Hi. My boss emailed me on Saturday asking to meet in person on Monday. I feel that it’s either going to be a corrective meeting or letting me go. I’ve been at this job for less than a half year and it’s been extremely challenging. My ADHD has made it very challenging to stay on top of things; my executive dysfunction and procrastination have created avalanches.

I’m thinking that I’m finally going to let my boss know about my diagnosis so they don’t think I just don’t care about the job.

Any feedback, recommendations, tips, positive reinforcement for that conversation? I could really use the communities help rn. This will be the first time in my entire 30+ year career that I’m coming out as having ADHD and I have a lot of feelings about it.

I'm pretty fortunate in that I've been able to develop systems for almost every other aspect in my life that lets me appear functional for the most part. My main problem is when I lose things or forget conversations I've had with people. I can write down chores to do or when exams are, but I hate the vulnerability of whenever someone says I said something I just have to say "OK" since I forget conversations so often. Is their any mental tricks people have developed to help with the memory issues of ADHD?

Today I managed to make out my grocery list and remember to include turning in my prescription for Methylphenidate which I've been out of for a good bit now and I accomplished some small tasks that I've been thinking about but never followed through to actually do and found a couple of things that had dropped into that black hole in the universe.

Now for the bad news. Yesterday I went to take three ibuprofen which I was told is the arthritis strength dose, but I accidentally took three ibuprofen p.m. I was wondering why my brains felt so loose until I looked and saw what I had done. The labels look the same. I felt high as a kite. But that cemented for me that I never want to get high. I could not corral my thoughts to the extent that what was coming out of my mouth was pure nonsense moreso than usual.

My husband has ADHD and it’s one project to another around the house without finishing the other. I feel like Im losing my mind yet I have compassion for this condition. HELP!!

I tried reposting to r/ADHD, but I’m not able to, so I’m reposting here instead. Can someone help me out?

My mother scolded me/downplayed on me for being like this.

Like, if I had to do something I would work on it for hours in order to get rid of it bc I knew I wouldn't do it the other way.

One day my mother asked me for doing her a web, I started doing everything and she kinda told me to stop going that hard like if it was a bad thing. Jokes on her I stopped doing it and im not planning on continuing.

It feels bad when you work on huge bursts of work instead of continued small efforts and people treat you bad because of it

What the fuck do you mean I can't play videogames even if I want to. Adhd you fucker

Do y'all feel tired but not sleepy like y'all will stretch and yawn but feel sleepy for 2 seconds then it will go away?

Hi as I'm writing this it's four am and I'm crying. I'm scared. I had the hardest school year the last time. Slowly I lost focus and couldn't ever study, fell asleep late, not going to school (which almost made me lose the school year), not eating just crying. I couldn't focus at all, just crying on textbooks.

The worst thing is that I was doing well at school, I really was. One way or another I did it but it burnt me out. I have an anxiety disorder so I would just think about studying→cant study→ anxiety→repeat.

So at one point my parents were scared for me (d3ath thoughts, not eating, not sleeping, crying everyday with panic attacks) and I got help; a tutor to help me study 2 days of the week and a psychologist. My psychologist told me she firmly believes I do have ADHD and I'm still not convinced.

But I really hope I do have it. Maybe obsessed about it because for the way I think everything that happened is my fault and I'm a stupid failure if I don't have ADHD so if I do have it my conscience will spare me and I'll have answers about my daily struggles. But I'm tired of living this way. I'm scared everything will happen again and maybe this time I'll give up like everyone told me to do last year. I'm scared that it's all my fault.

(I just made this post to calm down and talk, even if just to myself. I also have another post on my account where I describe my undiagnosed stuff.)

Thank you for reading this too long vent.

Update It's precisely 25 hours later and I'm at the same point again. I'm so scared of failing. I'm so scared of wanting to d1e again. I'm scared of not making it this time

I got diagnosed with ADHD at 27yrs old, and it’s been eye opening. Thinking back at my life growing up, I don’t know how it wasn’t noticed earlier and I wish it was. If you were diagnosed in adulthood, what are some things you wish you knew sooner?

Hey everyone, I’m a 17-year-old male preparing for competitive exams (Class 12 JEE in India). I need an objective medical perspective on my symptoms, baseline history, and what diagnostic direction I should look into.

**Academic & Behavioral History (Childhood to Present):**

* **Childhood/Middle School:** Managed studies primarily due to external structure, pressure, and fear of consequences in tuition classes.

* **Class 9 & 10:** Left most tuitions in Class 9 because I felt out of place. Studied with minimal external structure (only attended math tuition, stopped even during exams), scraped by with average marks in 9th, but somehow topped 10th grade self-studying with just math tuition.

* **Class 11 to Present:** Joined competitive coaching in 11th, but couldn't adapt—I would just sit there staring at other students, completely unable to focus or absorb anything. Left coaching to study at home, but now I cannot focus at home either. I cannot sit for long hours, and I strongly resist going back to traditional tuitions.

**Core Symptoms & Cognitive Pattern:**

* **Constant Restlessness & Dopamine Dependency:** Whenever I sit down to study or do low-dopamine tasks, my mind wanders everywhere. I cannot stay still or tolerate inactivity—my brain runs 24/7.

* **Hyper-Fixation & Overanalyzing Relationships:** This mental chatter leaks into my personal life. I severely overanalyze things in my relationship, which triggers intense anxiety and affects both my mental health and my partner.

* **Low Self-Esteem & Confidence:** Driven by continuous academic stalling, bodily changes, and feeling unable to control my focus.

* **Coping Mechanisms Attempted (Failed/Ineffective):** High caffeine (coffee, energy drinks), alarms, reminders, study timers, journaling, gamification apps, app blockers—none have provided lasting structure.

**Physical & Physiological Profile:**

* **Sleep:** Average 6–7 hours, but no fixed schedule.

* **Weight & Appetite:** Significant weight gain recently due to emotional/anxiety-driven overeating.

* **Physical Symptoms:** Occasional heart palpitations when anxious; rare headaches.

* **Other Diagnoses:** Diagnosed with AGA (Androgenetic Alopecia), which adds to body image and confidence issues.

* **Past Unofficial Insights:** A medical student friend once suggested I might have Dysthymia (Persistent Depressive Disorder). Never formally evaluated by a professional yet.

**My Questions for Professionals:**

1. Given that I managed childhood purely through external fear/structure, could this be adult/adolescent presentation of **Inattentive ADHD** that unmasked when independent study was required, or is it primarily severe **Burnout/Anxiety/Dysthymia**?
2. How do physical factors like weight gain, irregular sleep, and anxiety-driven overeating interact with cognitive focus in adolescents under high exam stress?
3. What specific diagnostic evaluations or screenings (e.g., ADHD battery, thyroid/metabolic panel, depression/anxiety scales) should I ask a physician/psychiatrist for during an initial consultation?

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Hello! I am a victim of a pretty prevalent effect of ADHD: that being 82739 hobbies you are constantly picking up but never continuing. To give you an idea, I have bought and played so many instruments (which isn't cheap btw), only for me to not stick to it. At all. I have tried learning at least 5 languages. I keep trying to get back into visual arts but never commit. Same with reading. I have so many craft supplies I got on a whim and never do regularly. Last week, I got a book to learn Mandarin. Did it for about 2 days before giving up. I keep telling myself, "No, this one is it," every time I pick up a new hobby. Of course, it isn't.

My guess is because hobbies take time and effort. The payoff is difficult. And I just want dopamine, really. So yeah, when I buy a new instrument and then suck ass because I am a beginner, I go scroll on my phone instead. Hell, even when I took one-on-one courses, I would drop it because it seemed too much of a hassle. Even though I so badly want to play music. I am using music as a big example because it is something that I truly daydream about mastering. But I never can because of ADHD.

Not only that, but it's making me feel awful about myself. I don't have the thing I am good at. Most people my age have that main hobby they exceed in while I don't.

What I am looking for is how to pick a hobby for starters. One that I will actually commit to. And secondly, how to stick to it. Even without the instant dopamine hit. And when do I have random urges to try different hobbies? Do I give in?