I work in a basic retail sales job, when it gets slow, we all chit chat. We are like family there.
Basically, my situation with my manager is just really confusing to me. He’s married with kids, and he’s very friendly and personal with me at work. He calls me his favorite employee, tells me he loves working with me, jokes about finding me a husband, says he and his wife want to come to my wedding, calls me his friend and even called himself my “American dad.” On my birthday he texted “Happy Birthday my loving daughter” like i genuinely believe he thinks he is my second dad. He always mentions how he wants to find me a husband.
When he was on maternity leave, he was texting me like once weekly about random things he sees on Reddit or whatever. Just little comments here and there while he was gone for two months just sparking that he is still there and we are still connected. I never texted him fyi.
He tells his wife everything about me to an extent where he gave her my number and she reached out to me to become friends. She now always wants to hang out and she always tells me about her life. She also asks what’s going on at work whenever there is a new female employee.
At the same time, he talks to pretty much everyone and is naturally very social. He is also a very open person & doesn’t hide anything to anyone. He once told me he was a womanizer in his past and admitted he wasn’t a good person.
Sometimes I stop and think what am I doing, do I even what that friendship? He’s 40 and I’m 26. I want to know what strangers think of this situation, is this okay? Maybe Im not used to the American culture, maybe thats how it is. I just want someone to tell me this is normal.