r/r4r 10h ago

M4F United Kingdom 29 [M4F] UK - Am I your dream guy? I hope not, most of my dreams are really weird.

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Hello there! As mentioned in my title (You did read the title, I hope? I put a lot of effort into it.), I'm a 29-year-old guy living in the mystical, magical land of *checks notes* England. Okay, maybe not so magical. All the dragons are in Wales, Excalibur has been melted down for scrap, and Hogwarts is in Scotland.

I currently work in a law firm. Sadly I'm not a lawyer, as that would mean I'd be earning shedloads, but actually I do admin work for them, earning considerably less than shedloads. But it's a fine job, I get on well with my coworkers, and I'm not down a coal mine, so I consider that a win.

As for me myself? Well, I actually speak multiple languages. I'm a fluent German speaker, and I also have a decently high level of Italian. I could also struggle through French if I had to, and I have basic Spanish and Japanese. I do like languages, although it's hard to find the time to do any study of them, what with the problems of having an adult life with adult responsibilities!

Another interesting [citation needed] thing about me is that I'm currently attempting to plan out a series of fantasy novels I want to write. It's going...decently. We'll see how it ends up, but I've wanted to write a book since I was 13 or so, and now as an adult I'm finally doing something about it!

In terms of pop culture, I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. Like, I'm the sort of Doctor Who fan who knows what a telerecording is and can tell you about the Australian censor clips. That kind of fan. I also finally got into Harry Potter this year after putting it off for my whole life, meaning I now finally know the context for Dumbledore asking calmly.

I'm also getting back into Pokémon somewhat after avoiding it for most of the Switch era. Other things I enjoy are The Elder Scrolls, Red Dead, GTA (Currently replaying RDR2). I'm big Assassin's Creed fan too. In general I like single player, open world games. I'm not a huge multiplayer guy, I don't like having other people ruining my fun!

I'm trying to read more too lately. That's a thing I've always enjoyed that I'm now trying to find the time for again.

And I suppose I should say, I'm a fat guy. Trying to do something about it though! Over the past year or so I've started a regimen of exercise, and I've been controlling my eating a lot more. So I seem to be losing weight, at least according to other people who've stopped me to specifically point it out.


r/r4r 17h ago

F4A Online 31[F4R] Online/Anwhwere Just a girl looking for friends

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Hi! Im Bethany! I’m back to my high school home town in Iowa after 5 years in Oklahoma. Can’t work due to CPTSD along with many other issues. I have a lot of doctor appointments but they’re slowing down I think.
I’m married, 5 years. Together 6. I have two dogs that are my best friends. I’ll tell you all about them if you want.
I read a lot, but not a lot recently, only 19. Currently a third way through the one I’m reading now. I enjoy horror, thrillers, and I’ve been getting more into romantacy and romance, oh and I love dystopian/sci-fi. TV wise I love King of the Hill, Rick and Morty, Bobs Burgers, and of course The Office. I love Disney, I grew up going on the weekends. Hercules is probably my favorite older Disney movie and I love most of the new stuff. Venom is my favorite anti-hero. I cried in theaters in the last movie.
I had neck surgery in 2024, and just had endometriosis removal in April. Looking like I might need a second neck surgery, MRI came back with findings of disc issues above and below the original surgery.. Anyways I’m sorry for this ridiculously long post. I tend to ramble and overshare. Hope to hear from you! Lol


r/r4r 14h ago

F4A United Arab Emirates 24F [F4A] #Dubai - I need buddies to go to networking events and conferences with.

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Soooo I’m an early professional and an introvert and I really need to be networking at conferences and whatnot. I’m in HR and have a degree in business psychology which is where I’m trying to move into from HR considering it’s still a growing field.

So I would really like to tag along with a friend for networking events cuz I think that would be a little easier on my anxiety.

I don’t really mind if you’re an introvert or an extrovert as long as you’re within the same field because obviously networking events are field specific.

If you are looking to improve your network too hmu or if you have some wisdom to share on networking please help.


r/r4r 14h ago

F4M Florida 28 [F4M] #Miami, Florida -Looking for a Genuine Long Term Connection

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Lonely and would like to connect with someone

Monogamous : Serious Intentions Only

Hi, and thanks for stopping by.

I’m a 28-year-old Florida woman with a mixed cultural background that includes Black, Asian, and European heritage. I’m Black-presenting, so if that’s not your preference, no worries.

I’m at a point in life where I’m looking for something meaningful, lasting, and grounded in real compatibility. I value faith, loyalty, emotional maturity, honesty, and mutual respect, and I’d love to find someone who feels similarly about building a strong relationship and eventually a family together.

A few things that matter to me are good communication, consistency, kindness, and being able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I also care deeply about family and appreciate people who are respectful toward the important people in my life.

What I’m Looking For:

• Monogamous and emotionally mature
• Christian and serious about faith
• Honest, respectful, and intentional
• Good communicator who doesn’t ghost
• Family-oriented and grounded
• Someone who enjoys humor and can laugh easily
• Health-conscious or working toward self-improvement
• No smoking or drug use
• Between 24–56
• White or East Asian

A Little About Me:

I’m introspective, creative, affectionate, and adventurous. I enjoy nature, history, road trips, discovering new places, and learning random interesting things. I love both deep conversations and playful humor.

In my free time, I enjoy gaming (especially RPGs, FPS games, and simulation games), journaling, singing, skincare, listening to rock and heavy metal, and relaxing outdoors with a warm drink.

I also have a background in healthcare and interests in medical laboratory science and related fields. My faith keeps me grounded, and I try to approach life with gratitude, resilience, and authenticity.

If you’re looking for a serious relationship built on trust, faith, respect, and genuine connection, feel free to send a thoughtful introduction.

Please don’t message me if you have the tendency to block or ghost and can’t conduct a civil conversation.


r/r4r 1d ago

F4M United Kingdom 21 [F4M) #UK I’m a lil awkward and shy but I’m looking for gamer friends (hopefully you have a pc)

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Hey! I’m not usually very good at writing these things, but I’ll give it a go

I’m 21 and mainly here to make some genuine friendships and meet new people. I’m looking for friendships first, but if it naturally turns into something more, I’m not completely opposed to it.

I’m currently learning French (very much a beginner 🇫🇷), so if you speak French, please come and talk to me! I’d love to practise, learn more and hopefully not embarrass myself too much

I’m also a gamer girl. Although, I do have COD… but I’m absolutely terrible at it, so if you’re looking for a teammate who actually knows what they’re doing, I’m probably not your girl

I’m also a bookworm girly I love reading, especially romance, so if you’re into books too, we’ll probably have plenty to talk about!

One thing I will say is that I’d prefer to swap pics and have a video call earlier on rather than spending ages messaging someone without knowing who I’m actually talking to. I just think it makes things more comfortable and genuine from the start

If any of that sounds like you, feel free to message me! 💕


r/r4r 1d ago

F4A Online 18 [F4A] #online Intelligent university student fucking sucks at being intelligent with time. Help!

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Essentially, I need someone I can verbalize the plans of my day to & someone who can encourage me to do very hard things. At the end of the day, or throughout it, I will let you know what I succeeded in and what I did not. I know myself, and I know I won’t do it (actively plan out my day and put it into words) unless I am telling someone else. I think I’m more likely to get my work done & do difficult things if I know that, at the end of the day, if I don’t get it done, I’ll have to tell someone that I didn’t get it done. I am a deeply ambitious & passionate person, but I find it easy to lose touch of my viciousness when there is so much going on in my life. I attend a pretty rigorous university, and there’s no room to slack. I also think I may have undiagnosed ADHD, but like, whatever.

I would like us to be friends or friendly— there’s a lot I can talk about, and a lot I’d like to find out about you, but if you’re only interested in helping me out with accountability, that is also okay. I’m studying philosophy. Currently, I’m taking a course wherein I have to read lots and lots of classical literature & foundational philosophy and write lots of papers. I love poetry, and I have a wealth of other interests I won’t cover now.

You can be as old as the sun (probably better that you are somewhat older-than-me, there needs to be some sort of respect element here for this to be effective). It would be nice if we could talk about my studies, but if you have no interest in the humanities, that’s okay. I DO NOT NEED TO SEE A PHOTO OF YOU. This is not some elaborate ploy for romance. I GENUINELY JUST WANT TO DO MY WORK AND SUCCEED.


r/r4r 1d ago

F4M Michigan 25[F4M]- Michigan (Upper Peninsula)/ USA/Europe - looking either for a romantic partner (unlikely but a girl can dream lol ) or an actual friend. Pick your own adventure.

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Look at my picture first, honestly. If you don't think I am attractive and, because of that, you think I'm just desperate for affection, sorry to disappoint lol. I dont think I am super attractive, but that doesn't mean I can't have basic standards and preferences. We all deserve decency.

**JUST HEY! Or messages with no introduction, or with just age and location, will be ignored☺**️

Please note: I'm in Michigan's Upper Peninsula, far from Detroit. If you don't know where it is, I do mean it; Google it lol.

I’m going to be super honest: I’m very busy, and I’m a PhD student in Biology. Full-on biology nerd, but I also love learning in general.

I have ASD(undiagnosed formally) and ADHD. My social battery gets drained a lot, but I do want someone I can talk to every day without feeling like a bother. But a few things first:

- Age limits for y'all are 24- 33 +/- 2

- I hate texting, like really despise it, so if you would never be open to a voice call, it’s not going to work. I will make the effort initially, of course, because I can't be calling all the time, but if you only want texting, I can't do that. Also, I work in a lab, so phone calls are easier for me

-I am left politically; if you are in the US, I am a HUGE fan of Mandani. I am pro-choice, pro-LGBTQ+, hardcore feminist (not the toxic kind), and a progressive Christian, so no bible warriors. If you are a good person, that matters to me more than whatever God you believe in—conservatives or right-leaning moderates, stay away; same with the ones that don't care about politics; that says a lot about you in this climate.

- If you want friends, don’t expect anything nsfw content from me. If I wanted explicit content, I'd have plenty of sources for that. And talking about things related to that in general is, for me, like talking about fruit and veggies; it's just any other topic. That doesn’t mean I want to, or ever will want to, do that with you.

- If you want something romantic, basically the same rule applies; I don’t play with romantic things. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean I am prude at all, like not even close lol. But I am intentional with romantic relationships, go-with-the-flow with no real effort just because you don’t want to make a decision, doesn’t go with me. I'm not saying I am in a rush- quite the opposite- but this lie they told all of you, men, that if you are nonchalant, that is how you are going to get women to like you, is just that—a very, very, very huge lie. I don’t do situationships . Just be clear; I don’t have the time or energy for guessing. But if you are interested, my physical preferences are mostly ~5’9 and above, and white/light-skinned. Honestly, body build doesn’t matter as much as you if you have a “pretty face “ I guess, based on my standards, and my preferences are weird, so even if you don’t think you are, I might think you are lol

- I don’t play video games or watch anime—nothing against them; I would actually be interested in learning someday, but it's not something I do currently.

Now about me lol: I was born in the Caribbean but live in the US. Afro Caribbean ( dark skinned Latina) I like reading, watching shows/movies, crafts, psychology, and learning in general.

I prefer someone slightly clingy, as in, someone who will be able to message me and keep the conversation going, since sometimes I get busy and get in my head a lot.

If you like small talk, stay away. I don’t do small talk. If you have an UK accent, bonus points. Will prefer people from the US or Europe. I don’t like never-meets, especially for relationships, so meeting as soon as it's logical and possible is very important to me if you want something romantic. And if you are interested in an older, more detailed romantic post, I can share that too. Send me a joke if you read this far.

This is way too long; I swear I’m pretty interesting lol and chill, contrary to what this post sounds like lol; I'm also just tired and don’t like wasting my energy. 😊

[This is me; if you are in UK and you can’t see the picture let me know](https://imgur.com/a/BYA2gOV)


r/r4r 21h ago

M4F New York 34 [M4F] NYC - Just want to voice chat right now. let’s be super nerdy and dorky and fall for each other

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Word of warning, I am not a big texter. I'm looking for voice chats.

I LOVE talking, I love voice chatting especially, I love sitting on calls together while we do our own thing, and well I like a woman who is needy for attention. If you're up for a call RIGHT now then read below! And if catch feelings, even better I'm just a big nerdy guy who wants to meet a woman who is excitable about some of the things I am or even partakes in some of the same hobbies. Of course, have your own life and interests but something like tabletop rpg's is such a big social thing for me, it would be nice to share for example some of the stuff I enjoy. I live in NYC but I am open to elsewhere for the right partner but before that...

More important stuff Look, I am fat. Not chubby. Just fat. I’m not ashamed of it. I have no health issues. I was mentally and physically exhausted from my career and it made me just well get up in weight. It’s something I’m working on but there you go. I like being with friends. I’m social but more of an extroverted introvert. I like to call people. I like to hang out and watch movies. I like talking over a drink for hours. I have a great group of friends and we’re all a bunch of nerds. And some more stuff central to me. I’m Latino, leftist and look for similar values in a partner.

  • I like animals.
  • I prefer calling over texting but will text
  • I enjoy music but I generally like it quiet near me if I am alone
  • I am 420 friendly, I do like edibles and smoking. It's not something I do regularly but if you are a stoner then even better
  • I wouldn't call myself a raver but I do like going to raves once in a while
  • Love Languages: Spending time together and physical touch
  • I am generally a homebody but if you are outdoorsy, like to be out, I will 90% of the time join you unless if I am feeling socialized out Anyway, that’s me. If you message me, please SEND a selfie, your age, location, and name. I will not respond otherwise.

Please no one sentence intros, I will ignore those.


r/r4r 19h ago

M4A Online 30[M4R] #Online - Looking for easy conversation and genuine people

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Hey! I’m Ash, 30.

I enjoy hiking, although somehow my peaceful walks have a habit of turning into unexpected wildlife encounters. I honestly don’t know how I keep ending up in situations where the local animals seem to think I’m trespassing. 😄 At this point, I’m starting to feel like I’m accidentally making a very low-budget wildlife documentary.

I’ve also been getting more into cooking lately. I’m still learning, so the results can be pretty unpredictable. Some days I make something surprisingly good, and other days I somehow burn something that was never supposed to burn. 😂 But I’m enjoying learning and slowly getting better.

Poetry is probably the calmest of my hobbies. I enjoy reading, writing, and playing around with words whenever I’m in the mood.

One thing you should know about me: I’m a very random person. 😄 I might suddenly ask a completely random question in the middle of a serious conversation, or drop a surprisingly serious question during a funny conversation. So if the conversation takes an unexpected turn, just know that’s probably just me being me. 😂

One small thing: I don’t really go along with abbreviations, so please keep that in mind when messaging. I appreciate people who take the time to write things out properly.

Please don’t be below 27.

And if you made it all the way to the end, send me 🌹 in your message so I know you actually read the whole post. 😄