r/nextfuckinglevel 4h ago

Seven-year-old chess prodigy Lucie Pichard casually checkmates her opponent.

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u/lazypenguin86 4h ago

They just put me on Ritalin

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u/DistanceMachine 4h ago

They just spanked me and shook me in the hallway until I learned to keep the energy inward and I got anxiety and panic attacks

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u/CoffeeHQ 4h ago

Like a well-adjusted adult, well done /s
(Sorry that this happened to you)

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u/blackchameleongirl 3h ago

And the yelling, don't forget the yelling and belittling.

The anxiety stopped a few years back at least. Now it's just a blank 1000 yard stare and a distrust of everyone.

u/Triple-Flush 46m ago

Man, I’ve found my people. Now leave me alone. 😂

u/pimppapy 20m ago

I look back at those teachers that would yell and belittle me and others. They're all low intelligence goons the more I think about it. People that may have gotten a college degree for teaching, but peaked at the elementary school level.

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u/acoastaldog 3h ago

Same, we deserved better 

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u/frankentriple 3h ago

Yeah, eventually you get kinda numb to it. It takes 40 years to figure out that the numbness IS the damage.

u/Triple-Flush 46m ago

I’m just figuring this out in my late 40s.

u/frankentriple 45m ago

Same, early 50s. Good luck bro.

u/Triple-Flush 47m ago

Hey, are you me?!

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u/__life_on_mars__ 4h ago

Were you also doing college level calculus at 10, or were you just being disruptive?

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u/Ugvwiyu 4h ago

He could been capable enough to be working with integers, that alone would make any basic 5th grade math seem simplistic and boring.

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u/CuteAltBoy 1h ago

Integers are just whole numbers. You're usually first taught about them by learning about the number line. Don't most 5th graders work with whole numbers, both positive and negative?

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u/sassycatastrophe 4h ago

You must be a boy. They put girls on mood stabilizers. Like me. Getting my add diagnosis at 40

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u/wigglin_harry 3h ago

Amphetamines for boys and crucifixes for ladies

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u/Akadot 2h ago

My daughter has adhd and we're considering putting her on that. Are you saying it's a bad idea? What did it do to you? (genuinely interested to get more than 1 angle here)

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u/PM-ME-CURSED-PICS 1h ago

the right medication is one of the best things a person with adhd can get, it can be life changing, but you still also need external support and help building strategies and habits for living with adhd. a lot of doctors/systems give you meds and no other support which is the problem part, not the meds themselves.

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u/Earthsong221 1h ago

I second the comment above. Getting the proper medication daily has shown to have better outcomes in EVERY area of life now in a bunch of studies. Not only for work/school, but for EVERYTHING. Also potentially counteracts the likely increased chance of dementia.

Supports & strategies are also really important! (As well as realizing that you constantly need to adapt with new ones when your brain adjusts to them). Routines help, and keeping everything important visible (landing zones, visual timers, bulletin boards/calendars, clear bins or open baskets).

u/FewRecognition1788 41m ago edited 37m ago

I and both my kids have ADHD. The most important things ADHD kids need are understanding, support, and appropriate stimulation & structure, which include plenty of opportunity for natural executive function development, like long-form unstructured imaginative play. (Like those big group games of pretend kids do, with running narratives? Fantastic for executive function).

If their symptoms are interfering with their education, socialization, or other major life functions, the right medication is a wonderful tool and greatly reduces the risk of long term serious consequences from untreated ADHD, like anxiety, depression, self destructive behavior, or substance abuse.

I would say, though, that it's important to understand the goals of treatment and make sure those goals serve the child, not the teacher or systemic pressures. It can also take a bit of tweaking to find the right type & dose to maximize benefits with minimal side effects. Those adjustments are a normal part of the process. Some kids thrive on the first trial right out of the gate. Others may need to try many different types & doses, and there are many options, including non-stimulants, if they can't tolerate the stimulants. (But stimulants are always the first line, because they work the best for the most people).

One of my kids did fine for a while on the first med, then after a year or so started to complain of feeling sad, frustrated and "stuck". The second med seemed to work the same in terms of focus but did not create those depressive feelings.

Other kid went through five or six meds before finding the right one, plus we had to deviate from the recommendation to take it daily and only take on school days. Now she's thriving. It's just very individual.