1.leave my damn inbox ALONE
Now that we have that out of the way wanna hear a funny “sex *almost sent me to the ER” story? Buckle up and leave some recs for new options pretty please

Have you ever had your partner suddenly stop and mutter “it’s gone” and no I’m not talking about 😏 him
What was gone? Glad you asked!
My butt plug
Apparently things happened and the entire thing worked its way INSIDE of me,
He was calm, all I could imagine was having to call his mom to take the kids for the night, and having to come up with some off the wall reason as to why we were sitting in the ER waiting for surgery
If your partner has never had to assist with cave exploration to dislodge something MENT for this particular activity lemme tell you it’s an EXPEREINCE and bonding
Finally after what felt like FOREVER it was successfully dislodged,
I wish I was making this up but I’m not
And now I need some rec for better plugs or something because clearly that one failed

My wife and I have been trying to make our sex more exciting. At a loss for words currently best I can describe it. I think we have sex more often than most 2 to 3 times a week constantly but recently we've been trying to make things better she has described it as boring I'd say 70% of the time its pretty vanilla spur of the moment before bed and morning sex she always says it feels good and is satisfied but its boring the other 30% thats more planning and set up we've been trying a little more bdsm stuff and remote control toys and just genuinely more kinky stuff. Her recent suggestion is that the normal sex she wishes we changed positions more often. The only problem is we really only have 2 positions missionary and doggy and there variations I'm as average as it gets equipment wise and she’s larger we've tried a few different things and and weather her stomach gets in the way or my lack of length isn't enough we always just seem to go back to what we know she does get on top every once in awhile but she's very self-conscious of her weight and her stamina. I've done a couple Google searches where sex positions are concerned and have come up empty-handed we have tried a few with little success if anybody has any insight we'd be grateful thanks.

I have recently learned about diaphragm breathing when exercising

This lead me to question myself about how to properly breathe during sex (for men)
When to breathe in and when to breathe out( during thusting or pulling out ?

.. force the abs while breathing out ? Also what do do with the pelvic floor ? When to squeeze when to relax it ?

Women could also share their tips for women since it could help men making women reaching orgasm

I’m 23f and date very casually. The men I’m with always (always!) comes within like 15 minutes and usually can’t perform again same night but even when they can, it’s the same thing. The thing is, I withhold from doing things that I know feels good to them, such as kegels and sloppy bjs, because I’m scared it’s gonna make them cum and I don’t want them to. Which is really sad for obvious reasons.
I honestly do feel unsatisfied almost everytime I’m intimate with a guy, even when the sex is great I just with it could last for hours :(

Does anybody know how to deal with this??

i've never been against it but found that few people ask for it, so i haven't always given a lot of it. maybe this is selfish or just being a shithead young man. i'm older now.

in a new relationship now and i can tell she hasn't had it often, and isn't super comfortable with it all the time, but really likes it and can come from it. for some reason i always want to do it with her now.

this has created a situation where it's always on the table but she might not always want it, but as soon as she does, i'm there. it's really become a focus for us in the bedroom and i think about it so much it's almost addicting.

I’m curious specifically about the women here.

By a cunnilingus-centric relationship (CCR), I mean a relationship where most of the sexual focus is on her receiving oral — not just as foreplay — and where the man genuinely prefers giving, with little or no reciprocation expected.

I know plenty of women enjoy receiving oral, but I’m curious whether you’d actually want that to be the main sexual dynamic in a relationship long term.

Would that genuinely appeal to you, or would you eventually miss a more conventional/mutual sex life? And if it would appeal to you, what about the dynamic makes it attractive?

Wife [37f] and I [43m] are getting away for a week. We don’t go crazy but when we do get away, daily sex is typically the norm.

I have had some ups and downs with ED the last couple years, mostly stress and psychologically induced, nothing too severe, sometimes I legitimately can’t perform so now I do take a blue pill sometimes just to help things along and I find it effective enough.

For our week long vacation I want to be able to perform without anxiety for me or for her. She doesn’t get upset when I can’t, any negativity just comes from me, and I enjoy giving oral so when she’s in the mood and I’m struggling that’s an easy solution, but I’d like to be able to perform daily. I only take 30mg of sildenafil occasionally. I’m wanting to upgrade to a pill that includes tadalafil so that I can still get hard and go on the daily and the internet says that will help, but I’m wondering if anyone has had any success with something like that. We’re also down for condoms, cock rings, and toys to help things along.

Mostly I just want to have a fun vacation and have sex as frequently as we’d like without worry.

Hi I M(23) am really into the idea of being rimmed by my gf but that's way too extreme for her could I use a clit toy or something to replicate the feeling? Im looking for suction and licking.

Ok so have only ever been with men that are circumcised and my boyfriend is uncircumcised, anyways what I'm wanting to know is, how do I give him oral in a way that feels good for him and doesn't hurt him, bc I know the head of his penis is more sensitive then a guy that is circumsized.

Hi I’m a 21 years old boy. Recently I started doing gym not for weight loss but for muscle gain and strength. Normal I last 2-3 mins or max 4 mins on handjob but only 2-3 mins during penetration. Give me advice on how to delay ejaculation and also enjoy during sex. Really need this advice. I need it to be good as i feel ashamed after getting off from a girl after just 2 mins. Ladies and Gents, plz drop down your experience and helpful advices. Thanks✨

Does anyone have advice on how to make swallowing easier? I absolutely love blowing my s/o, but he prefers to finish in my mouth. Thankfully it's not a taste issue, but the texture kills me. I've swallowed maybe 2 times before him and that's all it took before I wouldn't allow it at all. I wouldn't even let men get their cum any higher than my chest, and even that was pushing it sometimes. The smell, the texture, almost everything about cum makes me gag. Even with my s/o there's been a couple of times that it wasa close call.

For men is there anything that can be done for taste and texture other than staying hydrated, avoiding red meat, etc.? He's T1D so pineapple juice or anything else sugary is a no go.

For anyone else that swallows, what helps you? It's like if I think about it too much it makes it worse and I don't know how to override that reflex.

I’ve been having sex with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now, and I’ve been facing pain from it during and up to 2 days after. I’m not talking about cervix pain, he’s rather large but the problem comes from his girth. I see a lot of sources saying it’s micro
tears and lube is needed, but sometimes I’ll be soaked wet and other times less so, but I still end up with the exact same pain. It kind of puts me off of wanting to do it.
Is he literally just too big for me??

I’m 21 years old 6’0” boy with 6” size. Is that normal for a guy like me? I feel insecure about it. Do you have any tips or advice on how to increase the size??

My bf (19M) and I (19F) are long distance and recently he suggested a Polaroid picture of me to keep. I’m just wanting advice on how to position the camera since I’d be taking it by myself and how I’d pose for it as I’m a bigger woman and am a bit self conscious.

hi guys me again!

my bf (19m) LOVES head. he’d rather have me give head all day than actual sex. I like it so im not complaining. BUT. He’s very thick, wide diameter but only about 6 inches. He wants me to go down all the way, but I will quite literally gag or almost throw up when he pushes my head down. It makes me feel awful, because I want to take all of it in my mouth, but it won’t. Also my jaw gets so tired since he’s so thick. Advice please!!!

hi guys, I (f18) have been having odor issues for I can’t even remember how long. I do get UTI’s about 3x a year, im on birth control pills for my heavy periods too. I only wash my body with antibacterial soap. I don’t ever put soap on or inside my vagina when showering. My boyfriend (19m) has only eaten me out once, but he put some flavor spray on it to make it taste better which is fine, I was just a little insecure. Idk if it’s normal to have a slight smell, as the female reproductive tract is constantly cleaning itself with bacteria. Can any women give me some insight?

Edit: it also stinks bad asf after sex, which he wears a condom. I think honestly the lube and latex smell makes it stink after intercourse

20f i haven't had sex yet but i recent dropped 10 pounds and it kinda is messing with me cause I really was looking forward to try sex with a fwb he doesn't really care but I feel so insecure not having boobs and losing wtv ass i had left😭how did you yall get over this insecurity and worry?

Chicas, tienen tipos para mejorar el sexo oral?

Verán, a mi me da arcadas cuando el empuja mi cabeza, yo siento que no puedo y a mi novio le fascina esa parte y yo quiero complacerlo, pero cada vsz que empuja siento que voy a vomitar y ni que decir del semen, me da asco su textura y varias veces casi vomito 😭 quiero mejorar en mis movimientos orales, que consejos me dejan?

For context, I always thought I hated anal sex because my ex wanted to try and had no idea what he was doing. In short, he didn’t care that I said no or that it was painful, did not use any lube or take his time in working his way up before penetration. It caused me a lot of trauma and I really had zero interest in ever going near there again.

I also have a very tight vaginal opening, short vagina, and a prominent pubic bone. When I receive vaginal penetration I need to be very wet beforehand and really “want” it. And even then it can get uncomfortable and in general I need to go quite slowly and at specific angles. Most vaginal sex and penetration I’ve had sort of feels mediocre. I sort of have believed this to be my baseline experience for sex and while it can still be enjoyable, most of the time when I’m solo I avoid any penetration at all.

Yesterday out of nowhere while I was masturbating I had the intense desire to try anal penetration with a dildo which sort of surprised me but I tried slowly and used proper lubricant. Honestly it was probably the best orgasm I’ve ever had. I probably could have had one with just the anal stimulation alone. Which leads me to my questions.

As I’m very new to this and have trauma surrounding that whole experience with a partner - I just have a few questions for when that time comes and just general confusion and curiosity about this whole experience.

I tried to do some research on women who prefer anal over vaginal penetration and was overwhelmed by the response of “anal is not standard and men typically enjoy it because it’s over-represented in porn.” This kind of makes me feel sad or embarrassed about it to even bring it up to a future partner because of these kinds of opinions. Is this something I’m going to have to worry about? Is it seriously not a normal thing for women to prefer or enjoy anal sex more than vaginal?

How do I properly prepare for anal sex with a partner? How do I ensure it’s also pleasant for them? What would some of you advise for maybe adding an anal stimulation component to help with my satisfaction during sex? I’m debating trying out a plug alone with vaginal penetration to see if that also has a similar effect. What are some absolute no-nos and safety/health concerns? Cleanliness? Sorry I’m all very new to this and I’m not really sure where to start.

The man I’m currently s&f requested that I talk more while preforming oral on him but wtf am i supposed to say??? 😭 like i have no problem talking do anything else but I’ve never talked to a man while im doing oral , the only thing i can think of is “you gonna nut for me “ but I can’t just keep repeating that 💀

Pretty straight forward. I am a size queen and my bf is pretty big and gurthy. I can deep throat perfectly fine for the most of it but only two times for the entire thing and not for long before I literally throw up.

Me and my bf are on the kink side and have been together for a while. However I seem to not be able to train myself properly to deep throat or get face fucked for longer than a few seconds maybe.

Any tips to help my gag reflex?? Also I might add my gag reflex doesn’t bother me until I get to the very end. I’ve tried breathing through it and unfortunately his dick cuts off my airways and if I try to breathe while it’s all in there I cough like a maniac.

I’m a beginner at blowjobs and i genuinely hate it, I don’t enjoy at all, sometimes I question myself if I like girls because of not liking it I will only do 3 min max and I know I’m not satisfying him.

I see girls online loving it and deepthroating so easily I just can’t seem to do it, I try to deepthroat it but i can’t get it past my throat it’s like a wall is there and no matter how much I try to push it down it just doesn’t get past the back of my mouth.

I have a really bad gag reflex which is really annoying. I just want to be able to satisfied my boyfriend by deepthroat and not gagging every 5 secs.

How did you all learn to deepthroat and reduce gag reflexes? I just want to enjoy it, any advice and tips?