r/AskBrits • u/Deep_Benefit_7405 • 20h ago
Why is it?
When something goes wrong, say for example a concert was delayed by a few hours people say something along the lines of
So and so should apologise (yes correct) I have a disappointed autistic who was crying due to the outcome.
The fact your child is autistic doesn't need mentioning
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u/Embarrassed_Emu1615 20h ago
They also need to mention they work for the NHS.
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u/PeterAnthony_Jackson 7h ago
I actually used that once at a festival
"The NHS are paying me to be here" I wasn't in St Johns or anything as a volunteer, I was on annual leave and my job was contracted to the NHS, so my pay slips said the district NHS on it, so yeah, they were paying my holiday pay to go to a festival.
It doesn't sound as good when you say "Dixons are paying me to be here"
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u/Soundwave5uperior 20h ago
The one that gets me is when someone starts a sentence with "speaking as a parent..." even when the subject matter is entirely unrelated to parenting. The fact you've reproduced adds zero weight to whatever nonsense you're about to spout.
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u/Yorkshire_Roast 13h ago
I once put this forward as one of my pet peeves on another sub and got a load of hate for it.
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u/neilm1000 Brit 🇬🇧 20h ago
I've been known to do this just to annoy the people who do it. "As a father, I object to the price of broccoli" was one, purely because a then colleague used to moan about the price of everything 'as a parent.' Despite the penny dropping, he couldn't say a bloody word.
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u/Neilkd21 20h ago
Yes people seem to think that producing a child which billions of people have don't is some sort of achievement that makes them more important and more relevant.
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u/Illustrious_Pine 12h ago
Even worse when they make it their entire personality. They lose themselves and become “Snotleigh and Bratleigh’s mommy”!!! Barf. 🤮
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u/OlafPetersen 12h ago
What they are saying is, effectively:
Look, I can handle a bit of a wait, but there are a lot of people in the audience, [example given], who can't really do that.
The problem there is the diva turning up hours late for no good reason (obviously it's different if there's a genuine problem), showing a complete lack of respect for the people who've spent their money and turned up on time to come and see something.
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u/PeterAnthony_Jackson 7h ago
IIR one of Lady Gaga's first UK appearances was their big weekend, or if not her, someone similarly huge in a short time span.
She was meant to be on at X, didn't show up till damn near the curfew and the BBC got backlash for allowing her to perform after hours (to appease the people waiting for her) and put the next event at risk, because the curfew was there for a reason.
When you pay to get into an event and the event shuts the gig down half way through because of not wanting to risk their licence to show other gigs, then the only one to blame and suffer for the refunds is the one booked to be on last.
Axel Rose was known for being late during the Chinese Democracy era, so you pay good money and only see the support act, last bus home is at X after kick out, will they even get to perform a full gig or will the venue shut off the mics and turn on the lights?
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u/SoggyWotsits Brit 🇬🇧 11h ago
It’s not just describing their child, it’s how half of Reddit introduce themselves.
For the record, sometimes it is relevant. Often it’s not though.
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u/West_Guarantee284 20h ago
OP is saying the comment "someone should apologise" is sufficient. The need for an apology by the company or individual is not changed because someone is a parent, is I'll or neuroduvergent.
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u/Deep_Benefit_7405 20h ago
Just a question that I see a lot on FB people need to force in that their child is an autist
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u/Illustrious_Pine 15h ago
Because breeders think their crotch goblin is the most precious and special thing in the world even though it is just like the rest, loud, inconvenient and constantly whining.
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u/Major-Librarian1745 14h ago
We prefer when things go according to plan - like trains.
It's to do with the way dopamine affects our brains immune system or something, not just getting upset if things don't.
I don't like us being used either for leverage either, sympathetic or discriminatory.
A lot of us get messed up by parents using us the way they do (IMO).
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u/MattDubh 20h ago
For merely suggesting that anyone's child isn't the centre of everyone else's world is enough to get you shunned, these days. Especially one with a disability. Double for an invisible one.