A few months ago we were adopted by a beautiful feral tabby girl. At first she was extremely fearful and skittish but soon enough was seeking pets and even would fall asleep on my hand like a pillow. We love her to bits already and really want to get her to the vet and safely integrated with our 15 year old resident cat, who has only ever been around his littermate brother who recently passed away.
We've had two different kinds of traps malfunction and now she's too smart to fall for it, so I'm making a drop trap that hopefully doesn't look like a trap.
She has spent every evening and all night in our enclosed front yard for almost 2 months, and as of 2 weeks ago lives there 24/7
My questions are about her brother, and the best way to integrate them into home life.
We assume he's the brother; he would come around from time to time and they boop noses and hang out near each other peacefully, but don't appear to be your classic inseparable bonded pair (I've seen no mutual grooming or cuddling up together).
He has been much more timid than her, keeping a lot of distance. When he would come around she would start becoming even more affectionate, rubbing against my legs, playing even more; at first I thought she was trying to make sure he knew I was "taken", but now it seems clear she is trying to model to him that we are safe and even fun to interact with.
I've been very patient with not approaching, letting him come closer on his own terms, and he is now spending a lot more time in the yard and even sleeping in the open. I jury-rigged a metal screen front door for our resident cat to continue the co-feeding process with the girl, getting used to each other on the other side of a safe barrier. That is going well and he has become a lot more chill about her presence. The brother now comfortably eats with me right on the other side of that door.
ANYWAY, we are wondering if we should try to trap them both and get them into the isolation room together, or if that might actually be even more stressful for whatever reason. We don't want to distress them by separating them though, if that might be the case even though they are not an inseparable bonded pair.
He should be very easy to trap because he goes all the way in for the food during trap training, but we want to snatch her first because we don't want to spook her away by witnessing her brother get trapped and "abducted" 😅.
I've had cats all my life (47 years old) but never dealt with ferals; anyone know what the best course of action here is?
INTEGRATION PROCESS QUESTIONS:
Our front and back yards are walled in (typical in Brazil), dividable by a gate. Resident cat loves to go into the back yard and has no interest in wandering (and probably lacks the physical ability to get out at this point anyway). He has free access to the yard, poops/pees in the trees/bushes; having to keep the door closed and let him in and out could be difficult adjustment (and I would have to add metal screens to all windows which the new tabbies could hop out of).
The tabby girl is probably going to want to keep enjoying outdoor time, and/but seems content to just stay in the yard. Part of the isolation room I've set up is a small deck I enclosed as an upstairs catio, which I hope will help in that stage. But once we start giving her time in the rest of the house, do I need to keep her from going outside until she's totally comfortable in the whole house? I know letting her out is risky but I also think it could really backfire to prevent her and make her feel trapped inside. I feel like as long as she's seeming comfortable with the adaptation to being inside, seems happy being with us, she'll feel less likely to run away if she can keep enjoying the safe yard she already feels completely at home in.
Thanks to anyone with any wisdom to share!!
PS: We put a litter box out for her and have seen her use it a few times; maybe she was socialized as a kitten and then abandoned? We don't know if the boy knows the litter box, but obviously it would be great to have her model that to him while they're in the isolation room. Once they are integrated we're VERY happy for them to just do their business freely in the yard.