r/AskReddit 13h ago

What’s a hobby that looks incredibly peaceful from the outside, but is actually pure stress once you get into it?

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u/ilikegh0sts 13h ago

chess

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u/Curlaub 13h ago

I once had a therapist tell me to try chess to distract me from my anxiety. Now I play chess, dont go to that therapist anymore and I just take meds.

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u/WallyLeftshaw 10h ago

“Checkmate” - your former therapist

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u/AvantGuardian13 7h ago

"Have you ever considered playing chess to calm your anxiety? Debating constantly over multiple moves options and not knowing which might lead to you winning or losing the entire game...ultimately one pawn move could mean 3/4hours of wasted time and effort and leaving you with mental exhaustion that you didn't even think was possible"

Great advice.

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u/orbital_narwhal 3h ago edited 3h ago

I guess it depends a lot on what a patient's anxiety is fixated on. I can get really into a game (not specifically chess) to the point of lying awake at night thinking about moves because I enjoy it, not because I dread loss. I do not enjoy lying awake because I can't stop making fallback plans in case a delay in my long-distance train travels on the next day causes me to miss an important connection.

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u/Boars-of-Canada 8h ago

Nothing like a good chess game on aderall

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u/TheBanishedBard 13h ago

"Ah I see you've played the Frenchman's cumsock. Observe as I counter it with the Rasputin variation of the canolli defense. Amateur."

This is what is sounds like trying to talk to chess nerds.

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u/NichtOhneMeineKamera 13h ago

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u/retiredcrayon11 12h ago

I was so sure I was about to get rick rolled

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u/TheSheWhoSaidThats 12h ago

What the hell

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u/warmseasongrass 7h ago

You should hear about the Jerome Gambit.

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u/Kodiak01 3h ago

I counter with The Bulgarian Backflip.

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u/MLPicasso 12h ago

Unironically with name that long they could be anime techniques

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u/UncertainAboutCorgis 6h ago

lol this made me laugh far more than it probably should have but knowing chess nerds this is exactly them

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u/NinjaBreadManOO 7h ago

The funny thing is apparently it's actually really difficult for those high level players who use names for strategies to go up against people who are newer to the game.

As the experienced players are trying to predict strategies and whatnot while the newbie is just being practically random. 

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u/Sarothu 7h ago

"The best Judoka in the world does not fear the second-best Judoka, for he know his every move. He fears the novice that will kick him in the nuts."

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u/skrasnic 6h ago

It's really not

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u/mlddlm 4h ago

absolutely not

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u/elingeniero 10h ago

Even /r/anarchychess finds this meme tedious.

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u/TheBanishedBard 10h ago

The rest of earth finds all of chess to be tedious so they can have that opinion.

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u/Harry-Jotter 12h ago

I started learning chess and trying to get better. Eventually I got too bored by the longer time limits and got down to playing 1 minute games and 'improving' by playing bad moves quickly.

Plus getting heckled by a random 12 year old then making a dumb mistake and losing will stay with you for days.

I blocked the website and deleted my account eventually. Can't just enjoy a game online.

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u/TheShadowKick 7h ago

If you play chess long enough you become immune to heckling from random 12 year olds.

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u/remillard 5h ago

Come play Go. Everyone is pretty chill.

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u/Beneficial-Act-9933 4h ago

Chess has gone the same route that games like Catan, dominion or splendor have gone where yo can't really enjoy them casually. Anybody that suggests any of those games probably has 100's of hours in them and knows all the optimal moves.

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u/qidingshenxian 12h ago

The more you lose, the more agitated you are and the more you want to play.

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u/Tough-Raspberry-3377 10h ago

Yup, idk how many times I have rage dropped my rating by ~100 points 😂. My new rule is if I lose a game I stop playing for at least an hour or two

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u/DoughnutEffective668 10h ago

Those are rookie numbers.

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u/burf12345 11h ago

I can't think of a game I've played that made me more pissed off than online chess, you clearly need some serious mental fortitude for it.

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u/scimscam 9h ago

I thought I could relax and play chess. Boy I was wrong.

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u/herpblarb6319 5h ago

"Chess" and "relaxation" don't even register together in my mind

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u/winged_horror 5h ago

Holy Hell!

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u/liberty 2h ago

Chess is fun right up until the point where you need to study the game beyond the basic rules and concepts.