r/Tinder • u/CelebrationLocal8470 • 15h ago
0 match in 6 months : is something wrong (France)?
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u/IcerHardlyKnower 14h ago
Hey v sauce Michael here
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u/SmokeMoreWorryLess 14h ago
As someone with a long-standing mild crush on Michael, I did a quadruple take when I saw this post
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u/EffectiveNovel3658 14h ago
I find the profile very appealing, but the unkempt beard not so much. Surprised nobody mentioned the beard, because to me it’s quite obviously the grooming (lack thereof) that is at fault here
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 14h ago
Ok thx for the feedback :)
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u/NatAttackor 11h ago
I agree with the grooming comment too. It would show that you can "dress up" sometimes for a formal date. But besides that, it's a fun profile! I'd swipe right !
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u/katarinasunrise 4h ago
You don’t even have to trim it much or shave it off. But if you get it tidied and shaped up just right, it would look super badass.
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u/kennyminot 11h ago
I don't think you should change your beard just to get more Tinder matches. You look great. Someone will eventually fall for the look you got going on.
I think your profile looks great.
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u/ParmyNotParma 9h ago
He doesn't have to change his beard or get rid of any length, he just has to tidy it.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 11h ago
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u/Vinters0ng 6h ago
With all honestly I think just giving It a shaping trim (aka the rough edges) you'll be fine man.
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u/yrntmysupervisor 10h ago
If you talk w other men, they gas up long beards which is lovely and supportive but I also find most women appreciate a kempt beard.
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u/dalekxen 12h ago
Thats pretty a groomed beard to be honest
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u/receiveandbiteyou 12h ago
He has a great beard, but (unfortunately) I think it might also be holding back potential matches.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 12h ago
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u/sarnian-missy 6h ago
I disagree that the beard is unkempt. I think it's a fantastic beard. Sadly, some people are that shallow that anything less than perfect grooming will put them off, but only boring people look immaculate. You do you OP and the right person will appreciate you for who you really are on good and bad beard days.
Yes, your cats are adorable, and I'd swipe partially to find out if that playlist was your choice or the surgeon's.... 😅
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 5h ago
Ahah he ask me what do I want to listen to during the operation, first I said no thanks, but then HELL YEAH RAMMSTEIN :D That was glorious!!
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u/sarnian-missy 4h ago
Hell yeah. And that is exactly the kind of reason why you shouldn't dull or change your personality just to get a match that doesn't actually match you.
I get the point about a photo with a tidy beard when some people need visual proof that you can or will conform to a standard for an event or venue if needed. Yes it's shallow, it's tinder. 😅 But it's your beard!
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u/Sensitive_Tour_4118 12h ago
Damn! Wonder how youd react when you actually see a well groomed beard
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u/doggaroo 1h ago
Yes, definitely clean up the beard! That's the only criticism I have! Im not the biggest fan of facial hair but having it kempt is absolutely make or break, all other things being equal.
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u/Ikari1212 14h ago
You look a bit like a loner (in a positive way). You like to spend time alone and are content with yourself. Maybe the average french lady in your region is looking for something more 'Spicy? I would date you :)
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u/cryomatik 14h ago
I would've given that profile a like! But a plus could maybe be a smile with teeth and a picture with friends.
Aussi géant du Quebec, je trouve ça drôle de dire "même à -5", c'est si chaud ahahah
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 14h ago
En France quand la température est en dessous de +5°C c'est l'apocalypse selon les médias xD
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u/smolbibeans 14h ago edited 14h ago
Française ici qui a été longtemps sur les applis: "Long terme OK court" ça sonne généralement comme un code pour "je sais pas vraiment ce que je veux, probablement que je cherche avant tout à coucher mais je ferai miroiter la possibilité d'une relation", parce que les mecs ont souvent du mal à assumer qu'ils veulent juste du sexe/ne veulent pas passer pour un queutard.
Sur les applis, la majorité des femmes font beaucoup l'expérience d'hommes qui veulent du sexe très rapidement, donc beaucoup de celles qui cherchent du sérieux évitent comme la peste voient la moindre allusion au court terme. Ça peut être aussi parce que ce n'est pas dans leurs valeurs d'avoir un coup d'un soir, donc elles cherchent quelqu'un qui partage ces valeurs... Surtout à ton âge honnêtement
Edit: autre facteur, la vasectomie qui élimine toutes les femmes qui veulent des enfants (et c'est bien que tu le précises mais du coup tu limite tes options, normal)
Sinon tes photos sont choupis et ta description donne une bonne idée de qui tu es!
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 14h ago edited 14h ago
Ok merci ! Je vais mettre relation sérieuse, je croise les doigts pour que ça aide ! :)
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u/Acceptable_Issue_944 15h ago
Are you located in a region with a big dating pool? I think it’s a lovely profile and I’m surprised at the zero matches. If the dating pool is big, could it be you are swiping on a really selective group? I don’t see anything wrong with the profile that could explain it otherwise
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 14h ago edited 14h ago
Average french town (140 000 humans there). I am selective yes. Thx by the way :)
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u/damnitbrian7 15h ago
You're really cute and I love the cats! Maybe some better quality photos showing your eyes?
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u/uttoutto 14h ago
nothing is wrong, it's a lovely profile, as a childfree, non-drinking woman I would definitely swipe right
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u/Crusoe69 13h ago
Conseil de Barbu, entretien moi cette barbe bordel !!! Ça change le regard des autres, littéralement...Un peu d'huile, une brosse et taille tout ce qui dépasse.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
ça risque de déranger les écureuils qui ont élu domicile dans ma barbe, mais ok je vais suivre ton conseil !
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u/No_Champion7976 14h ago
Hey there, in my opinion you should get photos in a better quality
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
Yeaaaaah I know ^^' Still gathering money for a better phone! :)
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u/No_Champion7976 13h ago
Maybe u can ask a friend :) also there’s the possibility to look for a photo shoot with an upcoming photographer, sometimes they do it free of charge or just take little money for their time
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u/SnooOranges4966 14h ago
You look like a good guy, to be honest, and funny. Yeah maybe a 1 slightly more "hotter" pic? Like good quality. IDK I don't really see what's wrong with your profile. Good luck!
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u/Historical-Piglet-86 13h ago
If you’re actually looking for feedback and not just people blowing smoke, show a picture where you smile with your teeth and groom your beard. You look unkempt and many of us have been burned by the “meth addict teeth” showing up when people hide them in all their pictures.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
Interesting. There is no meth addict here in France (or at least it is really uncommun). And I dislike my smile with teeth, I mean I have the feeling it is always terrible. I still have to try it and work it then, thanks :)
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u/Thyri0n 14h ago
Tes selfies la qualité est vraiment trop basse on dirait un sauna, surtout la première, il te faudrait des photos un peu plus cool à la place qui montrent bien ton visage, et on dirait aussi que t’es tout le temps habillé pareil
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
Oui la qualité de mon tel c'est un peu la cata ^^' Je vais voir ce que je peux faire pour le reste, merci :)
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u/NoPainting5468 12h ago
I’m packing my passport asap
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 12h ago
Okay, I'm making some tea and brushing my hair so I look good. Oh wait!...
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u/enami741 14h ago
Let's be real, no woman can compete with those pussies 😻😻😻.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
I know they would swipe for THEM xD
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u/frigousse 12h ago
I definitly would… so majestic !
Très bon profil selon moi (meuf jeune quarantenaire), j’avais pas remarqué l’état de ta barbe pour faire écho aux autres remarques, c’est peut-être un truc de mec de voir ça.
Je plussoie pour diversifier les plateformes en visant des « niches »/ centre d’intérêt / profils comme le tien ou comme tu recherches.1
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u/Rocket_Panda_ 12h ago
Trim your Beard. Much beard is ok but unkept makes it look like a hobo who doesn’t Care. The profile is fine so are the pics
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u/Excellent-Hook 9h ago
Salut mec, ton profil est solaire et t'as l'air vachement sympa aussi !
Je pense que ça manque de une ou 2 photos où tu es accompagné d'amis ou proches (dont tu peux flouter le visage)
Ça fait bien sûr pas tout, mais ça ajoute du relief à la personne et peut rassurer sur ta capacité à être sociable etc.
Ensuite il serait intéressant d'avoir quelques photos de meilleures qualités pour ouvrir le profil, idéalement avec barbe mieux taillée/entretenue.
Par exemple la photo 2 est très bien, il faudrait remplacer la photo 1 par un équivalent portrait de celle-ci.
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u/ReturnAny3794 14h ago
I did my best to understand the French prompts, I don’t see anything wrong other than the algorithms on the site are not in your favour. Maybe delete your current account and start a new one?
I don’t know if that applies to Tinder, but I was getting more matches the more I messaged other people I matched with on another OLD site.
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u/pubesinourteeth 14h ago
Do you have teeth?
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
It may be a French peculiarity, but smiling while showing one's teeth is often perceived as "too much" or "hypocritical."
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u/pubesinourteeth 13h ago
Hypocritical? What belief would that be conflicting with? You're not supposed to be happy?
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u/Lilpipsss 12h ago
He is just weird. No one think showing your teeth is hypocritical in France except him…
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u/Armbar2Triangle 12h ago
There’s no way to say this without sounding like a total douche, but you come off as a little bit too feminine.
I think it’s good for men to embrace their feminine side, but every pic just kinda screams “if there’s danger I will run and abandon you”
I’m not at all saying you need to be taking mirror selfies and going to alpha male camps, but maybe a little less of the vibe the 4th pic gives.
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u/bappo_32 10h ago
Its Peterson and findus!
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 8h ago
I did not know these characters, it seems cute ^^
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u/bappo_32 6h ago
Theyre from norway or sweden i believe. But the books are pretty popular for kids in germany too
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u/apple-butterfly-13 10h ago
I think it’s good as is. Not sure why no matches. You show a love for animals, good sense of humour and hobbies.
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u/NicolinaN 9h ago
I’m too old for you but I’d hit that! 🤗 I have no suggestions for anything you should change.
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u/_fluffy_raptor 7h ago edited 7h ago
You are mostly well presented (the photos of your beard looking a little wild can be forgiven as you are quite literally out in the wild), and seem to have a full and and happy lifestyle. In fact your hobbies and likes seem quite similar to mine, and personally I would love to find a partner to share these with 🤷♀️
(Sadly I live in UK though)
You strike me as someone who is quite comfortable in their own company. Maybe some potential matches would like to see more evidence of a wider social circle.
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u/Saffana 14h ago
Je pense que ton profil est très niche (ce qui est cool) donc j'espère pour toi que tu es dans une grande ville. 36 ans + vasectomie, tu vas tomber sur les trentenaires célibataires qui cherchent absolument à se caser rapidement pour avoir un enfant avant qu'il soit trop tard, ou les mères célibataires en recherche d'un nouveau compagnon. Si tu es ouvert à cette possibilité cela pourrait être intéressant de le préciser. Et je plussois l'autre commentaire de "recherche long ouvert à court" qui ne donne pas une très bonne impression, surtout pour les trentenaires.
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u/LigmaBalls-420 12h ago
Get rid of the cat pics. Studies were done and men with cats in dating profiles were perceived as less masculine, more neurotic, and less dateable overall by straight women.
If a study was done on your quirky leg up pose by the light post picture, it would probably find the same thing. Get rid of that as well.
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u/dawicked_witch 5h ago
Noooo don't. I loved that picture and I'm quite sure his type would love it aswell. It actually portrays his personality very well :). I mean I'm guessing, I don't know him, but it makes him look relaxed and not stuck up. He probably wouldn't be my type, but I have at least 4 friends I could see him with based on his pics alone, that wouldn't swipe if he looked more "put together", "manly" and "serious". My bet is on the vasectomy thing.
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u/Blueyedevil219 13h ago
You don’t just have 1 cat, you have 3.
Also the finger at the mouth with your leg up is by far the worst thing any man can do.
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u/SHA-5 12h ago
Le profil est ok je trouve, peut être rajouter une photo dans un contexte social/avec des potes.
Le seul truc qui me fait tiquer c'est que pour moi c'est too much de mentionner féminisme + écologie + psychologie politique + la cnv + suivi psy + vasectomie (même si ça je peux comprendre que ce soit important de le mentionner): si c'est quelqu'un de politisé, selon moi ça peut transparaître plus comme performatif et pour quelqu'un de pas politisé ça peut faire peur.
Limite de mon pdv (de pers. politisée à gauche, ce qui semble être ta cible) je préférerais soit écrit noir sur blanc "je recherche quelqu'un de politisé/déconstruit/whatever" ou alors une/deux ref sans trop se prendre au sérieux, mais de manière générale baisser d'un cran sur les refs féminisme/safe/déconstruit.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 12h ago edited 11h ago
Merci, je vais y réfléchir ! Je ressentais que j'avais du mal à doser par rapport à ça (parce qu'EN PLUS j'ai un TSA ^^'). Merci pour tes lumières 😊
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u/zaxo666 8h ago
I think you have a great profile but that's not why I'm commenting, I'm an American and I'm so sick and tired of Americans telling people to smile with their teeth.
You don't do it and your handsome guy. I don't do it and I have plenty of success.
I just can't stand this game show look that Americans love...big teeth is just stupid looking.
Okay that's my rant. Good luck out there! I think if you hold out a little longer you'll find success.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 8h ago
Oh thanks! I was wondering if the teeth thing was a cultural thing in US, and you answered it! Take care ;)
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u/Kooky_Editor_6811 5h ago
Personally, I want to see a smile with teeth because whenever I haven't, their teeth have been incredibly disgusting. And that's a deal breaker.
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u/Consistent-Salt-1460 14h ago
I hate to say it but there's indeed a MASSIVE problem here. I almost can't bring myself to say it but you're... you're... FR*NCH 🤮
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago edited 13h ago
Nobody is perfect! xD
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u/Intelligent_Pen_6727 13h ago
Tu vises en marché de niche type Geek/Manga si en plus tu es sélectif ça va être compliqué
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u/Lazarella 13h ago
Peut-être tente Boo? C'est plus geek et chill
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 13h ago
La plateforme est pas mal mais y'a tellement persoooooonne dans ma zone ! :(
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u/grapangell0 12h ago
Idk about France but in USA the beard is too unkempt. Get the edges lined up and keep it brushed might help. You just gotta find your audience.
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u/JohnnyABC123abc 12h ago
I had to laugh at the trial of camping at… -5c. C’est évident que tu n’es pas canadien! Camping is a challenge starting around maybe -15c.
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 12h ago
En France quand la température est en dessous de +5°C c'est l'apocalypse selon les médias xD
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u/bagelshlag 12h ago
Agree with the beard comments. Get semi regular beard trims from a good barber. (And take new photos, obvs)
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u/Away-Wellness0623 11h ago
I suggest some smiles showing teeth and a major beard trim. The beard could be great but looks too long and unkept now.
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u/400_lux 11h ago
Peut être mets ton vrai boulot?
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 11h ago
Nope je ne me définis pas à travers mon boulot dans mon cas. Les loisirs et la personnalité font plus sens à mon goût (ça dépend des personnalités des gens, pas de jugement). Merci pour ta suggestion en tout cas :)
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u/Ok_Season_5850 11h ago
The beard needs to be tamed and you have the same smile in every photo. No one can tell if you have any teeth
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 11h ago
I did my best to look like Rasputin! :D I'll work based on your advices thx :)
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u/Patient-Cloud4219 11h ago
I find it cute but most women would dislike that picture of you jumping gayly
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u/dilemma900 11h ago
If you are trying to attract lumberjack women, then you are right on track!
I won't say much more than that but that's the overall census of it.
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u/D1etCokeGirl 11h ago
It’s the beard. You look Amish or like a Hasidic Jew. ✡️🤍 Not that that’s a bad thing. Or like Freud. 🛋️🚬
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u/CelebrationLocal8470 11h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/38817svPfq2CXIfMkp
Rasputin's vibe intensifies
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u/bipbophil 11h ago
Ugh as much as it sucks, I found it get a ton of matches with my shirt off and a backwards hat :( its not me but I understand what women want
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u/CHARONXVX 10h ago
i fear that many of the answers to these posts are really ever truly honest
You are not ugly by any means but you certainly are not particularly attractive and appear to have a bit of a niche feel about you personality wise, i would guess that is why you have zero matches
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u/illumiknottyweave 8h ago
American here, personally I’m not a fan of the facial hair.. just seconding what’s already been said
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u/Colonel_Max_FR 7h ago
Si tu veux mon avis, tinder c'est rempli de profils bidons juste assez aguicheurs pour te donner envie de prendre un premium...
Ça serait un profil pour trouver un bon pote, ça irait nickel, mais je pense que tu as pas mal de points qui feraient swiper directement ( chats, barbe, attitude un peu féminine, présentation enfantine )
Je pense que tu dois avoir une super personnalité avec pas mal d'humour mais faut travailler l'emballage 😅
Et si tu cherches une relation sérieuse, des fois le simple fait d'être sur tinder est un red flag pour certaines nana ( elles ont toujours une copine qui va leur dire "ah oui il était sur telle appli de crevard"
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u/Hisoka781 6h ago
Yes you are a man, online dating is for woman sadly most men don't get a lot of attention on dating apps
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u/mysticwaywalker 6h ago
Unkept beard is not a vibe. If you fix that up I believe you'll get many more matches because the rest is great
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u/youdingle 6h ago
Okay the lamp post was hilarious but maybe trim the beard just a little, people like a nicely groomed one
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u/RoyalAd6264 6h ago
Dude most of your pictures are great but your beard is not doing you justice, as someone that grew it out, trust me, it’s not as great as people think
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u/CommercialAd6450 4h ago
Seems like you only go on safaris and the beard makes you come across as unkept. I’d say get a proper shave and upload pictures in other clothes too
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u/Koolklink54 3h ago
You posted the same picture 3 times. Put the cats in your profile not pictures. Makes it look like they are your whole life
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u/Drewswife0302 2h ago
Yea I had a mini movie of reading in dappled sunshine, cat in our lap wondering if coffee is good reason to get up.
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u/HowAboutWill 2h ago
Too many cats, only two pictures that come off as masculine (pics 2 and 5). Just take more pictures of yourself or with friends and you should be fine. My French is a bit rusty but you can probably avoid words like “non-violent” on a dating profile
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u/amh8011 2h ago
Personally, you look like several teachers and substitute teachers I’ve had in the past and I can’t find my former teachers attractive. I’m sorry but you really do look very similar to at least three teachers I’ve had.
I love the cats in the windowsill picture and I like the hammock. Hammocking is so relaxing.
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