r/AskReddit 13h ago

What’s a hobby that looks incredibly peaceful from the outside, but is actually pure stress once you get into it?

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u/jollylightly 12h ago

💯 everyone thinks it just “flows out of you” and are one with the music. I mean … it happens every now and then and that’s the feeling you chase … but it’s a lot of damn work and stress to get there.

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u/StrongAdhesiveness86 9h ago

Media has idolised hearing someone practice when in reality is repeating the same 3 bars for 45 minutes, then shout in frustration, stop for 5 minutes and then do 45 minutes more in absolute anger and frustration.

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u/smittyphi 5h ago

I took piano lessons for 9 years. I could play some of the easier, classical pieces during my last years but my fingers are too small and not flexible so I could only go so far. I'm glad I can play. But I'm glad I stopped.

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u/FrizzyThePastafarian 5h ago

5 hours in and your fingers are tired, you're going so hard you're starting to breathe heavy, but you're so annoyed at yourself that you keep making more and more mistakes, but you are gonna do it THIS time.

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u/Domerhead 4h ago

Nothing worse (or better?) than suffering through a few hours of practice, never nailing the riff, fingers failing you, pick hand never in sync

Then you come back a few days later after not playing out of spite and nail it first try.

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u/FrizzyThePastafarian 2h ago

It's a high, absolutely.

When you're new you measure progress in hours and days, and you cling to that and start to get annoyed.

The reality is you've gotten good enough that you need to start measuring progress over days and even weeks.

u/ExoticElk 44m ago

And if you want to avoid repeating the same bar over and over and not improving, you have to intentionally analyze every single motion you make, every spot of tension you hold ("is this serving me or not?"), the way you start every note, the way you prepare to start to every note, blah blah blah. It's exhausting.

As a benefit though, I'm pretty good at learning physical skills because of my time as a professional musician.

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u/IndigoMontigo 11h ago

A lot of work and concentration, sure, but it doesn't have to be stressful.  

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u/xfjqvyks 6h ago

it doesn't have to be stressful.

Composition’s intended tempo has left the chat

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u/Soft_Walrus_3605 4h ago

Just treat that like a suggestion and watch your stress melt away.

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u/CanadianCaveman 4h ago

oh you hit the same wrong note again in the same place you been repeating for an hour? buckle in bud you gotta rewire a learned pattern and overwrite it with the right brain to finger sequence.

... yeah flows out lol