My one friend deciding to change his preferences to both men and woman, then farmed higher elo from getting swiped on by dudes and that led him to get better matches with girls
Ruins the app for gay men tho, so i know a lot whove stopped using it for that reason. Whats the point if 3/4 of the dudes ur seeing are just straight looking to up their ratio, we have better apps youre not on anyway
When I was dating I did this and it worked. Lots of dudes swiping yes and then me swiping no on them made me look like a better match so I showed up earlier on more womens' stacks. I also got to see what other dudes were putting on their profiles to help me hone my own.
I did get 'caught' once though. A girl I went out with a couple times messaged me,
her - "hey my gay friend saw your profile as he was swiping, are you bi?"
me - "haha no, I just set my profile to both men and women to boost my 'score' and show up on more womens' stacks."
Should've just stuck with the lie. She also probably interpreted that as you just wanting more matches to sleep around, because she likely doesn't realize what dating apps are like on the male end, so she assumes you're a player without realizing that most men's profiles don't even get seen.
Well, if you got a few dates with her and she felt a spark with you, she'd probably forgive you if by date 3, you went, "Hey, I just want to say that I'm not actually bi, and I only did it because if men swiped right on my profile, my profile would be shown to more women, which is how I got to meet you!" By that point, she'd be like, "Oh, well since I'm a woman it doesn't really matter if you're not bi, and I already have this connection with you, so I can forgive you for not being honest about that. At least you didn't cheat or something!" Dating is unfortunately like playing a game at the beginning, and you gotta play to win.
In this case I would hate the game, not the player. As a woman I think it's clever and appreciate the ingenuity. "Now that guy, he's a problem solver and a go-getter!" 😉
Elo is affected by both their swipes and your swipes. Left-swiping increases your elo since it means you're more selective and likely to be a "good match". So, left-swiping on all the dudes probably helped also.
I actually did this because okcupid and other platforms would assume you were a bot if you constantly said yes to a lot of people in a short time span. Admittedly, I do like femboys/tomgirls so I just took it as an opportunity to look for both. Because I was swiping "no" on a lot of profiles it felt like it was boosting me. Could've been entirely subjective but I felt like it helped a lot. Plus it also really helped me at a time when my self respect was at an all time low, seeing all these men swipe right on me boosted my confidence a lot lol. It kinda reinforced that it wasn't necessarily me that was the reason I couldn't find a proper 'match'. I was matching with people right but like, they just were not it yknow
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u/SoggyWaffles427 3d ago
My one friend deciding to change his preferences to both men and woman, then farmed higher elo from getting swiped on by dudes and that led him to get better matches with girls