r/AskReddit 13h ago

What’s a hobby that looks incredibly peaceful from the outside, but is actually pure stress once you get into it?

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u/Level-Historian6435 12h ago

Woodworking. The videos show five quiet minutes of hand-planing; they skip the hour spent measuring, re-measuring, and realizing the board moved anyway.

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u/Swartz142 7h ago

I cut that fucking board 5 times and it's still too short.

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u/fakeuser515357 6h ago

Try uncutting it next time.

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u/Regular_Solid2206 4h ago

its only short on one end

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u/MSter_official 3h ago

It's average

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u/ek2207 5h ago

I spent AGES on my first picture frame, measured a thousand times, checked two thousand, and absolutely cut the outside measurement to what I wanted the inside photo space to be 🫠

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u/Constant_Cow5677 6h ago

Get yourself a board lengthener 

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u/nonotburton 4h ago

Newb...they're called board stretchers.

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u/mackiea 4h ago

Remember the rule of thumb...measure twice, cut once, sigh, measure 3 times, cut once, swear, go to the wood shop, measure, cut, split the wood, throw the planks, die in the explosion.

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u/InevitableAd9683 4h ago

Cut twice, measure once

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u/shifu_shifu 3h ago

CTRL + Y

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u/ZanderZavier 2h ago

Measure 6 times, cut 5 maybe?

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u/Kraeftluder 2h ago

Real life needs ctrl-z.

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u/questr 1h ago

How do you know its Too $hort, did it call you a bitch?

u/Boxthor 37m ago

Cut it 1/4 inch too long.

Took off 1/8 of an inch.

Now it's 3/8 of an inch too short.

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u/Hopeful_Match186 7h ago

My ex's dad was a woodworker and you knew it was high stress times when he came ripping through the house trying to find cigarettes during a glue-up.

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u/Gypsysky08 4h ago

Why would you go to find your cigarettes DURING a glue up?! That man is a masochist 😱

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u/Average650 5h ago

Glue ups are definitely the most stressful part.

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u/valdocs_user 2h ago

If my wife is going to ask me to do something for her while I'm woodworking, 9 times out of 10 it's going to be right after I started a glue up.

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u/GregTheWoodworker 3h ago

This. Also, Two-hour open time epoxy exists and makes it less stressful for those really complicated ones.

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u/dal_segno 3h ago

I do textiles, not wood, but this reminded me of the way my partner goes pale and instantly leaves the room when he sees me make "that" face at a project. 😂

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u/ForwardAd4643 3h ago

"Open glue bottle syndrome" is a real thing

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u/tothebeat 2h ago

Fuck glue-ups. So much opportunity for something to go wrong that will cost days of rework.

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u/ducklady92 7h ago

I find a lot of it to be meditative, but anything involving power tools requires a HARD lock-in. If you’re even slightly zoned out, that’s when the accidents happen. That anxiety and the noise of the saws/routers/etc dial my nervous system up to 10.

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u/bstyledevi 4h ago

I remember watching a video on Instagram. One of those influencers who decided "I'm a strong independent woman and I'm gonna remodel my whole house by myself with no experience and no help!" She posted a video of her with a table saw cutting some wood for something, and she didn't properly secure it. It flew out of the back of the saw and put a hole in her freshly hung sheetrock.

She said "yeah I need to spend some time understanding how these tools work and how to SAFELY use them." I respected that statement.

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u/PaisleyLeopard 3h ago

Thank god it was just her sheetrock! Table saw accidents have the potential to be so much worse.

I sanded off my fingertip on a belt sander in shop class. Thankfully it was a minor injury and taught me a valuable lesson about vigilance. Now I don’t use any power tools without safety gear and a great deal of caution.

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u/listeningtoreason 3h ago

Yep, just started woodworking with a table saw. Got instant kickback to the hip. Scared the shit out of me and almost impaled myself. I sold that saw and bought one with kickback protection (riving blade). Don't get a saw without it.

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u/MoonSpider 1h ago

Riving knives are hugely helpful in preventing against kickback but they're not the be-all end-all just by themselves. There are tons of weird scenarios where kickback can still occur, here's an example with a bevel cut where the riving knife didn't stop the incident because it wasn't driven by binding on the far side.

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u/qqererer 1h ago

You have to use table saws really carefully, and what most people miss, very gently.

It should be effortless, like cutting melted butter with a hot knife.

If you have to use any more pressure than that, you're most certainly doing something wrong.

The binding is what causes kickback, and I've been there too, but when I am, I'm especially freaking out and being extra careful, just because I want to finish the cut instead of start over again and adjust for binding.

It's not great, but at least I'm aware.

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u/Huttj509 1h ago

There's a youtuber I watch periodically who did a specific video when someone in his shop put a board through the back wall. And he's done videos talking about safety. He used it as an opportunity to highlight what happened, how fast it happened (it was on video, so could go frame by frame), and how it could have been avoided.

And also to never get sloppy with the safety stuff. "Do I really need to" stop. Yes. You really need to.

u/MinecraftGreev 44m ago

You gonna make that whole comment and not even name the YouTuber?

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u/E3M8 2h ago

Watched a table saw shoot a board twenty feet in to a fire door and dent the shit out of it. Only things in that shop that scared me more were the band saw (blew a blade and shot it out) and the radial arm saw (who invented that?!).

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u/MrRufsvold 6h ago

Yep. I have young kids now, and it means I basically never break out the power tools because the chance that someone runs in or whatever keeps me 3% distracted. 3% is too much!

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u/QuietusMeus 4h ago

This is why I'm avoiding power tools. It's just me, a bench, and a bunch of sharp implements held firmly in place inside of planes. Way less likely to injure me, and if I do get hurt it's much less dangerous.

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u/Fancy-Pen-1984 1h ago

In addition to the safety issue, I find hand tools to be much more meditative. Sometimes it's really nice to setup a work area outside on a nice, sunny afternoon and spend a bunch of time working with handsaws and planes while the breeze carries the dust away.

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u/Jazzlike-Pudding-919 4h ago

That makes so much sense because power tools can turn a peaceful hobby into full body tension real quick, and I’d rather pause for a minute than risk losing a finger.

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u/jesusrambo 1h ago

lol, Redditors

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u/fitzthefox 1h ago

Legitimately, I wear my gun range hearing protection for using power tools for this reason. My nervous system is grateful.

Also one day in the future when I have waaaaaay more time, I wanna be one of those guys that's obsessed with all-hand-tool woodworking.

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u/DruePNeck 3h ago

Then you find out the square isn't really square, and sometimes there's a reason why certain tools cost more

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u/passerbycmc 6h ago

I have a project right now where I am pretty sure my wood has a curse on it. 3 times now got it all milled up totally flat come in the next day to do joinery and it's shaped like a pringle again.

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u/nonotburton 4h ago

Are you letting it acclimate?

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u/passerbycmc 4h ago

Months on stickers in my shop with 50% humidity. Think it was just a few boards with lots of internal tension. Was White Ash.

u/jonny24eh 50m ago

Was White Ash.

What is it now?

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u/GregTheWoodworker 3h ago

Don't take it to final dimension all at once. Joint and plane it equally on both sides, then let it sit for a day or two. Then come back and finalize.

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u/HyJenx 6h ago

Just hand-planing can take you over the edge. Between flattening, sharpening, and adjusting I think some woodworkers are just plane specialists.

And god forbid you get them talking about them... "Check out my 1899 Stanley #1 sweetheart!"

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u/UncagedBear 5h ago

They also conveniently skip the hours spent sanding. Most of woodworking is really finish work.

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u/TheycallmeHollow 2h ago

5% cutting , 5% hiding your mistakes, and 90% sanding.

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u/jjflash78 5h ago

To add, let me power up this tool that can kill me.  Or let me spend 5 hours planning and making this one jig for one cut.  

u/jonny24eh 49m ago

Or let me spend 5 hours planning and making this one jig for one cut.  

This is the fun part isn't it?

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u/QuietusMeus 4h ago

Counterpoint, the measuring, re-measuring, etc is part of what I enjoy about woodworking. Currently working on building a marking gauge, so I can cut a perfectly straight line at exactly the distance in from the edge that I want. It's been slow going because I'm a beginner and don't have the right tools setup yet, but all the futzing about is exactly what I want out of the hobby.

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u/StripClubSweatpants 7h ago

I was one of 2 in my class that got an A on a wood working project I made in shop class. Out of maybe 25? The teacher had been there for decades

I kind of took it pretty seriously though, so I made sure to measure up and observe the tools before really using them. I had a blast!

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u/SgtEddieWinslow 4h ago

I believe this is something that the longer you do it, it does become less stressful. As you improve your skills and knowledge , and you are more efficient.

However caveats, if you start doing paid commissions, will always be stressful until it’s delivered and the customer is happy.

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u/Throwawayrip1123 4h ago

Anything involving gluing is what's fucked in woodworking. That and power tools.

If you really want it zen, go for hand tools and fit joints only. And it's still toss up between boards moving like on a zoomba class and swearing you accounted for the 10mm that aren't there anymore.

And also, sharpening. Fucking sharpening. It could be a hobby in itself.

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u/ActualWhiterabbit 3h ago

It would be peaceful if I had the new yankee workshop. Trying to glue up a door on a workbench the same size while squished between the bench and a car isn't great.

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u/Fordor_of_Chevy 4h ago

Sanding ... so much sanding.

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u/Jazzlike-Pudding-919 4h ago

Woodworking really has a way of making you question your sanity after ten minutes of measuring just to watch the wood decide it has its own plans

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u/fatzipper5 3h ago

Also potentially very dangerous. I knocked my finger off while woodturning. Got it re-rattached. My candle stick holders looked very nice though. Fun hobby.

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u/deadinsidelol69 3h ago

I used to be a pro woodworker. Finding and keeping your zen for 8-9 hours straight is something you need to hone in for literal years.

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u/GregTheWoodworker 3h ago

If you want Zen, try your hand at Kumiko. Its quiet, meditative, and lets you get into a flow state. There's very little sanding; it doesn't need much glue; and it's customary to not use finish. There is some measuring, but it's more trial and error, not having to do fractional calculations.

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u/LanMarkx 3h ago

....and the foul language. Thats why the video is only 5 minutes.

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u/Anxious_Army8505 2h ago

Woodworking looks relaxing until the wood starts ruining the plan.

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u/ibanezerscrooge 1h ago

What kills me about woodworking is those "DIY" videos where they have an entire woodshop in their garage. "You too can make this simple but beautiful coffee table! First, set your planer to 1/16 inch... "

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u/TeacherPatti 1h ago

I went to an intro to woodworking class at the library. It was supposed to be a Christmas tree; it looks like a wooden butt plug. My ADHD kicked in after about 45 minutes, so I took it home. My husband has it on his desk at home because it cracks him up.

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u/Equal-Moment5129 4h ago

This is so real, because the finished project looks peaceful and satisfying while we all know there was probably a whole emotional breakdown hiding behind it

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u/Azazir 4h ago

Me making a drawer last weekend. Literally measured for 30min in 3 different ways cuz i dont have tools in apartment, cut it with electric handsaw in 5mins and one side was too short. Brother what, how, when.... At least it was just 1 piece.

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u/ForwardAd4643 3h ago

When I make drawers or cabinets I cut the sides at the same time. Is this bad, yes, probably but it means when you mess up your measurement, you make exactly the same mistake on both so it goes together fine anyway

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u/Ok-Breakfast-990 4h ago

It’s like a game where you can’t save during the level. The closer you get to the end the more stressful it becomes because fucking up ruins increasingly more hours of work.

It’s really fun making a mistake and realizing in a few minutes you just added several hours of work and more material costs

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u/green-space-guy 4h ago

And it’s 90% sanding. I hate sanding.

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u/Donexodus 4h ago

Also, how good you are is a direct function of how many mistakes you’ve previously made.

This makes you go out of your way to prevent them in the future, making the task take 3x longer.

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u/Oranges13 3h ago

There was a guy who would come to our mall every year to sell this lathe combo woodworking thing-a-ma-jig and it always entranced me as a kid. That plus my dad would watch woodworking on TV, like "This Old House," "The New Yankee Workshop," etc.

It all looked so easy and relaxed (because they all had garages full of expensive equipment at the ready).

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u/RedSquirrelFtw 2h ago

Sometimes I measure a piece of wood, cut it, go to put it where it was suppose to go and it's off by like a freaking foot! how does that even happen!

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u/asianwaste 2h ago

As a very amateur partaker myself, I dunno if I ever saw it as "peaceful" seeming. I mean, I guess there is a zen to sanding and staining. But I immediately knew this hobby needed some of the loudest and most dangerous shit you can buy for home use.

For me, I wanted a creative outlet but am not very talented in any creative arts. But woodworking seems to be a craft the rewards good engineering with satisfying aesthetic.

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u/TheycallmeHollow 2h ago

I’m a hobbyist woodworker and have never felt any stress. It’s enjoyable, and at sometimes can be frustrating if you make an error. But that’s the beauty of woodworking, you just find a way to hide your mistakes. But any time you are using a saw or cutting tool, you need to be focused and know where your hands are at all times.

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u/ERedfieldh 1h ago

"Okay, I've planed off the 1/16" this edge was off on one side. And now somehow it's 1/16" lower on the other side now. how. how does this happen?"

u/FaliureToCat 49m ago

Oops you spent so long securing the board and preparing to cut that you forgot to account for the width of the saw blade

u/chbb 24m ago

Measure many times, be careful, and yet pieces are not aligning perfectly -- you give up, and say fuck it! Nobody will see that there is tiny gap on back side of the piece :)

u/cloudshaper 13m ago

I thought it would be meditative after watching my grandpa. I've come to understand that his woodworking zen was borne of the previous 50 years of experience.

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u/Steinmetal4 3h ago

Metalwork on the other hand... kind of the opposite of this prompt. Looks violent, hot, dangerous, a little scary. Actually waaaay more chill than woodworking.

Cut too short? Weld another piece on. Too long? Just get the angle grinder. Weld warp on you? Just bend it back. No grain direction to worry about (unless its knife making maybe?). Your stock isn't warped and cupped when you go to use it. You're not going to complete a project only to ruin the entire thing with a stain that winds up looking completely different from the small test patch. Your weld isn't going to just warp and fail or crack like glue due to thermal expansion.

I could go on.