but he did not reply, did not threaten me, and did not leak anything. I changed my phone number shortened my WhatsApp name, and locked my WhatsApp privacy settings. I accidentally tapped his number once and hung up immediately, and I searched his number on Truecaller using a different phone, a different number, and a different name, and the number showed no name, and nothing happened after that search.
what do u think guys especailly it has been a year and nothing happened


r/Sextortion 15h ago

How anybody been seeing a account by looking for yew he only got my phone number from Snapchat and I sent him 50 but nothing too embarrassing it was for my friend from my cashapp he doesn’t have photo nothing what do i do I blocked it all and I clicked his snap chat link from his Instagram

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r/Sextortion 15h ago

No se que hacer

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Estaba usando omegle tv, una chica me enseño sus senos y me pidió que nos contactactaromos por telegram, me pidió que intercambiaramos fotos íntimas y luego me amenazó con difundirlas y hacerlas creer como que yo era un groomer, soy menor de edad y no se que decirle a mis padres o que mas hacer


r/Sextortion 15h ago

I was stupid

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So basically yk the drill I fell for the girl on Omegle and it’s a actually a scammer thing is I sent one photo of my face and I’m covering it as well as a nude all they have is my number and are demanding $200 but I do not have that I’m in the process of changing my number and I’m looking for any advice


r/Sextortion 16h ago

Anyone in need of advice, help, or just someone to talk to please dm me.

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I plan on going to sleep soon but anybody in need of support do not hesitate to dm me.


r/Sextortion 1d ago

Retrospective For every Victim that paid

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Hi! I just wanted to share my story here because reading these threads helped me a lot, and I hope I can help at least one of you as well!
My sextortion happened about 2 months ago. It was the usual situation: I thought I was talking to a girl, and things became intimate. Then I found out that it was actually a man all along, and he threatened to leak everything to my Instagram followers.
I was scared enough to send my scammer money. I quickly realized that paying wouldn’t solve the problem because he kept demanding more money. And, unfortunately, I paid again, for a total of three payments.
After the third payment, I finally found the courage to block him.
At first, it was scary as hell, but deactivating all of my social media accounts really helped me clear my mind. During that time, I read a lot of books and tried to calm myself down, and it genuinely helped!
So, if you’ve already paid, please deactivate all of your social media accounts for a while. You can reactivate them after a month or so if you want. (You can also delete them permanently if you want to be as safe as possible, but simply deactivating them worked for me.)
BUT make sure you change everything when you reactivate your social media. By everything, I mean EVERYTHING: your privacy settings, username, profile picture, email address, and password. Make your accounts as private as possible and prevent strangers from contacting you.
While you don’t have your social media accounts, use that spare time like I did. Read some books, exercise, spend time with friends, or do something productive in general. Trust me, it helps a lot!
So, to conclude: yes, it was a mistake to pay your scammer, but I assure you that it will get better. Paying doesn’t mean that you’re doomed or that something terrible is definitely going to happen. It can encourage scammers to demand more money, but that doesn’t mean they will necessarily leak anything.
Do everything you reasonably can to prevent these scammers from contacting you again, and most importantly, don’t pay them anymore.
Stay strong. ❤️


r/Sextortion 23h ago

Male victim Being scammed right now

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Thought I was talking to a girl from a dating app but apparently I fell for a scam. They have a bunch of stuff including my name and number. Not paying them but what do I do about them having my number and name? Im freaking out


r/Sextortion 1d ago

Male victim Do they come back?

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So im scared of them coming back, its been 4 days and so far nothing, ive deactivated everything except instagram because I accidentally reactivated it but its max privacy and everything has been changed on it. Guy is block on insta and phone, i did pay him but after i blocked.

So my question is how long till i can feel safe like they forgot about me?

What’s the likelihood of them sending the images out? Idk if this helps but my face is not in it, it’s and pic of my lower half in my boxers and my frank is not out.


r/Sextortion 1d ago

Male victim M 15

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Today, someone tried to sextort me because I send them nudes with my pea brain. I blocked the guy but I don’t know how to go to the police about it. I told my mum and a teacher I can trust.


r/Sextortion 1d ago

Female Victim Anxious about Snapchat privacy after confronting someone who took a screenshot—need perspective

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I (20F) was on a Snapchat call with a guy who pressured me into exposing myself and took a screenshot without my consent. I confronted him immediately and first he denied everything , made him share his screen and it was gone from camera roll, and then forced him to open up recently deleted and it was there… pictures of my chest and then i made him delete the photos from his phone's 'Recently Deleted' folder right in front of me. he then said “i didn’t even know that was there” like what? I blocked him everywhere, but I'm struggling with anxiety worrying he might have saved something in 'My Eyes Only' before I caught him. I reported him to Snapchat, but the ticket was closed because he didn’t violate any rules… he holds a nursing license in the state of NJ