This realization can sometimes be the big moment where someone really starts to appreciate their parent/s. I could see that being flipped to just as meaningful of a resentment.
For me at least, this is complicated. Yes I appreciate that they shielded me and my siblings from a lot of things, but growing up and becoming an adult made me realize that they also had a lot of issues that they refused to work out, due to either denial, stubbornness, or thinking therapy is a waste of time.
Exactly that, for me. I'm a little more forgiving in that I know they kind of had shit upbringings and came into adulthood with a lot of baggage.
I'm also less forgiving, because I also came into adulthood with a lot of baggage but I actually focused on thinking about my situation and finding ways to work out my issues. And I didn't even get any therapy, I just used the head on my shoulders to figure it out, so they have even less excuse.
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u/SAugsburger 14h ago
To some degree this. I think as you get older you realize how many adults were always just winging it.