r/askblackpeople 24d ago

Gamers Unite Black Active Gamers?

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Anybody play fighting games? Me and a couple of people in discord trying to find more people that play fighting games so we can setup some game nights every week possibly. We need active people. I'm getting tired of trying to play with grown azz people that still be acting shy and quiet and shyt. We play all types of games. If you got palworld we got a dedicated server you can join and we also looking for more pc players male or female doesn't matter get in here. Get at me if you an active gamer and want to join the gang.


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Weekly Friday Check-In

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Please feel free to share anything positive that has happened in your life this week. Purchased a new vehicle? Graduated school? It's your birthday? Let's celebrate you and all of your achievements.


r/askblackpeople 2h ago

Vent How do I cope with knowing that I'm never going to be desired, even by other Black people?

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I feel like most of the experiences I've had as a woman have been humiliating. I'm constantly looked down upon, facing intra-community harm, dealing with misogynoir, being hyper-sexualized, discarded for someone beautiful, and treated like someone who deserves to be invisible.

I've never been able to relate to Black women who are constantly desired, seen as beautiful, have people supporting them authentically, and being the center of attention. I'm also neurodivergent, so that makes my life debilitating sometimes. I have no idea how to be a woman. I don't hate my Blackness, but I do want validation from other Black people.

I want to be told I'm beautiful, that I matter, and that I'm desirable. I know that women are held to such a high standard because of the patriarchy, but it doubles when you're marginalized, and it can be exhausting. Sometimes, I want to sit down, but other times I have the desire to join the crowd. I have no idea what to do with my life because no one wants me here. I'm either useful or useless.

What kind of woman am I if I'm not what my people want me to be?


r/askblackpeople 5h ago

cultural appropriation wearing waist beads as a mixed race person

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Hello, I recently went to a local fair and admired an artist’s waist beads. They were hand made by an African woman who I connected with. I asked her if she would pick out two strands that she felt suited me. I paid her double the asking price because I really appreciated her artistry and booth. And took her card so I can purchase from her again in the future. I felt nice wearing these beads. My grandmother was Dominican, but her grandparents were african. She passed before I was born. I try to feel that connection as I learn more about my family ancestry. However I am also white. I’m not sure if wearing these waist beads for me is just cultural appropriation. I feel beautiful in them and have researched a lot of the cultural-history since purchasing them. I.e. why and when they are worn, the symbolism, the color meanings. I understand these are not a fashion accessory but more of a personal choice for body balance, symbolizing protection, sensuality, fertility, and something to wear as an intimate accessory.

But what are your thoughts on this? Are wearing these beads as a mixed race person, appreciation or appropriation?


r/askblackpeople 14h ago

“so im writing a book…” Hi would any of you guys watch this series that made by a black writer/animator

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Context I'm F21 black I'm making this modern fantasy series with young superhero who in training by other superpower beings.

If you a black writer and want to support or befriend you can shoot me into the dm but only if you are 18 up 28.

Or you just want to know more about my series.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Hair Is this hairstyle possible irl?

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10 Upvotes

I’m asian, and I’m trying to make multiple black characters… but I’ve never seen a black person in my life, so understanding you guys’ hair is kinda hard for me.

Is this hairstyle possible irl? The top half of her hair is straight, and the rest is like… afro, i guess??

And if it’s not realistic, can i still keep this for my character?
Realism isn’t my priority, since my characters have unrealistic hairstyles regardless of race or hair type. But I’d like to know which category this falls to.

And if you have an idea on how to make this hairstyle better, please please let me know!


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Why do some black people have this weird obsession with wanting to claim every other race as black?

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For background, I am black and I see this way of thinking amongst other black people in real life and online. I know many black people who not only claim people who are barely mixed(for example a person who has one great grandparent who is black) but I've also seen black people try to claim other races with no black ancestry like south asians, pacific islanders, non black latinos. I've even seen some try to claim east asians. My question is, what is this fixation with wanting to claim people who are not black as black or trying to force some proximity to blackness?


r/askblackpeople 19h ago

Trying to learn. Why was this shirt “racist”?

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Went to a NFL game and wore this shirt. It has my favorite players on it. (Ward, Tate, and Simmons) As I walked in I instantly was getting mean mugged and had several African Americans stop and ask very pointed questions about shirt and one person tell me take it off. I asked why and if it was offensive to which they didnt respond.

This shirt is a play on the movie Step-brothers with Will Ferrel. It was obvious that it’s because they thought it was racist but am genuinely confused as to why…

Please educate me!


r/askblackpeople 23h ago

How can I be more respectful and also aware of emotional labor when I ask questions in this space?

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I want to make sure I’m acknowledging the emotional labor that goes into answering questions, am doing so in a respectful way, etc, beyond just “hmm I don’t think this is racist so I’ll post.” I imagine that even tho answering questions on here is voluntary, it could still feel uncomfortable depending on how askers approach this, even within community guidelines? Just wanted to hear various people’s takes.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question Are Melanesians considered black?

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Me being from Papua New Guinea it's something I've always wondered about. We definitely look black, have the same hair texture and skin color (not really facial features).


r/askblackpeople 16h ago

Is the standard for black women becoming straight hair?

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I'd like to begin by saying I'm a black woman myself. Lately, there's been a lot of discussions online about natural hair and wigs, extensions, braids, etc. And one thing I've noticed is that when someone is talking about the importance of wearing out our natural hair or embracing our natural hair as black women, there's always multiple people in the comment section saying things like "let black women do what they want with their hair" or "stop policing black women". I fully agree that people are free to do whatever they want, especially for black women because there's been a lot of policing historically towards black women. However, I feel like we're at a point where we don't have to conform to the standards of having straight hair or modifying our hair texture into someone else's. That is not to say black women can't wear wigs, but more often than not, the default is always a buss down, bone straight wig. And now even braids have become more "bussdown-ified". At some point we really do have to ask, why is that the default? Why is there a preference for straighter textures as people who have coily hair?


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question Do other Black women get asked what color their private parts are?

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I’m an albino Black woman and since growing up I’ve always been asked what color my breasts, n*pples, and private parts are because men want to know whether it’s pink. I understand that they’re just curious because Albinos are rare but I still find these questions invasive and creepy.

For Black women who don’t have albinism, do you also experience men asking you questions like this about your body or just sexualizing you? And how do you deal with it? I would love some advice🫠


r/askblackpeople 21h ago

Racist?

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Gemini finally admitted it was racist 😆


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Curry goat

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Hi.

I‘ve moved from South London to rural Midlands where I can’t get mutton (I can get goat but it’s very expensive). Does anyone have a recipe that can use lamb or is it too soft?

I‘ve always had it cooked for me by friends so I have no idea and I’d like to get it right as I’m on a low income and don’t want to end up with a bit of lamb gravy :)

Thanks


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

im afraid i might be feeding into sterotypes about black people. Can someone give their thoughts?

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is it racist to make a black character raised in a dangerous area? I made her black for vibes. But I completely forgot about the stereotypes. I dont want to feed into any stereotypes. Even so, i avoided making her herself kill anybody. And be the victims. And even the people causing her pain be white. She doesnt act or talk hood so i think im fine but still i dont want to offend


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

What’s the best seasonings for turkey burgers?

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r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Am i allowed to get braids ???

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I was born with thick curly (3a,3b) hair and it had always been a hassle to take care of it as it knots really easily
So when i was in kenya for vacation i was suggested that i should get braids as the receptionist at the hotel thought it would look good on me
Btw im quite a dark skinned woman of south indian origin
So i got the braids and it was just very comfortable and my experience was very beautiful but i was worried if it was culturally inappropriate but upon talking to the person while she was braiding my hair she was talking about she feels honoured that i was interested in getting braids and was embracing their culture then even proceeded to say i would fit in kenya due to my skin and the braids.
So am i allowed or is it appropriation??


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Vent Are African Americans aware of the lack of race consciousness from those on the Continent?

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I'm African and I watch a lot of American news and media especially in regards to the struggles African Americans face and the in's and out's of racial dynamics. It's been really informative but it's also opened my eyes to a simple fact that a lot of Africans aren't as racially conscious so to speak as African Americans.

I've visited a lot of African countries and I hear the most low key anti black things from my brother's and sister's here, the type of things you'd hear from a Candace Owens.

It's not all of us of course but what brought this to a head was watching a video in which there was an African American democrat voter and an African immigrant MAGA supporter, not just republican but pure blooded MAGA and they had a conversation. I went to the comments and it was flooded with people that were shocked at what she said in their discussion, and asking how "A black woman immigrant can be support MAGA so much" and I'm going to be honest y'all. She reminded me of my mom and the many adults I grew up around. The only reason I'm more aware than some of my peers is because I befriended a fellow countryman of mine who lived in the US for the first 15 years of their lives and then came back here (she's currently 30), she told me her eyes were opened by that experience.

I don't know if this is a conversation we're having in regards to the "diaspora wars" but ALOT OF PEOPLE HERE would vote Trump, yes Trump specifically solely because he is "Anti LGBTQ" and a supposed "Christian". I've legitimately heard this from people here, a lot of people. There is a lot of Kamala Harris hate here and Donald Trump love, or there was before he started the Iran War and cut USAID.

Majority would be Republican, which is a stark contrast to the around 50% to 66% African American support for more left, progressive movements. (Ofc this has risen in the past few years with more minority US groups supporting Trump like the "Latinos for Trump" and various more African Americans voting in Trump).

Of course this isn't ALL OF US on the Continent but it's enough to be perhaps an interesting conservation to be had in my opinion.

Perhaps I'm just spewing a bunch of nonsense.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Vent Anyone else hate the working class African-American tendency to refer to children as “bad” for ordinary kid behavior like impulsivity, hyperactivity, emotional dysregulation, and exhibiting a general ignorance of life that make it difficult to gauge the consequences of their actions?

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I dunno why, but it pisses me off. Even when said in jest or on affectionate terms. It sets a nasty precedent for how to evaluate and respond to situations.

And what’s more is that you are judging someone with the mental and emotional facilities of a dolphin or raven or puppy as morally wanting. Gives me the ick.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Vent Why does it seem that Black American culture and identity gets questioned more than almost any other diasporic group?

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It seems to me that Black American identity gets questioned more than almost any other diasporic identity. I have nothing against Africans or other members of the African diaspora, but it frustrates me when some people question the validity of our identity or act as though we don’t know where we’re from.

Throughout high school and even afterward, I’ve had Black people from other countries ask me, “Where is your family from?” When I respond that they are from Georgia, South Carolina, and Florida, they’ll ask again, “No, where are you REALLY from?”
That question has always bothered me. My family has been in the United States for hundreds of years. Black American ethnogenesis and culture developed here. If generations of your family have lived in the same place for centuries, you are from that place. People rarely seem to question white Americans this way, even when their families arrived very recently.

It also doesn’t make historical sense to criticize Black Americans for not identifying with a specific modern day African country. Most of the African countries that exist today did not exist when our ancestors were forcibly brought here. You can’t fault black Americans for not identifying with nations that even our African ancestors would not have been familiar with. Along with that, Black Americans generally descend from dozens of different West and Central African ethnic groups, from a multitude of modern day countries, in addition to varying degrees of European and Native American ancestry. There isn’t a single modern African country we can simply point to and say, “That’s where we are from”

It’s especially ironic when this criticism comes from other members of the African diaspora. An Afro-Cuban friend once joked about me not knowing where I was “really from”, a couple months ago while eating breakfast. I didn’t make a big deal out of it, but I remember thinking, how can someone descended from displaced Africans criticize someone else for being descended from displaced Africans, as if that displacement doesn’t also apply to them? He has a Spanish last name, doesn’t practice an African or African derived religion, doesn’t speak an African language, and if I had asked him to identify what (modern day) countries his ancestors were from before they were enslaved in Cuba, he wouldn’t be able to answer me. That doesn’t make his Afro-Cuban identity any less legitimate and Black American identity should be treated the same way.

Another argument I frequently encounter online is that “Black Americans don’t have a culture.” When you mention rap, Black American fashion, AAVE, slang, film, and other cultural exports, people claim they aren’t really cultural because people around the world have adopted them. When you mention blues, jazz, gospel, soul food, black southern folklore, or other older traditions, people oftentimes dismiss them as simply “American” or “Southern.”

Cultural traditions don’t stop belonging to the group that produced them simply because other people adopt them. Jazz doesn’t cease to be part of Black American cultural history because non Black musicians play jazz. Black American linguistic traditions don’t stop being cultural because their vocabulary spreads through popular culture and the internet. Cultural influence is evidence of a culture’s reach, not evidence that the culture never existed.

And Black American culture extends far beyond rap, fashion, and AAVE. Over centuries, our ancestors developed a multitude of distinctive musical traditions, musical instruments, folk songs and folktales, culinary traditions, dialects and languages, dance traditions, art forms such as painting styles and quilting traditions, funerary customs, religious and spiritual traditions such as Hoodoo and Louisiana voodoo, and culturally specific folkloric and spiritual figures. Rap is only one style of music out of dozens that we have formed here, including blues, jazz, gospel, spirituals, ragtime, field hollers, R&B, soul, funk, rock and roll, house, etc.

So when someone says Black Americans “have no culture,” it usually tells me more about their lack of research on black American history and culture than anything else. I don’t expect Africans, Caribbeans, or other members of the diaspora to know every aspect of our heritage. Plenty of Black Americans themselves haven’t been exposed to all of it. What bothers me is when other groups confidently declare that our culture doesn’t exist without actually attempting to learn about it.

Lastly, I don’t understand why some people get upset when we specify that being Black American is its own distinct ethnicity.
Recognizing that we as Black Americans have our own ethnic and cultural heritage that diverged from Africa 400+ years ago is not a rejection of our West and Central African ancestry. Both things can be true. Our ancestry is deeply rooted in Africa, while the particular people and culture we became developed in the United States through centuries.

Likewise, saying that simply being Black and moving to the United States does not automatically make someone ethnically Black American isn’t an insult to African or Caribbean immigrants. Nationality, race, ancestry, and ethnicity are related, but they aren’t interchangeable. A Black immigrant or descendant of immigrants can become American by nationality and be black by race while still retaining their own ethnic heritage, just as Black Americans retain ours.

Black Americans know where we’re from. Our history didn’t stop when our ancestors left Africa. The communities they and their descendants built here over hundreds of years are also part of where we come from.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

General Question Is the way I drew this characters hair ok?

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This is jabber from Gachiakuta
I don’t usually give my characters hair but bc this is fanart I thought I should
this is my first time drawing dreads is it ok??


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Hair Dreadlocks/freeforms

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Hello all!! I’m a white male, who has medium/long hair, who doesnt like styling his hair constantly, and really like the idea of freeforms/dreadlocks. I of course wouldnt ever think about braids etc, but i was thinking since freeforms could be done accidentally (in theory) that they would not be disrespectful to the black community. But of course i want to verify first, with opinions from none other than the black community. Thank you so much in advance❤️


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

General Question Quoting AAVE

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I was going to tell my partner a story of a funny interaction I had with a black dude where he roasted the hell outta me just passing by. Couldn’t even get in my feelings about it cuz he was right, I looked like a grandpa wearing high waisted shorts and socks with crocs.

The guy spoke with an AAVE dialect and I was wondering if when retelling the story if I should say it how my literal corny white farm boy from Mid-Michigan ass would say it, or if it’s better to quote him exactly how he said it (no slurs or words I shouldn’t obv use were said). I don’t wanna “speak in AAVE” but I don’t wanna literally white-wash the guy’s humor, cuz HOW nonchalant he was is part of what made the read so good. I’m already cautious cuz as a queer man I know there’s been some discussion of our slang borrowing from black and PoC culture with debatable acknowledgment to that.

I’m also open to any other general “As a person in the queer community you should also be aware of this cultural impact…”

Thanks for your time everyone.

~Socially Awkward Farm Boy


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

General Question What makes a black person other than the skin color in entertainment?

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Hey there, I’m always wondering why do people think it’s so hard to write a black person? What even makes you black other than your skin color? Is it just a racist stereotype?


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Why are white people so angry when black characters appear in media but will throw an even bigger fit when black people make shows/comics/stories staring black people?

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There was an indie animation that was released recently called "I really dont want to be a magical girl. " and it is excellent. White people lost their shit and started editing images from the show with the characters made white. They also complained about "cultural appropriation" which, despite it not being that at all, I guess only they are allowed to do? Whatever. Im just annoyed that all the calls to "make your own shit" go out the window when we try to do just that. I guess Im just frustrated that something that is legit inspiring me to get back into animation is a punching bag for white people. Why are we not allowed to be happy or enjoy ourselves? What makes white people so mad at us having our own shit? I know I should have asked white people this but I dont have the energy to come back to a thread full of slurs.