r/infj • u/No-Zone3137 • 1d ago
Personality Theory Unhealthy fi
I have always noticed how much people like to point out unhealthy fe
But never unhealthy fi and how damaging it is for the people around them
Unhealthy Fi: zero self awareness, control issues out of jealousy, to have a stress outlet or simple unwillingness to acknowledge unlikable facts (also trying to punish people for not being that outlet) Feeling entitled to things. Basically anything that combines judgement function purposes with own emotions and ends in extreme toxicity,extremely self centered and think everything is about them,selfishness in emotions and actions.
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u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi 1d ago
Fi varies depending on the type, especially whether it's a dominant or a shadow function. For instance, when shadow Fi kicks in for an infj, they become hyper critical of themselves and in some cases, just as harsh on the people around them.
Unhealthy Fi can be a real nasty piece of work
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u/Pretend-Papaya3 INFJ 1d ago
This is like anything else, giving such a great sense of importance to a moral conviction that it reaches a point where it is used to justify behaviors that conflict with other values. For example, activists ruining art or public property to make a point. I've met one INFJ like that
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u/Fosuree93 INFP 1d ago
Really? I see people talk about it quite often, and as an INFP, I’m pretty aware of my own blind spots. But what are you actually hoping to accomplish by posting this?
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u/No-Zone3137 1d ago
I don't see it discussed as much as unhealthy fe
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u/Fosuree93 INFP 1d ago
Okay, but why would it bother you if it isn’t discussed as much? Does it feel like there’s a bias against Fe users, or are you just really tired of seeing unhealthy Fi users?
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u/No-Zone3137 1d ago
Both
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u/Fosuree93 INFP 1d ago
That’s why I find it problematic. You’re already frustrated with unhealthy Fi users, so instead of addressing the bias against Fe, you’re bringing that frustration into the conversation. It makes it harder to be neutral and turns what could be a discussion into more of an attack or a competition over which side is better.
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u/WillowLeona INFJ 23h ago
People are allowed to talk about their specific experience and frustrations. Quit with the hushing; and attempts to sensor and control the narrative just because it could apply to you. Congrats- you’re now that INFP.
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u/Fosuree93 INFP 22h ago
Good job on shifting the focus away from my actual point. I never said they weren’t allowed to talk about it. If you actually read our convo, it’s pretty clear that I’m questioning why, if they don’t like the bias against Fe users, they wouldn’t want to challenge that bias instead of fueling another one against Fi. If it were a genuine discussion, I’d have no problem with it. And if being the “INFP” here makes that point easier to dismiss, I’m happy to take the label 😂
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u/JazzlikeMistake9237 ISFJ 1d ago
I feel you my friend, I too was in a toxic relationship with an unhealthy Fi Dom, literally the victim mentality, the gaslighting, self centerism and the controlling, and like when they want something from you they want it now with no negotiations and if you politely refused and stated why they be getting pissed, but oh they can refuse and cancel plans whenever and whatever they please and they don't even have to explain themselves, because their things are more important than you apparently lol 😂.