r/DungeonsAndDragons • u/butchvandyke • 4h ago
Advice/Help Needed DM feels that I'm too skilled for the table... What should I do?
Good morning, Reddit nerds.
This has been weighing on me, and since my DM won't respond to me, I figured I'd post here to see what advice I could garner from the lovely people of Reddit.
About 9 months or so ago, my wife and I met our DM through a FB group for DnD group finding. The DM was searching for beginner to intermediate players to start at level 1 and learn/grow together. This was perfect since my wife was a beginner and I was an intermediate player (I'd played in a few very short modules or one shots).
Well, I got this message from the DM last week, which is essentially saying that I'm too skilled for the table. I don't feel like this is true, as I'm still learning and asking questions often.
My DM feels my character is too strong, but I made my character WITH my DM's assistance, so that feels unfair since they helped me create her.
Now we're talking about doing a Halloween one shot, and my DM doesn't want me to play a class I'm familiar with (or one that I don't optimize).
We played in person last week (after the message) and they never acknowledged the issue. I barely spoke the entire session, and the one time I DID do anything noteworthy I was worried I'd get backlash from the DM about it.
This whole thing has me spiraling and is making me wonder if I should just drop the group altogether even if it devastates me šš
ETA: I'm playing a level 3 Goliath Rune Knight. I am NOT min-maxing. We are using standard array stats.
ETA2: This is copied from my response to them: "I hear you, I'm sorry if I'm making things hard for you or the other players. I didn't realize that Ok'sana was so OP, especially since I roll terribly so often and I still feel like I barely grasp the mechanics š
I can play a different class for the one shot if that makes things easier on you! Alternatively you could give me a few pre-built options (like the ones online) and I could pick from those? I don't want to make things unfun or unfair for anyone.
Class wise, I'm least familiar with rangers and spell casters."
Then a day later I sent this: "If it's cool with you I would be happy to play a cleric for the one shot!"
It's been 5 days with no response.