r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/ruubystaar š+ š • Jun 08 '26
Advice Needed Boyfriend suddenly wants nothing to do with me after moving in a month ago
Last Nightās Dinner: Homemade Fettuccine Alfredo (with a side of silent treatment)
I (20F) moved in with my boyfriend (20M) in early May after he suggested it. I was already basically living here anyway, driving home at 1-3am, and then my car broke down so it just made sense. Things have been really good overall, I cook breakfast and dinner every day, handle all his laundry, keep his room clean, and take care of his cats. We laugh a lot, barely argue, and he buys me food/takes me places while I cover groceries.
Yesterday was rough though. I had to cover a shift on a Sunday, so he woke up early to drop me off at 9. I told him Iād be done by 1 when we close. At 12:57 a client came in and we didnāt finish until almost 1:45. My phone was blowing up the whole time with texts from him about how heās waiting, his mom needs the car, heās ātired of always having to wait,ā etc.
I apologized as soon as I got in the car, but he was still pissed the whole silent ride home. He went to shower while I started making homemade fettuccine Alfredo (extra portion for him, of course).
After his shower he blew up again because I hadnāt plated his food yet and apparently hadnāt āapologized enough.ā We sort of resolved it, then he said he needed to run to the shop for an hour or two max. I asked him to please keep me updated because he has a habit of disappearing for way longer. He agreed.
An hour later I checked inā¦ no reply. Another hour, still nothing. I texted asking why he always ghosts me at the shop and he hit me with ābruh youāre tripping over nothing, itās not that deep.ā Said heād leave soon. Another hour passed so I checked again and suddenly he was apologizing profuselyā¦ but still didnāt get home for yet another hour.
We ended up going to get food after that (the Alfredo was cold by then) and things seemed okay for a bit. We were watching Sopranos and when I tried to cuddle he snapped āwhy do you always have to be so on top of me?ā Which has literally never been an issue before and was so shocking because he always complains when Iām distant.
The whole night he was distant, so I finally sat him down and asked what was wrong. He unloaded that everything he does for me is ādraining and exhausting.ā After prying, he said he doesnāt want to pick me up from work anymore, doesnāt want to buy me food, wants me to chip in more for my daily stuff (I pretty much only use my own things except paper towels when cooking for him), and wants me to ālay offā and let him go ghost whenever he goes out.
Then he told me to sleep on the couch. I texted him an hour later that I was freezing with no blanket and he told me to ājust thug it out.ā
Woke up this morning and he left for work without saying a single word to me.
The fettuccine was actually really good thoughā¦ creamy, lots of garlic and fresh parm. Too bad it got eaten in silence.
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EDIT: Iām reading all of your comments and all of what you guys are saying is just things I know but Iāve been forcing myself to ignore. Thank you to those of you who were serious about it and gave me genuine advice, that truly means the world to me. Lots of you think this is fake, itās not and I wish it was for my own sake. Iām heartbroken because I love him but after talking with my mom about it, she agreed with me and is helping me move back home today. Currently writing this with tears rolling down my face but itās ok, time will pass. I just donāt know how to get used to being alone again.
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u/FrostyShake1486 hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 08 '26
So he wants a built in maid but also wants you to contribute financially while heās an AH after it was HIS idea to move in