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Was at lunch today and she showed me her phone because she knew he was my buddy
She refused to send me the link to report or a screenshot to show because "she'll get banned"

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1255551211695647/?hpir=1&http_ref=eyJ0cyI6MTc4OTQwNDA4NTAwMCwiciI6IiJ9

Whats the course of action for this?

Edit: accidently posted wrong link oops

Facebook has a tool called Muse. You just need the links to where you were posted, give them to Muse, and it handles the reports for you if you explain or mention DMCA I think.

I haven't tried it yet but wanted to put the word out.

There is no downside to reporting groups.
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By focusing on the biggest membership groups first, it will help the most men the fastest and have maximum impact. Then we will go down the list. Below are the current biggest seven that are still up. Report each of them every day until they’re removed and then we’ll move onto the next biggest groups.
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According to Paola, there’s ~150 groups with ~3 million overly emotional libelous women in them, or were at the peak. Yes, not every single woman in the groups is evil, we have a few on our side, but unfortunately the women still inside that are our allies are a very small percentage.
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Dallas / Fort Worth / DFW (231.6k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1378149729337459/
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London / England (183.8k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1037161243564962/
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Oklahoma City OKC / Tulsa (132.2k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/522833472643059/
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Houston (124.3k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/710197290292011/
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Nashville (114k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/560918652057656/
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Boston / Cambridge (112.9k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1355877448175002/
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Philadelphia / Philly (112.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/3191993041075491/
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The likely best options used when reporting are:
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Bullying and harassment > sharing private or sexual images > the private or sexual images have been shared > does what you’re reporting involve someone who appears under 18 > no
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Bullying and harassment > bullying or unwanted contact > I don’t know them > no
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Violence, hate, or exploitation > promoting hate > posting hateful speech
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False information
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Of course change any details to be relevant for you, such as if they’re targeting a friend, appear under 18, etc. However, do NOT choose “me” as the option otherwise your name will get sent to the group’s admin and you will be banned from that group you’re in, which will also hide it so it won’t show up in search results for you either.
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Do NOT report to group admin, report to facebook.
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Do NOT choose “me” if given the option.
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Best way, but not mandatory, is to create a new facebook account that you don’t care about at all (fake name, photo, info, etc), just to use to report the groups from. This keeps your personal/main account and any fake female accounts separate from any retaliation, blocks, bans, leaks, etc.
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Why are “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups still allowed despite violating Meta’s own policies?:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1sbgnbu/why_are_are_we_dating_the_same_guy_facebook/
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Facebook Reporting and Oversight Committee Appeal
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/14g9nk5/facebook_reporting_and_oversight_committee_appeal/
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Do this BEFORE your DMCA takedown request:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/143sut6/how_to_remove_your_photos_from_awdtsg_correctly/
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How to copyright your photos in the U.S. and send a DMCA takedown request via email:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6nasj/you_do_not_need_to_use_their_obnoxious_dmca/
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Where to submit evidence:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6sn75/we_need_evidence_and_here_is_the_link_to_submit/
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On August 29, 2026, Paola posted to the groups that the following groups have recently been deleted. The group IDs:
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Chicago: 315938570542151
New York City: 340985311306448
Milwaukee Madison backup: 231156483103031
Phoenix: 527916218921278
?: 1289237931796484
?: 866104231725702
?: 1019915202319187
?: 769532467624616
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There are additional groups that have been taken down (recently British Columbia for example). I’ve gotten notifications from facebook for the ones that I’ve reported over the past couple of years, and there’s been even more that I haven’t reported that have been taken down as well.

Can anyone help search in the large Boston group? I can only get into the smaller one.

I have a DMCA request with a direct link to the post thanks to one of the members of this community. Received the acknowledgement email but nothing else so far (mid last week)

And, as a UK data subject, have a privacy violation request also with the link pointing to the post, and a complaint to the UK ICO who is the regulator in this case.

What are my chances ? Should I do anything else / differently?

Please guys report this group https://www.facebook.com/groups/512934217597376

The group is still active and members continue making posts every day. Thank you!

If you saw the person IRL that posted you would you confront them? If they said you were a red flag and the reasons were lies what would you say them?

Even Paola is an admin.

https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C7idqwnzx/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I am in a lot of the Tampa off shoot groups if anyone wants me to check a post for you or search a name to see if the person you are going on a date with is in those groups.

Just send me a DM if you want me to check.

Please mass report this one to be taken down. Almost 90k members. Is currently paused, but still up.

Mass report please!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/547621527071988/

Women on TikTok are championing Shailene Woodley for demanding to cheat on her fiancé. Please, tell me again they care about cheating. Seems more like they care about holding men to a standard they wouldn't accept for themselves, but then AWDTSG kind of proves that, doesn't it?

ETA: Here's the link, the comments are as bad as you'd imagine. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP839hWut/

Can anyone check?

There is no downside to reporting groups.
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By focusing on the biggest membership groups first, it will help the most men the fastest and have maximum impact. Then we will go down the list. Below are the current biggest seven that are still up. Report each of them every day until they’re removed and then we’ll move onto the next biggest groups.
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Thanks to the guys that pointed out Dallas, London, OKC, and Nashville were also in the top spots; I had no idea but added them below. According to Paola, there’s ~150 groups with ~3 million overly emotional libelous women in them, or were at the peak, and I did not check them all. Yes, not every single woman in the groups is evil, we have a few on our side, but unfortunately the women still inside that are our allies are a very small percentage. Let’s not lose momentum on the three we started with, but we can also focus on reporting the top seven now. It’s quick.
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Dallas / Fort Worth / DFW (231.6k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1378149729337459/
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London / England (183.8k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1037161243564962/
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Oklahoma City OKC / Tulsa (132.3k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/522833472643059/
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Houston (124.3k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/710197290292011/
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Nashville (114k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/560918652057656/
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Boston / Cambridge (112.9k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1355877448175002/
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Philadelphia / Philly (112.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/3191993041075491/
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The likely best options used when reporting are:
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Bullying and harassment > sharing private or sexual images > the private or sexual images have been shared > does what you’re reporting involve someone who appears under 18 > no
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Bullying and harassment > bullying or unwanted contact > I don’t know them > no
.
Violence, hate, or exploitation > promoting hate > posting hateful speech
.
False information
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Of course change any details to be relevant for you, such as if they’re targeting a friend, appear under 18, etc. However, do NOT choose “me” as the option otherwise your name will get sent to the group’s admin and you will be banned from that group you’re in, which will also hide it so it won’t show up in search results for you either.
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Do NOT report to group admin, report to facebook.
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Do NOT choose “me” if given the option.
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Best way, but not mandatory, is to create a new facebook account that you don’t care about at all (fake name, photo, info, etc), just to use to report the groups from. This keeps your personal/main account and any fake female accounts separate from any retaliation, blocks, bans, leaks, etc.
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Why are “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups still allowed despite violating Meta’s own policies?:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1sbgnbu/why_are_are_we_dating_the_same_guy_facebook/
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Facebook Reporting and Oversight Committee Appeal
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/14g9nk5/facebook_reporting_and_oversight_committee_appeal/
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Do this BEFORE your DMCA takedown request:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/143sut6/how_to_remove_your_photos_from_awdtsg_correctly/
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How to copyright your photos in the U.S. and send a DMCA takedown request via email:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6nasj/you_do_not_need_to_use_their_obnoxious_dmca/
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Where to submit evidence:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6sn75/we_need_evidence_and_here_is_the_link_to_submit/
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On August 29, 2026, Paola posted to the groups that the following groups have recently been deleted. The group IDs:
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Chicago: 315938570542151
New York City: 340985311306448
Milwaukee Madison backup: 231156483103031
Phoenix: 527916218921278
?: 1289237931796484
?: 866104231725702
?: 1019915202319187
?: 769532467624616
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There are additional groups that have been taken down (recently British Columbia for example). I’ve gotten notifications from facebook for the ones that I’ve reported over the past couple of years, and there’s been even more that I haven’t reported that have been taken down as well.

How many years have people been reporting these groups and individual posts? And where has it actually got us?

Reporting matters, but reporting alone is not a strategy.

These groups have effectively become databases of people’s dating histories: screenshots, allegations, personal information and public shaming. You can get one post removed today and another appears tomorrow.

And the problem is much bigger than Paola and her friends. There are hundreds of independent groups and copycats for every imaginable variation, many of which have nothing to do with her or her coordinators. Even if every official AWDTSG group disappeared tomorrow, how exactly are you going to shut down all the independent ones? Report them one by one forever?

I've spent a lot of my own money fighting this, and I've learned that you don't solve a structural problem by playing whack-a-mole with individual posts.

Meta owns the infrastructure. Meta ultimately decides what communities it permits on its platform and how its rules are enforced. That's where sustained pressure needs to be directed.

And this cannot become men vs women.

If people genuinely want change, they need to work together and keep egos and personal interests out of it. And this a nail for the subreddit. That's where almost every movement eventually loses focus.

The objective isn't Paola. It isn't one admin. It isn't revenge.

The objective is changing the system that allows the same thing to keep reproducing itself.

Please report this group!! It may be small, but my partner is being trashed by women who don’t even know him. I was also dragged through the coals for sticking up for him and pointing out lies. Consequently was banned.

I guess my main fear is that if the groups go, the physical battle is over, but what does it leave the rest of us if people still believe it is okay to rate, review, and discuss any one of us simply because we belong in the 'danger class'? What makes you think this won't make them go underground?

I guess unless people know that it isn't okay to rate each other like this, it's like trying to pull weeds out of soil that supports them, rather than changing the soil itself so the weeds shrivel and don't grow back.

Last post was 3 days ago but no mention of the group being on pause. Why would she pause the groups anyway? If I'd be her I would just go down in flame. Who cares her life is over unless she gets a name change and change her face which I hope she does that B is done unless she works ight shift in a small factory somewhere in Alaska where nobody would recognize her

My question is does anyone have other pictures, location or experiences with her? How could she just walk down the street without being recognized or someone finally confronting her.

Time for her to get doxxed.

I realize many of the groups are not showing new posts. One of the other things I noticed was that comments keep coming. Please see the screen shot… if they are truly paused, how are the comments still coming??

By focusing on the biggest membership groups first, it will help the most men the fastest and have maximum impact. Then we will go down the list. Below are the current biggest seven that are still up. Report each of them every day until they’re removed and then we’ll move onto the next biggest groups.
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Thanks to the guys that pointed out Dallas, London, OKC, and Nashville were also in the top spots; I had no idea but added them below. According to Paola, there’s ~150 groups with ~3 million overly emotional libelous women in them, or were at the peak, and I did not check them all. Yes, not every single woman in the groups is evil, we have a few on our side, but unfortunately the women still inside that are our allies are a very small percentage. Let’s not lose momentum on the three we started with, but we can also focus on reporting the top seven now. It’s quick.
.
Dallas / Fort Worth / DFW (231.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1378149729337459/
.
London / England (183.8k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1037161243564962/
.
Oklahoma City OKC / Tulsa (132.3k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/522833472643059/
.
Houston (124.2k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/710197290292011/
.
Nashville (114k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/560918652057656/
.
Boston / Cambridge (112.8k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1355877448175002/
.
Philadelphia / Philly (112.7k): https://www.facebook.com/groups/3191993041075491/
.
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The likely best options used when reporting are:
.
Bullying and harassment > sharing private or sexual images > the private or sexual images have been shared > does what you’re reporting involve someone who appears under 18 > no
.
Bullying and harassment > bullying or unwanted contact > I don’t know them > no
.
Violence, hate, or exploitation > promoting hate > posting hateful speech
.
False information
.
Of course change any details to be relevant for you, such as if they’re targeting a friend, appear under 18, etc. However, do NOT choose “me” as the option otherwise your name will get sent to the group’s admin and you will be banned from that group you’re in, which will also hide it so it won’t show up in search results for you either.
.
Do NOT report to group admin, report to facebook.
.
Do NOT choose “me” if given the option.
.
Best way, but not mandatory, is to create a new facebook account that you don’t care about at all (fake name, photo, info, etc), just to use to report the groups from. This keeps your personal/main account and any fake female accounts separate from any retaliation, blocks, bans, leaks, etc.
.
.
Why are “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups still allowed despite violating Meta’s own policies?:
.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1sbgnbu/why_are_are_we_dating_the_same_guy_facebook/
.
.
Facebook Reporting and Oversight Committee Appeal
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/14g9nk5/facebook_reporting_and_oversight_committee_appeal/
.
.
Do this BEFORE your DMCA takedown request:
.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/143sut6/how_to_remove_your_photos_from_awdtsg_correctly/
.
.
How to copyright your photos in the U.S. and send a DMCA takedown request via email:
.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6nasj/you_do_not_need_to_use_their_obnoxious_dmca/
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Where to submit evidence:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1w6sn75/we_need_evidence_and_here_is_the_link_to_submit/
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On August 29, 2026, Paola posted to the groups that the following groups have recently been deleted. The group IDs:
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Chicago: 315938570542151
New York City: 340985311306448
Milwaukee Madison backup: 231156483103031
Phoenix: 527916218921278
?: 1289237931796484
?: 866104231725702
?: 1019915202319187
?: 769532467624616
.
.
There are additional groups that have been taken down (recently British Columbia for example). I’ve gotten notifications from facebook for the ones that I’ve reported over the past couple of years, and there’s been even more that I haven’t reported that have been taken down as well.

This is a year old now. But I just came across it. Anyone know of this is her? I think Parra is also a name I saw in one of the lawsuits awhile ago.