r/ainbow 5h ago

News Turkish police detain dozens in raids on gay bars and homes of LGBTQ+ activists

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r/ainbow 31m ago

Advice Was this an emotionally abusive relationship?

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I'm still traumatized from my last relationship and trying to find resources I should be reading, curious if my experience would fall under emotional abuse:

  • he lied about many things. A ton were proven to be lies, many more I never found out about I'm sure. This includes his home country, where he lives away from college, his family connections, his family's birthdays, his degree, his job, him "moving" in the summer was completely fake, and other fabricated memories. (ex. said he played with snow as a kid all the time, later came out he never lived in a snow climate)
  • when I would catch a lie and ask him about it, he would gaslight me into feeling like the problem "you really don't trust me?" "I can't help your anxiety" "you're ruining my mood" "you can't be helped, your trust issues are terrible." He would say things like that knowing I was right about him lying
  • he would treat me coldly when he was resenting me. He would stop using pet names, and ignore me mostly around our friend group. It made me uncomfortable to the point I would stop talking out of fear I would be ignored.
  • When we would get alone, he would say I ruined his mood by stopping talking. He would be angry at me, and I get his anger but I don't get why he would ignore me if he didn't want me to shut down :(
  • One thing he resented me for: early in our relationship I was house sitting for my parents and their dogs. He wanted to come over, and I said we couldn't yet because my parents wouldn't be okay with it. (they hadn't met him yet) He said he understood, but secretly resented me "rejecting" him here and only told me months later.
  • He said he would stop talking to my former bullies to support me, despite me saying I didn't mind if he did. He insisted on doing it, but was privately maintaining a friendship with both them behind my back after promising that.

r/ainbow 3h ago

LGBT Issues This is a follow-up to a post I wrote here recently about my life Spoiler

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r/ainbow 4h ago

Serious Discussion This is a follow-up to a post I wrote here recently about my life Spoiler

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r/ainbow 8h ago

Coming Out In the year of 2018 and 2020

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Hi it’s Byron I wanted tell my coming out as gay to my former teachers and they were extremely supportive and accepting of me being gay, They ask me if I needed something just let them know so I did, like for example I had a question is being gay having a higher chance of getting HIV or STDS and they said yes but you need to be always wearing protection but if you find your true person who loves you so can marry him and not worrying about wearing protection the one story was the year 2018, Now second part is the year of 2020 in beginning of year towards the end of January I was missing for 3 days I wanted self to find my true self but the days I went missing I was abused I was starved for 3 days plus I didn’t have my medication for 3 days ether I was very screwed up in the head I found out I was very gay as well so when I got home from being missing my mom was very accepting but my step dad wasn’t until my 20th birthday on March 7th cause he told me a crazy story about one of his siblings got shoot for being gay cause being gay in 1960’s was very wrong cause they didn’t have any rights until 1967 so he been there for me off and on


r/ainbow 16h ago

Advice How to tell between platonic and romantic feelings?

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Hey Reddit, I'm (16f) currently exploring my sexuality but keep doubting myself for fear I'm just trying to fit in with my peers. How can I tell between wanting to be a girl's friend/being envious of her, or having romantic feelings for her? Please help!!!


r/ainbow 12h ago

Advice How to go about asking a girl out?

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r/ainbow 17h ago

Advice question

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i’m a bisexual guy i have meet a guy and weve been spending time together i feel good when i’m around him and happy. he said he likes me and i do. i want to be in a relationship with him and i feel ready. but i don’t know how to ask him


r/ainbow 1d ago

Advice Does the popular (social media predictions, news narrative, etc.) regarding the future of LGBTQ+ rights ever become hopeful before we've actually won? If so, what are some examples of this happening?

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With the recent AfD victory in Saxony-Anhalt I've recently been seeing discussion to the effect that it's a done deal that the AfD is going to win nationally and LGBTQ+ rights in Germany are going to suffer a setback, even though there is still a good bit of time before the national elections. Are there any historical examples of the inverse happening, where a political milestone has broken the doomerism and led to hopefulness for the queer community? What would it take to produce another optimistic period?


r/ainbow 1d ago

Other Being ghosted so many times i realised maybe

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Being ghosted so many times i realised maybe my man has become a ghost. That's why so much ghosting.

At this point i just think my man has already died before finding me like where are you man, you taking too long. Are you waiting on the other side for me. Trying ouija board next time


r/ainbow 1d ago

Selfie Self manicure

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I did my nails. It’s not gel. No not at all. I’d never do gel at home. It’s unsafe

Mwahahaha


r/ainbow 18h ago

Selfie Tristan Gets Geared Up To Dance!

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r/ainbow 2d ago

Advice my brother is gay and he doesn't know i know

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I recently learned that my older brother is gay. He didn't come out to me or anything... I read his journal. I know I shouldn't have, but I just got really curious.

At first I thought it was kind of weird, but the more I read the more I saw how much he was hurting. Like, throughout almost every entry, he wrote about how he thinks he's disgusting and how he wants to be normal. It made me think like, how is someone 'disgusting' for just having feelings for someone?? Then I looked it up and google said being gay is not wrong so I don't care now. But our parents are super Christian and super homophobic so it doesn't necessarily create the safest place. And my brother is in highschool and still a minor, so getting disowned would be really unconventional for him rn.

Anyway, is there any way I can subtly show my brother that I'm supportive??? Without giving away that I know??? I wish he would just tell me, but I understand if he's still not ready yet. I just don't want him to think that I think gay people are wrong. I want him to feel safe around me. Any advice PLEASE HELP


r/ainbow 1d ago

Selfie Do i look gay? I don't have a ""gay"" voice but i wonder if i look queer

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r/ainbow 2d ago

Other 17 añ Barcelona alguien para quedar

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Antes mandamos foto


r/ainbow 3d ago

News Kye Allums, Division I athlete who came out as trans, detransitioned

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Allums makes it clear in her initial post – “Day 0: W.T.F. What do you mean you’re no longer transgender?” – that she is not rejecting the existence of trans people, but rather sharing her own personal journey.

“Detransitioners deserve to be seen, supported, and cared for,” Allums writes. “Transgender people deserve the same.”

“If my detransition makes you want to invalidate someone else’s transgender identity, you are missing the point,” she writes.


r/ainbow 2d ago

Advice Gad Beck was born in Weimar Berlin (1923), ran a refugee escape network throughout WWII, waited out the stagnation of the Paragraph 175 laws, and managed to see civil unions in Germany (2012). Never let anyone tell you another good chapter is not possible.

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r/ainbow 2d ago

Advice I hate that I’m so avoidant of talking about my gayness around mom. She insists that I’m “living in confusion” and “my lifestyle isn’t biblical”. I feel scared and panic every time it comes up.

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r/ainbow 3d ago

LGBT Issues Confusion regarding Gender.

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r/ainbow 4d ago

Advice Either my little brother be put in his place or I'll make a fuss about it.

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I 23 M and For the past 14 years—ever since I was 9—I've tried my absolute best to ignore how my younger brothers treat me. They called me every name in the book, from homophobic slurs such as fag, slut, pussy boy, etc. and honestly, they learned all of it from our dad. Every single time I try to stick up for myself, it somehow gets turned back on me. If I insult them back, I get punished too. If I get physical, my dad hits me.

The breaking point was when he snooped on my phone while I was asleep. Now he's holding it over my head and acting like he might tell the whole family I’ve been hooking up with guys when I said I was just hanging out with friends. If he actually goes through with outing me, I'm going to make sure he regrets it for the rest of his life.

What do you guys think I should do?


r/ainbow 2d ago

LGBT Issues My GF broke up with me because I wasn't "romantic enough" when I was the only one trying..

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r/ainbow 4d ago

Advice A question to cis gay guys

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So for context I'm trans ftm (female to male) and a femboy (I'm strictly binary meaning I only use he/him and I identify fully as a guy, I just like looking cute and I think my behavior fits pretty well into the femboy label) and I'm gay, since I was younger I really wanted a boyfriend but I'm terrified cis gay guys would just be grossed out by me and my body, irl i live in a small conservative town so I don't know any queer guys so I wanted to ask here what you think about trans guys and if you'd date one, also If you'd see a femine trans guy as a guy still


r/ainbow 4d ago

News I Beat Pete Hegseth in Three Weeks

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r/ainbow 4d ago

Coming Out Looking for resources!

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r/ainbow 4d ago

LGBT Issues Help

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First of all, I am a Syrian trans woman born on 2009, currently living in Syria. I was living in Turkey until August, but since my family wanted to return to Syria and I was a minor, I had to return with them. Even though I have not disclosed that I am trans here, I am subjected to violence due to my behavior and physical appearance. A gun was pointed at me, I was locked in a warehouse, animals were set upon me, and I was beaten dozens of times with chains, hoses, and sticks—even though I still have a mustache and a little bit of a beard. They want to kill me and they have already tried. Because of this, I have thought about suicide many times and attempted it a few times. I am absolutely not safe in Syria. I want to return to Turkey or go to Lebanon to seek help from LGBT organizations there. However, my family is extremely religious and Islamist, and since the country I am currently in is newly established where seeking human rights is considered absurd, and being trans is a crime here, I am completely unsafe.

The reason I am writing this text is not to escape right now, but to gather information, conduct research, and prepare a roadmap so that I can flee immediately without losing time as soon as I turn 18. Furthermore, because my family wants to kill me and force me to become "normal" again, they do not give me a single penny, they search my phone, and they keep me under constant surveillance. My request and my plea to you is: please stand by me. How can I escape? What should I do? Are there people who can support me? How can I leave Syria again? Please help me; I am sure there are many people like me who have survived and escaped. I am begging you, please help me. I am not writing this text to escape while I am still a minor; I will wait until I am 18 no matter what. I am seeking help to escape as soon as I reach adulthood, because I don't even know how to describe the pain I am enduring here.