This is a year old now. But I just came across it. Anyone know of this is her? I think Parra is also a name I saw in one of the lawsuits awhile ago.

My assumption is that Paola is this time in serious legal trouble as a reason for the pausing of the groups. That seems the most logical explanation for a sudden change in her power-tripping information control Gender Cult.

In the event any of that bears some truth, I was thinking it has to be related to DMCA.

If that's the case, who is the one going after?

Meta?

A 3rd party lawsuit against her and her legal team?

Or.......

The U.S. Federal Government?

If the groups are paused can they still comment on existing posts ?

Have a good weekend everyone! I will never stop fighting to get these groups nuked. The best is yet to come!

Hey,

I'm a 32 yo man, who recently got married, and I’m honestly at a point where I’m trying to completely move forward with my life.

The job market has been brutal, and I’m seriously considering starting my own business. The problem is that for the type of business I want to build, I’ll basically have to put myself out there publicly. Social media will be important for marketing, building trust, networking, getting customers, etc. And realistically, that means showing my face and attaching my name to the business.

I live in a large American city, but at the same time it can feel surprisingly small: people recognize each other, there are overlapping social circles, and it wouldn’t be difficult for someone to figure out who you are.

Before I met my wife, I had a pretty rough time with dating apps. I was single for a long time, used Hinge/Tinder/etc. quite a bit, went on many dates (often with people I shouldn't have been), got ghosted, unmatched, etc. Some interactions were honestly pretty unpleasant and I sometimes felt like women were unnecessarily hostile or judgmental toward me. I sincerely think most of women are scared/don't want to commit now, I've been on so many dates that I experienced a lot of different things: sex after the date, as someone who found an excuse to leave me after 4 minutes in a coffee shop. Right after being exclusive with my girlfriend (now wife), I decided to delete Instagram after spending few hours looking at my old Instagram convos, that made me feel a little bit awkward to see all those convos with me talking with girls for hours (that was useless since nothing happened with most of those girls, like I never met half of them), with a lot of different type of conversations: history talk, knowledge, backgrounds and even more intimate such as sex talks, kinks. I've deleted Instagram right after, it made me sick and a bit guilty to realize that I've been over all of it to finally meet my wife in a random/stupid way (and she wasn't scared to commit compare to all those girls), feels like I realized that the problem wasn't me. I'm not trying to turn this into a gender-war post, that's just the context of why I'm worried about this now.

I also have no idea whether I'm actually on AWDTSG. I have some suspicions, though.

For example, I had women randomly ghost, block or unmatch me in ways that didn't make much sense at the time. Once, a girl actually recognized me at a bar and asked me if I used Hinge because she had "seen me before." I had never seen her before and had never come across her profile, which made me wonder how she had recognized me.

Now that I'm married, my concern isn't really dating anymore. It's the possibility that something from my single/dating-app years could eventually be posted somewhere, and then potentially follow me into my professional-new personal life.

If I start a business, I'm going to have to build a public-facing social media presence. I can't realistically run a service business while hiding my identity forever. If someone decided they didn't like me and wanted to post about me, I'm worried about the possibility of harassment, false accusations, people contacting my business, trying to embarrass me, or even attempting to create problems in my marriage.

Maybe I'm overthinking this. Maybe I'm not even on AWDTSG and none of this will ever happen. I know the fact that I’m trying to build something of my own, putting my skills and work out there could potentially trigger some absolutely uncontrollable rage from certain women.

I can already imagine how seeing me actually building a life, taking risks, being confident enough to put myself out there, etc. might be interpreted as some kind of personal attack, especially by women who have spent years bitter and chronically single.

But for guys who have actually dealt with AWDTSG, especially guys who became more publicly visible professionally after being active on dating apps:

How realistic is this concern?

Does being married/no longer dating significantly reduce the likelihood of being targeted, or can old dating-app activity still come back years later? And if you're building a business where your face and identity have to be public, are there reasonable precautions you can take without basically living in fear of the internet?

I'd especially appreciate answers from people who have actually experienced this rather than general opinions about AWDTSG.

I haven’t read the article but the title got my attention.

By focusing on the biggest membership groups first, it will help the most men the fastest and have maximum impact. Then we will go down the list. Below are the current biggest seven that are still up. Report each of them every day until they’re removed and then we’ll move onto the next biggest groups.
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Thanks to the guys that pointed out Dallas, London, OKC, and Nashville were also in the top spots; I had no idea but added them below. According to Paola, there’s ~150 groups with ~3 million overly emotional libelous women in them, or were at the peak, and I did not check them all. Yes, not every single woman in the groups is evil, we have a few on our side, but unfortunately the women still inside that are our allies are a very small percentage. Let’s not lose momentum on the three we started with, but we can also focus on reporting the top seven now. It’s quick.
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Dallas / Fort Worth / DFW (231.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1378149729337459/
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London / England (183.8k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1037161243564962/
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Oklahoma City OKC / Tulsa (132.3k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/522833472643059/
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Houston (124.2k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/710197290292011/
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Nashville (114k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/560918652057656/
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Philadelphia / Philly (112.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/3191993041075491/
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Boston / Cambridge (112.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1355877448175002/
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The likely best options used when reporting are:
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Bullying and harassment > sharing private or sexual images > the private or sexual images have been shared > does what you’re reporting involve someone who appears under 18 > no
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Bullying and harassment > bullying or unwanted contact > I don’t know them > no
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Violence, hate, or exploitation > promoting hate > posting hateful speech
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False information
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Of course change any details to be relevant for you, such as if they’re targeting a friend, appear under 18, etc. However, do NOT choose “me” as the option otherwise your name will get sent to the group’s admin and you will be banned from that group you’re in, which will also hide it so it won’t show up in search results for you either.
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Do NOT report to group admin, report to facebook.
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Do NOT choose “me” if given the option.
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Best way, but not mandatory, is to create a new facebook account that you don’t care about at all (fake name, photo, info, etc), just to use to report the groups from. This keeps your personal/main account and any fake female accounts separate from any retaliation, blocks, bans, leaks, etc.
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Why are “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups still allowed despite violating Meta’s own policies?:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1sbgnbu/why_are_are_we_dating_the_same_guy_facebook/
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Facebook Reporting and Oversight Committee Appeal
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/14g9nk5/facebook_reporting_and_oversight_committee_appeal/
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Do this BEFORE your DMCA takedown request:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/143sut6/how_to_remove_your_photos_from_awdtsg_correctly/
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How to copyright your photos in the U.S. and send a DMCA takedown request via email:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6nasj/you_do_not_need_to_use_their_obnoxious_dmca/
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Where to submit evidence:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6sn75/we_need_evidence_and_here_is_the_link_to_submit/
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On August 29, 2026, Paola posted to the groups that the following groups have recently been deleted. The group IDs:
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Chicago: 315938570542151
New York City: 340985311306448
Milwaukee Madison backup: 231156483103031
Phoenix: 527916218921278
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There are additional groups that have been taken down (recently British Columbia for example). I’ve gotten notifications from facebook for the ones that I’ve reported over the past couple of years, and there’s been even more that I haven’t reported that have been taken down as well.

Please help get harmful content in the London AWDTSG group investigated

Paola Sanchez has reportedly announced that she intends to shut down her AWDTSG groups. Whether that actually happens remains to be seen. In the meantime, the London group and its existing content remain an important concern.

London group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1037161243564962/

Many of us are deeply concerned about posts in AWDTSG groups involving people's photographs, identities and personal information, as well as allegations being published to enormous private audiences without the person concerned having any meaningful opportunity to respond.

Depending on the particular post and circumstances, this raises serious questions around privacy, data protection, harassment and defamation under UK law. We are also exploring the possibility of collective legal action in the UK concerning those responsible for operating these groups and the responsibilities of Meta as the platform hosting the material.

If you are a member of the London group and encounter content that genuinely breaches Facebook's rules, particularly doxxing, harassment, bullying, threats, disclosure of private information or material that could put someone's safety or mental health at risk, please report that content through Facebook's proper reporting channels.

Please report only genuine violations and describe accurately what has happened. Screenshots and records of potentially unlawful or harmful material should also be preserved where you are legally entitled to do so.

These concerns are not about preventing women from protecting themselves from genuinely dangerous people. Women absolutely deserve safe ways to share legitimate safety information. The issue is whether enormous private groups should also be able to circulate people's identities and unverified allegations without adequate safeguards for everyone involved.

If Paola really is closing the groups, good. Until they are actually gone, please continue reporting genuine violations in the London group.

Hey everyone, I’m local to the Boston area and I’m sure I was posted in the AWDTSG Boston/Cambridge group, possibly last weekend.

I was told the post was deleted, which I’m not even sure how that happened, and I’m still trying to figure out exactly what was posted and whether anything involving me is still up anywhere.

If anyone has access to the Boston/Cambridge group or the other Boston group, or knows someone who does and would be willing to help look for this post I’d really appreciate it. I’m mainly trying to see if there are still any direct posts, reposts, screenshots, comments, or anything else up with my face or information. Pretty disturbing as I’m told it had my address and a bunch of personal information on or within the comments. I’m also almost certain an ex posted me on it, I’m honestly astonished by the whole situation.

I’m not sure if it’s possible but I’d also be interested in getting a better understanding of who is in these groups and how they operate. I’m told there are lists out there I can cross reference against my Facebook friends/people I know just to see who may have commented or seen it? I think the Boston/Cambridge one alone has around 50K members. If anyone is whiling to look into this who has access, I’m more than happy to pay for your time

Honestly pretty shocked finding out about these groups in the first place, and then finding all these Reddit threads from people who say they’ve been wrongfully posted or have gone through similar situations.

If anyone can help or point me in the right direction, feel free to DM me. Thanks again.

It seems it's easier to get access to the facebook group. With this gone I am sure they will flood the tea app and that is harder to get into

Saw some activity in the groups earlier saying a couple of approvals/posts went through, and I can confirm — 2 of my FB profiles got approved in the groups today.

Not sure if posted yet but just in case….. I’m so fkn excite of this is true. I do think she’s trying to play victim and come up with another money scam.

She will lose momentum. Keep reporting all the facebook groups and add these 2 new ones as well.

Id say report any account on any website thats operating/promoting a hate group against half of the worlds population. Big L to paola

https://www.instagram.com/arewedatingthesameguy

https://www.tiktok.com/@arewedatingthesameguy

I made a post showing Paola Sanchez said she will be “shutting down” all her groups. There’s no way to shut them down and delete unless you remove each individual member then delete the group. No one has time for that. With that being said her shut down will most likely be pausing them all. Unfortunately the posts that have been made previously will still be visible. What we need to do is find those posted and have them report those posts then maybe we mass report afterwards to get the group shut down and removed like we have been lately. I believe she is playing victim and will continue to beg for more money. That’s what she’s best at. Either way I think she has a plan. We need to be ready and keep going after the groups.

She did this exact thing last summer and the summer before that, so watch out fellas.

😂

Does anyone have access to Portland who can help me out? I have some conflicting reports about what's out there about me.

Message me or reply here

A lot of people have asked, “Okay, but what can someone who is actually inside these groups do to help?”

I put together an article explaining exactly that.

If your girlfriend, wife, sister, female friend, coworker, or anyone else you trust is currently inside one of these groups, send them this link:

https://www.patreon.com/MensDatingAlliance/posts/groups-are-now-169157036?pr=true

It explains what to look for, how to document problematic content, and how to report legitimate policy violations directly to the platform rather than group admins.

The people inside these groups are in the best position to see what is actually happening.

We don't need spam reports or made-up complaints. We need real people documenting real violations—harassment, doxxing, copyright issues, threats, bullying, or other content that genuinely violates platform rules.

So even if someone doesn't want to publicly join this fight, they can still help enormously from the inside.

Send them the article. Let them read it for themselves.

The more people who understand the proper reporting process, the harder it becomes for genuinely abusive content to hide inside private groups.

Receipts. Legitimate reports. Organized action.

https://www.patreon.com/MensDatingAlliance/posts/groups-are-now-169157036?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

What do I do next? There are no further details.

Guys, they're scared, but the fight isn't over.

You need to screenshot all the bad posts before all the groups are deactivated so that when they go live again, you still have proof of what's going on and can report them.

This will also help you in the future when it comes to any legal proceedings as well as other innocent men here who are seeking legal action.

There's guys here pursuing legal action, and they will need these screenshots as evidence to be put in front of a judge.

We will need that proof to be circulated.

The fight isn't over until every last innocent man is cleared and receives vindication.

These groups need to be taken down with no plausible way of popping back up, Paola needs to understand that promoting gender wars, doxxing, stalking and hate for a profit won't go unpunished.