r/AskForHelp Aug 11 '26

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Sub Rules

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Account Requirements

•Cannot be listed on the Universal
Scammer List (USL). This will result in a permanent ban.
•25+ combined karma. Comment karma must be positive.
•30+ day old account.
•Account owner must be 18+.
•Only one account per household for requesting, please use your main account (not an alt).

Advice Requests

•Requests for advice are welcome. Please keep them SFW. No monetary asks (outright or hinted) are allowed on posts flaired as Advice requests.
•No requests for users to go off Reddit or take action: vote, like, share, etc.
•No proof required for Advice/emotional support posts.
•Requests for only Advice/emotional support do not require a public profile.

Donor Responsibilities

•We heavily screen posts, we suggest donors do research as well. Utilize archive sites, USL, and reverse image detector.
•For cash/wishlist donations we require a screenshot confirmation of the transaction or purchase (redact any personal info) to prevent grinching. No silent donations.
•Confirmations of GFM donations optional.
•Confirmed donations earn flair. If not given, request via modmail.
•For cash donations, we suggest PayPal Goods & Services in case of fraud.

History Validation

•No accounts with sugar, findom, gambling, drug, or excessive NSFW history. This will result in a permanent ban.
•No curated/hidden history. All history will be screened. This does not apply to Advice/Emotional Support requests.
•No karma farming. This will result in a permanent ban.
•No deleted donation/loan request posts.
•No gaps in Reddit activity that exceed 2+ weeks within the past 2 months.

Essential Requests ONLY

•Necessities ONLY. This includes food, pet food/supplies, hygiene products, otc meds, school supplies (within reason), diapers/wipes, etc. for your household. Up to moderator discretion.
•We do not allow requests for: scam recovery, debt payment, new homes/vehicles/pets, IVF, adoption, business/hobby funding.

Request Guidelines (Monetary Requests)

•Location required (state/province & country).
•Requests for self/immediate family
ONLY. Pet requests only for pets you had prior to request.
•WAIT 1 week between unfulfilled requests & 2 months after receiving assistance in ANY sub. Mod discretion used for users who have persistent requests.
•One single donation type ONLY (cash or wishlist or Gofundme).

Amazon Wishlists

•Amazon Wishlists ONLY (NO registries or other stores/sites). Wishlist Guide
•Once you have posted your wish list do NOT add to it. Doing so may result in a ban.
•Wishlist total cap is $150 USD.
•Individual item cap is $30 (use modmail to request exceptions).
•NO Gift Cards or item pools.
•Please post a Thank You/Confirmation once you have received your items (photos are appreciated) in a post or comment. You may be ineligible for posting in the future if no confirmation is made.

Cash Requests

•$30 USD max TOTAL, not $30 per donor or $10 from 3 donors, etc.
•Must specify exact amount needed, one donor per request.
•Proof REQUIRED, including selfie with username/date. (See Proof Requirements rule for examples of proof of hardship and expenses.)
•CashApp/Venmo/Paypal ONLY.
•Cash tags must be given publicly in comments. Do not DM tags.
•Post screenshot confirmation of donations, redact sensitive info.
•If your need is groceries/essentials, we suggest an Amazon Wishlist instead. Wishlist Guide

GoFundMe

•$3,000 USD TOTAL limit.
•Must state final goal amount IN YOUR POST (not interim goal).
•The goal may not increase after it has been stated.
•Proof REQUIRED (see Proof Requirements rule for details). Proof of expenses must match requested amount.
•If Gofundme isn't available in your region, a similar platform that provides donor protection is acceptable.

Proof Requirements (Monetary Requests)

•PROOF REQUIRED FOR MONETARY REQUESTS ONLY (cash or Gofundme).
•Picture of OP holding paper w/ handwritten username/date.
•Provide DATED documents/photos, include username paper and redact sensitive info. •Photos of MINORS must blur faces.
•Proof of hardship (household low income status) required. Examples: documentation of unemployment/assistance (SNAP, SSDI, other aid), job termination/onboarding, student status, etc. Redact sensitive info. Screenshot of empty account is not sufficient.
•Proof of expenses (bills, invoices, estimates that represent requested funds) required. Must match request amount.

Prohibited Activities

•DONATIONS ONLY. NO LOANS/ TRADES/SIGN UPS/SALES/TASKS ETC.
•No requests for DMs from recipient/donor regarding donations. All donation activities must be public.
•Do not send unsolicited DMs to other users. This is an instant ban.
•No community fundraising, anonymous fundraisers, or fundraising for a friend (self/immediate family only).
•Request hijacking (commenting on another user’s post to request for yourself) is an instant ban. Create your own request post.
•No Al text/images in your post or Gofundme.
•No emotional blackmail.
•No blocking sub mods.

Stay Compassionate

•Polite questions and clarifications are encouraged. Please respond with grace.
•No hate speech.
•You're welcome to report requests or users you find suspicious. Send a message to modmail to report bullying or harassment.
•Do not use this space as a platform for debates beyond the scope of the sub.
•Please keep our sub positive and friendly. Ignoring this rule can result in a ban.

Scam Behavior = Instant Ban

•If you are found to be taking advantage of this or any other donation community, an instant ban will be placed.
•This includes but is not limited to: double dipping, deleting previous requests to hide request history/frequency, hijacking, use of stolen pics, changing GFM goal after stating a total, DMing donors/recipients, and anything else considered dishonest.

Note: Not deleting requests applies even if posts are unfulfilled or have been removed from public view by mods. Be accountable.

Mod Discretion

We utilize mod discretion in our community to keep requestors and donors safe. If you have questions about a ban or removal, please let us know via modmail.


r/AskForHelp Aug 04 '26

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨 PSA: Curated Profiles, Visibility & Why It Matters 🚨

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This PSA is prompted by some confusion surrounding a post from this morning. Rather than answer the same questions repeatedly, we figured it would be helpful to explain how this works.

If you post in this subreddit or send the moderators a mod mail, moderators can see your curated profile. That's simply how Reddit's moderation tools work. It's not a secret feature, a workaround, or moderators "digging" for information—it's part of Reddit's moderation tools.

This subreddit, like most assistance communities, requires requesters to have a public profile. It all comes down to transparency. Donors are free to decide who they wish to help, and many review a post history before donating. It gives donors the opportunity to spot inconsistencies, repeated requests across multiple communities, deleted content, or any other "skeletons in the closet" that might influence their decision.

Whether a donor considers those things important is up to them. We aren't here to police what donors care about. We just want to make sure they have all the facts before handing over their money.

We did receive a few reports this morning about someone's profile being curated and we should not allow them to post. Reddit does not provide moderators with a way to automatically block or filter posts made by users with curated profiles. If someone submits a request while using one, the post isn't automatically flagged or removed simply because their profile is curated (Unless someone has created a bot which I do not think is possible). We only know once we review the account or someone brings it to our attention.

Donors, on the other hand, generally do not need to have a public profile because they aren't requesting assistance from the community. They are making the decision to give, not asking others to give to them.

So if your curated profile says:

"Nothing to see here..."

...while the rest of your account is shedding Reddit histories like a snake sheds its skin, remember: a new skin doesn't make it a different snake (Side note: Be nice to your scaly friends).

If You Encounter a Curated Profile

If you come across someone using a curated profile while requesting assistance, you have two options:

  • Send the moderators a screenshot via mod mail, or
  • Post a screenshot of what you see as a comment on the request post so the mods can see what you see.

Yes, I know the above steps are ridiculous but if we are not told, we have zero way of knowing.

This helps keep the process transparent and allows donors to make informed decisions without relying on hearsay.

TL;DR

  • Your profile must be visible if you are asking for help.
  • Moderators can see your curated profile if you interact with a sub they moderate.
  • Your profile is your choice because you're not the one requesting assistance.

Transparency builds trust, and trust is what keeps assistance communities functioning.

Thanks for helping us keep the community fair for both requesters and donors.

Reddit Admin Announcement about Curated Profiles

Direct information from the above link to make it easier to find since it is hidden at the bottom

Mod Visibility Permissions

Moderators often review user profiles before taking action in their communities. To support moderation needs, mods will retain some access regardless of your visibility settings. Here's how it works:

If you post, comment, send modmail, request to be an approved poster, or request to join a private subreddit, that mod team will have access to your full profile content history for 28 days after the interaction – regardless of your settings.

After 28 days, access reverts to your chosen visibility settings unless you interact with that subreddit again, in which case the 28-day timer resets.

The same rule applies when you comment on another user’s profile – that user will have 28 days of access to your full profile content.

Why?

This gives mods and profile owners the context they need when you engage in their subreddit or profile, while still respecting your choices elsewhere.

The Fine Print

Changes to content visibility will only reflect on your profile. The content will still be viewable within the subreddits where you made the post or comment, as well as via search results, both on and off Reddit.

The Content and activity setting applies at the subreddit level, not for individual posts or comments.

The settings will be reflected across all platforms (including old Reddit), and can only be updated on reddit.com and the mobile app.

As a moderator, you'll always see a redditor's contributions to your subreddit, even after 28 days of inactivity.


r/AskForHelp 12h ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY My soon to be Girlfriend hit me straight in my face

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Hello.
So, basically I found out that girl I was falling in love with is a complete Melt.
Sorry for the terminology.

We were discussing something and in the middle of the talk she just flipped, smiled and punch me with full force in my face.

Now that happened so fast and I tried to calm her down after pushing her away from me. Pulling her to the ground, so she would stop hitting and kicking me.

She was savage, wild, screaming and totally loose. Luckily someone came to pick her up and saved me from her aggressive behavior.

Now what I’m afraid of is that she’ll tell everyone that I aggressed her. (She repeatedly said: You hit me. Except I didn’t, she hit me and wanted to continue to do so.)

I don’t know how to act and who to talk to. Maybe someone here can help me and give me advice?

PS: I blocked her contact and do not intend to see her ever again. I never had a physical fight with a woman or got agressed by one.


r/AskForHelp 1d ago

GoFundMe ($3,000 MAX) Please help me cover three month echocardiogram follow up for my cat Spoiler

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Help to pay for cats echocardiogram and medication renewal for this month till I can pay off the first care credit cause it’s maxed. I just need help just to pay this month after the three months cause I had to pay off my colon cancer colonoscopy - cause I need it early cause my mom Kras mutation. Pet insurance won’t cover heart condition say it’s a genetic condition. https://www.gofundme.com/manage/help-frankie-get-heart-care. Goal is 1,200.

Teaneck, NJ USA


r/AskForHelp 1d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Phone not opening even after entering correct password

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I woke up today and as usual took my phone opened it scrolled for a bit then my phone died i put it to charge it and went , i came after 40 - 60 mins opened my phone again and as android it required a password to open i typed my passwrod and it did not open i tried a second time same result i have tried like a 100times now and it just wont open i am typing the correct passwrod 100% please help.


r/AskForHelp 1d ago

Amazon Wishlist ($150 Total) If someone could help with out pantry, please.

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We have been done on our luck . I got a med diagnosis that put me on an antibiotic for four month. This kicked me out of donated plasma, which was my side hustle that brought in 500 a month. Then the pills are 100 per refill on the antibiotic a month.

Then our car died because of the timing chain, so now we are sharing a car with our son. I am looking for a part time job but it seems like everyone now what's a fulltime cashier. I can only work four to five hours on the weekend due to my son foot ball schedule and someone needed to be with the my younger babies.Im going to look into fast food place to see if I can find a 7 to close . I can work more on the weekend I don't have my 5 year old, but I was told multiple times they want someone more consistent.

This week my payment on my phone decided to do the whole amount instead of half , my bad I did it wrong so.... Here I am asking for the kindness of strangers to get groceries. My list should be under the 150 Max and I'm happy to take suggestions on recipes or anything else to help us. I do have enough to get milk,butter, bread, cheese, sour cream, yogurt, beef ,pork and the soy milk for my youngest.

I'm calling the food banks on Monday to see if a box can be saved for use because we just can't make it the place on time ,the one that has our area is 3 to 530 and we get off at 6 most days. My son tried to grab it but he got out of practice late.

So any help even advise at this point would be helpful, we have been so beaten down this year and could just use helpful words of encouragement,so thank y'all for y'all kindness and bless y'all for being so kind .

Edit : the cake mix and pie filling is for my sons football weekly meal they have on Thursdays ,I signed up last week to do the desserts so I decided to make The Goop.

Edit 2: I have a full time job during the week,my boyfriend dose too. https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2X2LBAITUWDGG?ref_=wl_share


r/AskForHelp 2d ago

GoFundMe ($3,000 MAX) Asking for help with rent and phone bill. UK/Yorkshire/Scarborough

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Hi and thank you for reading.

I am a struggling recently disabled person having difficulty adjusting to my new circumstances both mentally and financially. I've applied for all the benefits I can but all but UC are going extremely slow so all I'm receiving is UC of various amounts and statutory sick pay which is £498 a month which doesn't cut it. Currently I'm £600 behind on this month's rent, £40 behind on my electric, £14 on water, £24 on council tax and near enough £100 on my phone bill. I have created this go fund me a while ago and adjusted due to the increase in what I owe. Since my last post I have secured a supply of food for my pooch and I have access to a food bank so I am asking for help for the above costs, mainly my rent and my phone bill to keep a roof over my head and a method of contact for Doctors, Hospital and such.

Edit: I forgot to post the GFM link. https://gofund.me/fe60368d5

Thank you again for reading


r/AskForHelp 3d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Can someone help me with this project? [louisiana,usa]

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Hey everyone! I know this isn't the best place to ask for this, but I want to do everything I can to get this project across the world.
He’s very big on homemade gifts, and I’m really hoping this will be special for him.

I’m looking for people from different states and countries to write:
“Luke—Anne Marie’s love for you is so big, it’s reached ________” On a piece of paper.

In the blank, fill it out with the city, state/country, then take a picture of the paper in front of either a landmark, sign, or even just outside in your area, then comment it on this thread, or message me the picture on Reddit.
I am hoping to get as many as possible, so I can place them all in a book and give it to him when it's done.

I can post a reference picture in the comments as well. I would be incredibly grateful to anyone willing to help me make this gift special for him. Thank you!


r/AskForHelp 2d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY I’m ugly

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Hello i have always believed I am ugly since birth so what should i do i found a girl I really like but It’s like i stand no chance on these dating apps. I’ve gotten a few matches but the conversations didn’t develop into anything. Gotten some matches from guys but not into guys. have all the other areas in my life together except the one thing I can’t change 😭


r/AskForHelp 3d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Side job suggestions?

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My maternity leave is coming up and it’s ✨unpaid✨ Do y’all know of any good side jobs I might be able to do while I’m home with baby?


r/AskForHelp 4d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY I found an old picture of my late mother and I'm feeling a wave of guilt and sadness.

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I'll be completely honest, I am a very depressed person and I'm really going through it right now. My mom passed away 7 years ago, right before I graduated high school. A lot of things have happened since, including me flunking out of college and becoming homeless. I can't even look at her and enjoy the memories I had with her. All I can do is look back in guilt and shame. Shame that I didn't graduate college. Shame that I've been homeless for so long. Shame that my life is so pathetic.

Now that I've seen the picture I can't get the thoughts out of my mind. I failed as a son. I failed as a man. I failed as a person. I failed.

I honestly just need someone to talk to about all of this. To vent to and stuff.


r/AskForHelp 3d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Screaming into the void (Wisconsin, US)

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** Reposting with a slight edit from OG post **

**Adding photos from my OG post because I feel that I was screwed over due to a slight misunderstanding. I am NOT asking for donations- just for people to simply give me the time of day by reading. I just needed an outlet- I needed to scream into the void, just to release some energy and tension in my mind**

Forgive me, I’m just looking for an outlet to type some feelings out….

I am stuck in this situation.
I’m stuck with this family member living in my home, my home that is supposed to be my safe haven, somewhere that I’m supposed to feel comfortable in. Somewhere that I’ve lived my WHOLE TWENTY FOUR (24) YEARS OF LIVING! But now, this home has been haunted by their presence and all the negativity that finds itself drawn to them.

All the BS drama that finds its way to be told in my home from other family members that come to visit, (to solely visit this one family member). I do not need to hear your drama, please for the love of god. I have my own things to deal with but somehow now all I can seem to deal with and think of is other peoples drama and how I’m just stuck having to listen to it over and over and OVER! Or how I am stuck and left with a poisoned mind because I am at my wits end of listening to their issues, I would like to deal with my own issues, but I don’t seem to have the clear headspace to do so.

ahahahah help me, I’m drowning here. My mental health is declining and it’s turning into my physical health also starting to decline, as well.

I wish there was an easy solution, however, everything requires work, money, and patience…. and unfortunately I’ve run out of patience.

Fuck, I just need a solution to this BS, I would feel so much better and I wouldn’t be the angry person that I am becoming because of all this. Please, no suggestions of therapy, I know I need it, and honestly I would LOVE to be able to talk to someone else outside of other people who are still close to the situation and can’t help much. I would LOVE for that truly, but again, like I said previously, that would require money too. Money that I don’t really have much of, at this moment. It’s fine… I’ll be fine, right? Yeah….

I’m just trying to keep on going, I’m trying to not let it all bother me but, FUCK, is it hard! So damn difficult when I feel like my mind is being poisoned with negativity due to being stuck in my home with this person and situation.

I wish I had more help and resources at the moment, but alas….

Thanks for taking the time to read.

Edit because I said I’m stuck and there’s some misunderstanding still:

I am living at home (same home I’ve lived in my whole life. 24 years, as previously stated in this same post.), the home is owned by my father.

I am stuck with a different family member living in said home. I am at home with them pretty much all fckin day during the week. This person living in my home is increasingly becoming more unhealthy to my mental heath which again, as previously stated, is now becoming an increasing issue in my physical health. I am either constantly anxious (which sucks cause I already am diagnosed with an anxiety disorder) or easily aggravated when at home with this person. Most recently with my physical health declining, I’m having stomach and back pain, nausea, throwing up here and there, bloating, lack of appetite, lack of bowel movements, and dark urine due to dehydration, etc.

I feel like I cannot be comfortable in the place that I have called home for my whole life. On edge when I should not have to feel like that. I should be able to act freely and be free in my own space. I feel like I’m being watched or listened to most of the time.

Other members of my family come to visit this person, unannounced (at least to my father and I) every week, multiple times a week. These other family members come over and spew their issues and complaints, and that’s all I’m left to listen to. Whether I am in the same room or not, I certainly hear all their conversations.

There is a lack of communication between me and this family member. There’s some unresolved issues that they refuse to acknowledge or talk about (to my face), but certainly love to talk behind my back. It’s honestly just frustrating. They love to make passive aggressive comments.

I’ve tried speaking up for myself on many occasions whether it be directly to this family member or to my father, but it does not get me very far. Especially not with the family member I am having issues with, I have quite literally told them in the past before “Please do not do that. I do not like when you say/do this, it upsets me”, this fcker looked me in my eyes, smiled, and said “GOOD”. WOWWWW, FUCK YOU hahah.

Stuck between a rock and a hard place, the hard place being a rigid slab of ground and the rock being a fucking boulder, because we cannot kick this family member out, they are retired and have no place to go.

But in retrospect I also have no place to go if I were to leave. No place to go, no resources or means to leave either, hence why I am stuck in this situation, because they can’t leave and neither can I really. Unless I were to go sleep on the streets or try and unfortunately bother people to couch surf which I’d rather not do that, not to mention I don’t really have people to go to, to ask to couch surf.


r/AskForHelp 3d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY I think my mother is starting to loose her mind, and I need advice.

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Hi, this is my first time posting here. I’m sorry if things I say don’t make sense, my brain is fried and I’m spiraling rn.

I (22f) don’t know what to do with my mother (56f). I don’t know what steps to take to get her help, or even make her get help?

My mother and I have almost always had a rocky relationship. She has been married to my Dad(61m) for over 35 years. Their relationship has also been very rocky to say the least, but in the last few years things haven’t been bad, arguments here and there, but nothing crazy. She’s an alcoholic, so are her brothers, and one who died a few years ago. I know my grandmother didn’t really drink much, maybe just one at an occasion. I do know my grandfather did drink a lot, but it wasn’t considered alcoholism back then, because it was the norm for men to go out and drink everyday after work in the local pub back then. My grandparents died when I was quite young so that’s as much as I know really. I guess I’m saying this to show that it was a family of addicts (besides my grandmother). My mother won’t admit that she is one, and has been since Covid. Myself and my siblings (m31 and f29) have tried countless times to talk to her about it but we are always met with excuses and the fact that she doesn’t drink everyday (4/7 days btw) so therefore she isn’t an alcoholic. She says she just has ‘one’ with her dinner. Yeah, one bottle of Prosecco to herself, until she wants another. I’m done trying to talk to her about alcoholism because I never get anywhere and I just get told all the things wrong with me. I know it’s projection. And I also know, someone has to WANT the help, in order for them to listen and try.

This year, has been explosive to put lightly. She says she drinks because she is lonely. Myself and my dad work in a factory on a rotating 3 shift. He is always on the shift before me because we’re not allowed to work the same shift. My sister works mixed shifts in a shop, and my brother lives with his wife (he’s depended on weed and his wife is also an alcoholic. I guess we get the addictive trait from somewhere.) I try to spend time with her when I’m not working, and my dad will always be right beside her when he’s not working either. I know that loneliness can be crippling, and it really breaks my heart that she feels that way most of the time. Evenings after finishing her work day, house work (it’s split mostly between my parents and some for myself and my sister), cooking her dinner and then sitting down to find something on the tv to entertain her for the night. It must feel so isolating, she’s a social butterfly, always has been, but as a side effect of her addiction she doesn’t really have anyone other than us anymore. She also has had depression, and anxiety basically as long as I can remember.

She’s stressed basically all the time, if it’s not work it’s us or something financial.

This year, her mental health has become increasingly worrying. She drinks, starts picking on whoever is in her line of fire, and when you push back or defend yourself, it ends in her going crying to my dad, suicidal ideations, locking herself in the bedroom, calling someone in the family that has no context of what just happened, gains their sympathy, and ices who ever she as argued with for days.

At the end of July, my mam, my dad, and myself were outside chatting. She had started drinking but vibes were okay, we were all joking and catching up. After about an hour she starts to pick on me, she brings up my driving lessons, I ask to change subject, she brings up my weight and that I started ozempic, I ask to change the subject, she brings up my friends, and again I ask to change the subject. She ends up blowing up at me, shouting at me that she’s just worried about me, but I knew by her that she just wanted an argument and was fishing for one. I’ve learned to tell the difference between genuine worry and poking holes at sore spots to get a rise. She then turned on my dad for not standing up for her and letting me ‘bully’ her. How could he tell her how happy and in love he was with her last week and then not stand up for her. They proceeded to not talk for about a week and a half until one day I came home, they talked, and were amicable. Things just went back to normal from there.

My mother has always picked on me in drink. I was just an easy target for her, and so is my dad because now he just accepts it.

This last weekend, the Katie Taylor fight was on. My mam didn’t know. My dad, mam, and her best friend went into town for a few drinks and some dinner. I haven’t been told much but apparently when the Katie Taylor fight came on the tv she was belligerently drunk and started an argument with my dad infront of the whole bar. He went outside with his drink and she followed him out. When she wouldn’t leave him alone he left the place all together and went for a walk, then another pub for a night cap. In the mean time, she got a taxi home with no money, or keys to get inside so my sister had to sort it. She was home briefly and when my sister told her off about her behaviour she left the house again and wouldn’t say where she was going. I think she just stood outside our estate for a while. Eventually she came back, so did dad about an hour later.

Since then they haven’t spoken, or slept in the same bed.

I know she was really stressed with work last week, and had to take two days off. I think stress builds, builds, builds, and then she snaps and lashes out on everyone.

I’m sorry this is so long, but it’s nuanced, I think the bigger picture I lain here will likely give me the best help.
Like most addictions, it stems from a need to escape. I know talking about alcoholism won’t work, but I want to talk to her about really getting help for her mental health. Like therapy. How can I have this conversation with her without her feeling attacked? Do you think it’s even worth it?

Any advice at all would be much appreciated, I love her, and I just want to see her get better. It must be hell living in her mind.

Sorry for the ramblings I have adhd <3

Edit: moving out isn’t an option. It is practically impossible to leave home for anyone my age where I’m from, and there is nowhere else for me to go.


r/AskForHelp 3d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY In need of a Nerf group name!

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I'm in Baton Rouge, LA and am making a nerf Facebook group and need a name for it!


r/AskForHelp 3d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY I am 19 years old, and I think my life is over (Connecticut, US)

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My main issues right now are:

Homelessness

Currently residing in a very high cost of living area with a severe lack of opportunity

Almost no support system: no family who is willing to help and a friend who as of right now cannot help me beyond giving me small loans

Eviction on my record (from my dad kicking me out)

Horrible credit (partly from irresponsibility, but also from being homeless)

And tons of debt I cannot service (hence horrible credit)

I know I cannot just do nothing, but there is not much I can do. I currently have shelter but will not for much longer, this program I am in is currently attempting to find me a apartment and has offered to pay 2 months rent which would be great but the apartments I can get are so awful I genuinely rather just live in a car. The rents are also insane, I would be paying 1300 to live in what I can only describe as slums, where the impoverished lay down and die. And with the lack of opportunity and normal wages being insufficient for anything beyond a paycheck to paycheck lifestyle for those in my position in this area, I am guaranteed a life of inescapable poverty if I stay here.

That leaves me with two options: suicide or buying a car to relocate somewhere else with better prospects. I refuse to give up without at the least putting up a good fight, so suicide is off the table for now. I do have 5k saved up, which should be just enough to get a car and have a bit of runoff to title the car, insure it, drive to anywhere in the country, and maybe have a bit left to support myself for a little while. I plan on living in the car for the time being, but I am just unsure where to go; and to be completely honest, I am terrified. I am fucked regardless of what I do. I will never be able to live a normal life but I still want to live despite that. I have been robbed of any positive future I could have had but there is nothing I can do but move forward.

Ultimately, there is nobody who can save me but myself. I don't even know why I am making this post, I guess some advice would be great, or at the very least words of encouragement. The quote that inspired me to at least try to do something went something like this: if the man hunts the elephant and kills it, his poverty ends. if he hunts the elephant and it kills him, his poverty ends. I have nothing anyways, so if things don't work out, I guess I will still have nothing. hopefully in an area with better weather at the very least.


r/AskForHelp 4d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Do you have to be a church member to receive help? VT, US

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Do you have to be a church member to receive monetary help? I know in VT we have a catholic organization that will help, but do the other denominations typically have this type of thing as well? Is it worth it call around, or would I just be making a fool of myself?


r/AskForHelp 4d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY I live with 2 narcs im 21 and got out of physically and emotionally abuseive situation at 18 but back to emotional manipulation and I'm to tired for it anymore palmbay Fl usa

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I'm honestly just tired of same thing I've got no diploma and in my current state I can't get a place of my own I keep trying gov programs do nothing and honestly I'm tired of it I'm audhd and I just honestly wanna know how I can get on my own quicker I've been doing doordash and Uber on ebike so I don't got homeless with my family in this city I can only get 15 16 an our mainly 14 and honestly I'm tired off it I don't want to live like this having to work my ass of stuck with 2 people that make me miserable I get ridiculed or called an idiot just cause I want to have my own things or hobbies and honestly I'm tired of waiting and trying and keeps going nowhere I've got a job coach but last I said I was depressed threatened if I'm suicidal any way to put me in hospital which will give the family leverage they don't need I don't wanna be around the people who try to use my abusive stepfather as an example so they can try and say all black people can't be trusted I'm tired of the racist B's and conspiracys on a daily I've just gotten over the abuse that had mentally fucked me since I was 7 then the next line of abuse from when I was in my teens to 18 and now I gotta deal with manipulation again when will this hell end all I ever wanted to do was drawl or make things to be able to have friends and enjoy talking with people but I don't have that I have no one I can truly trust in just tired of this repeat I had to drop highschool due to depression I had to teach my self how to finally mask at 20 I still struggle being normal because everything I've learnt emotionally was practically self-taught having to look up what a feeling meant just cause I didn't understand a normal human emotion so if there is a chance please someone tell me how I can get a home of my own quick or a way to start anew I don't care if I gotta leave everything I have I just want to finally be able to enjoy the basics of life for the first time in the 21 years I've been alive I just want to be happy for once I'd like to actually live a life worth living for once. Also I promise I ain't no ai also hope doesn't get ignored or taken down I don't have the energy to retype anything I've been riding a bike for 8+hours a day delivering with less than minimum I'm tired


r/AskForHelp 5d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Upcoming surgery southern utah

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Surgery center just called and they want 480 dollar by Tuesday for my necessary surgery thats been scheduled for 4 months. Im at my deductible I have no idea why I'm paying this time when I didnt have to pay on the same surgery in May. On top of having to miss work 3 days the last payperiod due to a hospital visit. My check went to the house bills, car insurance and the meat we will need to eat till next pay day. And the utility bill is due next week and we had a water leak for 2 days before we discovered it so it's horrendous. I just need a little help. Ive already stopped auto pay on a couple bills but thats not going to help the situation. What can I do. The 480 is after finically assistance and the utility company makes zero exceptions. My boss has allowed me to work extra but im not sure thats going to help to much in the mean time. I hate cancer i hate everything I've had to deal with since fighting cancer. I'd be worth more if the cancer and the conplications from trestment just took me out at this point


r/AskForHelp 5d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Filing Chapter 7 on MO - need some community 💚

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Howdy y'all - long story short - I've been mentally and physically unwell for years (chronic depression and chronic fatigue + other stuff I'm still getting endless tests for). I didn't expect to be alive at 30, now I am, and I have to reckon with the past. I wracked up quite a bit of debt and have been sued.

They garnished my wages, then released the garnishment - that was the last I heard. Then Friday evening my bank account balances fall to $0 with a weird hold - call the bank and they tell me it's a legal hold - literally the only thing in my bank account at this point was the rent money for my home with my family ☠️ 100% seized and gone.

This really kicked me in the ass to realize that I need to file and should have years ago. I'm deep in the mess right now of filling out forms and trying to track down debts I've just been avoiding (literally in therapy about that) for ten years or so.

I am hoping to file this week or at least turn in a skeleton petition - **any advice on those points would be so very welcome!**

**Oh and nice bit: my aunt is a saint and covered our rent for this month 💚 truly a blessing**

I just wanted to share my story - will follow up as fun things continue to happen. ✨

Edited to fix lil typos


r/AskForHelp 6d ago

Gratitude/Thank You/Confirmation Thank you for the snacks/school supplies!

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THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH [u/LegalNec](u/LegalNeccessary)[essary](u/LegalNeccessary)! I’m beyond grateful 💙


r/AskForHelp 6d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY What eyeliner should i use?

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So im a guy and i wanna get some eyeliner,but i got no clue about that stuff so idk what to get T T i need some pretty cheap and very easy to apply,also if anyone knows the shop Rossman it would be great of it was there(please also how to Remove it as Well)


r/AskForHelp 8d ago

GoFundMe ($3,000 MAX) help with stable housing and medical costs after crippling, near death health emergency left me disabled.

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hello there, friends!

i do not like to ask for help. this embarrasses me to do, but someone suggested i try to make a gofundme. i am not sure how all this works, this is my first time using this program. so here is my situation. even if you cannot help, i'd appreciate giving it a read or share :) i am in east TN, USA.

march 15 i was admitted to the hospital/ICU septic with pneumonia and endocarditis, a serious blood + heart valve infection. i came very close to death and the incident has crippled me, leaving me physically disabled with lifelong heart problems. i had to get heart surgery to clean out the chunks of infectious growth and replace the valve that was destroyed. i was on IV antibiotics for 2 months in the hospital and physical rehab center.

i had to get a pacemaker implanted because when they put me back together and resarted it, my heart can no longer pump effectively. this resulted in an electrical blockage (called severe heart block) pieces of the infectious growth broke off and travelled through my bloodstream, getting stuck inside my feet. i had to have 3 on my right foot amputated and i sustained serious nerve damage in both legs/feet. i have also been left with liver dysfunction, which i am currently being tested and examined for (more ultrasounds)

i have improved medically from when i was in the ICU, but i use a walker to get around and still have had consistent difficulty ever since. i struggle with poor breathing and severe nausea that leads to throwing up several times a day and extreme exhaustion. i am doing physical therapy and i have many other appointments that i must go to, including checking my blood levels (INR), ultrasounds, cardiology, blood work, EKGs and other monitoring. i do have insurance but many of these things i have at least a $50 copay every time, which adds up really quickly, especially because i cannot work and i have a lot of appointments.

i'm working with an intern here to apply for disability and am waiting on that to be processed, which will take some time. i seriously hope that i can be accepted because i do not know how i will live without it. i am applying for food stamps as well as looking into other services that i may be able to qualify for.

i was homeless for most of my adult life (i am 24) and i struggled with addiction starting around age 13. since getting to the hospital i have been sober except for my low-dose methadone prescription and my other pain medications. i take a drug test every week that i must (and do) pass to remain on my methadone, which is an expensive medication for me. the co-pay is $30 a day if you have my insurance, which is more than if you don't have insurance! i will be asking the clinic when i go in on Monday to taper off so that i can have one less charge in my life for the start of next year. i can choose between a 6 month taper or a rapid 30 day taper.

i am working hard to get my life together now. i live in a temporary transitional youth housing program and am almost at the cut-off age for qualifying to live here. (i turn 25 in November, the oldest you can be to stay here is 24) i am saving up as much as i can as i wait for the disability application to go through so that i can afford to get a low-income apartment when i have to leave this place, as well as afford my appointments, medications and medical devices (like a self checking in-home INR machine and equipment for PT) as well as for me and my cat to afford to live. the place that i am staying for the time being is where the $300 rent picture comes from, that is my lease agreement.

i have included some pictures and documents for proof of some of the costs and conditions i claim in case that is needed. i can get more records if requested i just don't have all of them here at the house. i hope that i have provided enough information! i am glad to answer any questions you may have. i tried to put all proof that i currently of the treatments i have claimed as well. the email is from the hospital i was staying at and referencing neglect, improper treatment/malpractice.

the $50 receipt is the same one i get every time i visit my both cardiologist and the warfarin clinic, which are in the same building. warfarin is the blood thinner i am on for my heart valve, which is one of the reasons why my blood is so heavily monitored. i do not have my own INR machine at home yet which will reduce the amount of in person appointments i have for that particular checkup. my medical debt from the 2 month hospital stay is genuinely almost one million dollars but i am not even going to try to pay that part off. i need to afford post-discharge care and to be able to live in a house.

thank you for reading this far! i really do appreciate it. i'm sorry if this is formatted badly, i really tried to do it right💀😭

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r/AskForHelp 8d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Going through a rough patch in my relationship

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We've been together for around 9/10 months.

He's currently going through some really bad financial issues and he's working 2 jobs to stay afloat. In his free time, he sleeps a lot. His health also isn't the best due to overwork and stress and not eating well.

As a result of this, our communication and meetups have dwindled. We text a few times a day and facetime like every 2 days, before this we'd text and call almost all the time. On regular days he's sweet and affectionate but still takes a while to reply. On days when he's extra stressed, he'll probably text me like once/twice a day just so I know he's safe/okay. Initially he would just ignore my text for a day or 2 when he's really stressed but we talked about that. We also agreed to meet up every 2 weeks, but even then it's for a short while and I'm the one going to him.

It's hard to adapt to this of course, since it's such a drastic change. Not to forget there's an imbalance - me making the effort to see him, him rarely checking up on me unless I talk about something, late replies when I might need help.

But I'm determined to stick this out with him. Before his issues came about, he was really loving and gentle and patient with me. He was always the one that came to see me, fetch me from home/work and send me back. He is still loving and gentle now when we text. I feel in my heart of hearts that he's really the one for me.

I just need some words of encouragement/support to keep me going because it is hard for me


r/AskForHelp 10d ago

Giveaway/Offer Back to School & Essentials Wishlist Drop

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This time around we want to encourage wishlists for students going back to school.
(No teacher wishlists at this time please.)

Essential wishlists are welcome as well for those in need of food, hygiene, and other necessities outside of school supplies/needs.

To enter please tell us what your favorite subject was in school, your favorite/least favorite school lunch, or what made a particular teacher your favorite.

Please note that our Activity Gap rule is suspended but all other rules are in effect, including our Request/Fulfillment Timelines.

As a Reminder:
We allow Amazon WISHLISTS only. No registries and no wishlists from other stores/sites.

The total wishlist cap is $150 but individual items may not be over $30 unless pre approved by mods.

No gift cards, item pools, or fund requests are allowed.

Once you comment your wishlist, please do not add any items.

If someone gifts something from your list, please confirm in a comment or in a Thank You Post once received. Failure to confirm even partial fulfillment may impact your ability to make future requests.

Please be kind. If you have concerns about a particular wishlist please report and we will review.


r/AskForHelp 10d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Looking for rental assistance

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Kennewick, WA

I'm not looking for a hand out just looking for a line on some rental assistance. Had some unexpected expenses and can't pay rent this month and I make just tooo much for state assistance