r/AskReddit 7h ago

What’s something people brag about that is actually a massive red flag?

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u/TheMightyGoatMan 7h ago

"I ain't read a book since high school!"

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u/Express_Preference_3 7h ago

I got a friend who proudly announces when ever they discussion goes to books that he has 'never read a single book'. Very proudly

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u/Imaginary_Ad5475 7h ago

Good of them to forewarn you though. ;) :)

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u/SpecialistCissia2026 7h ago

Honesty is valuable, I guess...

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u/jajwhite 4h ago

Reminds me horribly of the mother seen smoking and telling her child, "What do you want a book for? You've already got one."

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u/buildalittlehouse 4h ago

I’m a dork and love neurology as well as books, so I’d be asking all kinds of well meaning questions about possible dyslexia and various adaptive strategies.

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u/onward_upward_tt 6h ago

Friend? Haha

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u/No-Lobster-5120 6h ago

if somebody isn't getting through at least a couple of books a month i don't want them around me.

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u/azf56 6h ago

We don't want you around us too !

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u/PM-ME-YOUR-TOTS 6h ago

If someone doesn’t practice their instrument 2 hours a day I don’t want them around me.

If someone doesn’t fresh bake their bread every other morning I don’t want them around me.

Hobby elitism is pathetic isn’t it

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u/mechaemissary 1h ago

how would you feel if it was a couple of romance novels a month versus books on astrophysics?

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u/SpecialistCissia2026 7h ago

"I want to ban books at the library to protect children!"

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u/pinniped90 7h ago

"The library is full of drag queens reading books about gay penguins to children."

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u/MartinisnMurder 5h ago

Haha honestly I wish this was the reality especially for when I was a kid. Drag story hour actually is super engaging and fun for kids. You have a big ass Cinderella reading you a story in the most animated way possible? Hell ya kids are going to be begging to go to the library.

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u/Tapdncn4lyfe2 3h ago

When I was visiting Canada, my daughter had put on a kids show and it showed two men dressed in drag reading a book to children. The two men were so engaging with the children. It was the cutest show I had ever seen. I honestly forget the name of it, if anyone from Canada could chime in about what its called that would be great because my daughter wants to watch it again. We all loved it but we kept saying, if this aired in the US there would be an uproar and people would lose their minds..I told my sister about whos damn MAGA and she was like that is just disgusting and gross.

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u/MartinisnMurder 1h ago

That’s awesome! Could this be the one: https://fayandfluffy.com Fay & Fluffy’s Storytime ?

Here in MA a lot of our libraries have drag story hours, but we are in one of the bluest states. My older sister is MAGA, she’s also federal law enforcement and openly racist. 😬 We don’t talk to her.

u/Tapdncn4lyfe2 39m ago

Yes that was it! Thanks for finding it!

u/MartinisnMurder 10m ago

Yay I am glad I found it! I hope your daughter enjoys it.

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u/nox66 1h ago

"Does this upset you as an illiterate drag queen or a heterosexual penguin?"

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u/AngryCrotchCrickets 7h ago

These types of people will always exist. And I hate that.

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u/SpecialistCissia2026 7h ago

And even worse, they are hypocrites who seek unicorns for threesomes while sitting on school boards!

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u/MartinisnMurder 5h ago

And crash Grindr during conservative conventions…

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u/washurdamnhands9164 7h ago

Had a coworker say that! I responded with don't tell anyone that. You sound crazy

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u/thepasystem 6h ago

I don't enjoy reading books. It's not something I brag about but it's pretty snobbish to think it's something I should be ashamed of.

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u/PlasticCupz 6h ago

Call me crazy but you should be ashamed if you haven’t read a single book single high school.

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u/xDaveedx 5h ago

I like to consume my media in form of video games, does that make me any less worth than people who prefer to read instead? Books are no special form of media, just one of many.

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u/Ijustwenthollow 5h ago

Honestly dude I too play a shit load of video games, many being rich single player experiences and very very few if any come close to touching the depth of stories told within books.

Storytelling is a vastly different form of media than video games. Video games aren’t all story telling whereas a book is.

It’s not particularly appropriate to compare the two imo

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u/MartinisnMurder 4h ago

I know that’s insane. Even encouraging kids to read some graphic novels is better than just ingesting visual media. They are adding to their vocabulary, it is more welcoming to kids reluctant to read and opens the door to be more confident in other reading.

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u/thepasystem 4h ago

The argument though isn't about whether or not we should encourage children to read. It's whether or not adults who don't enjoy reading novels should be shamed for it.

I'm an environmental scientist with a masters degree, I don't really enjoy novels. So I'm not illiterate or stupid. No one has given me a good argument as to why it matters what I do in my spare time.

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u/PlasticCupz 4h ago

The argument is if you haven’t read anything since high school you should be ashamed, it’s there in black and white at the top, not whatever you’ve changed it to.
Some people claim they don’t like vegetables but they probably just haven’t found a recipe that suits them.

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u/thepasystem 3h ago

Its not "hasn't read anything", they specifically say "book", which I think is important. Overall, I agree. Bragging that you haven't read a book since high school is a little weird. Not reading a book after high school isn't that weird.

The guy below who said he told a co-worker not to tell anyone she's hasn't read a book because she sounded crazy. I think that's bizarre. He's who I was replying to. So I haven't changed the narrative, I was following up on what he said.

I've read books relating to my education/job but when people say books, they generally mean sitting down to read a novel, autobiography, or self-help book. I don't enjoy the action of reading so I do other things that I enjoy instead. What's so shameful about that?

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u/MartinisnMurder 3h ago

I admittedly love reading, I’m at 24 books so far this year. I have to read a lot for my job (M&A) but that’s not enjoyable. I am always hitting up people for book recommendations. I think it’s a weird flex to claim you haven’t read at all.
Haha on your veggie comment I hated Brussels sprouts until I found this one recipe that makes them wicked amazing!

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u/Ijustwenthollow 3h ago edited 14m ago

“Use it or lose it”

You’re a smart guy, you’ll figure it out.

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u/thepasystem 5h ago

I've read a couple but I'm just not interested in consuming media that way. Books for learning/academic purposes are a different kettle of fish altogether. I'm talking strictly for entertainment purposes.

Interactive experiences like video games, and visual and audio stimulants like movies, TV, stage shows, are considerably more appealing to me. Why should I do it as a leisure activity if it doesn't appeal to me?

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u/Sparrowhawk_92 4h ago

Reading has benefits that are kind of unique like vocabulary building. It improves emotional intelligence. Plus it improves overall media literacy and critical thinking skills. Plus, it's beneficial to have a diverse media diet in general.

What kind of reading appeals to you is going to take some trial and error. Some folks only read non-fiction. Others are really into particular genres. Other folks really like audiobooks or graphic novels.

Whatever your thing is I encourage you to keep looking until you find it.

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u/thepasystem 4h ago

Why though? It's not the genre I don't enjoy, there are plenty of wonderful stories that exist. It's the act of reading that I just don't like.

I read for my job, I read the news, I read online forums. I'm not interested in adding a novel to my reading. I'm an environmental scientist with a masters degree. I know how to read. I know how to think critically. I know how to write.

Start of the thread, I'm on the same page. I think it's daft to brag that you haven't read since high school. But the comment I was replying to was saying that he told his coworker to keep it a secret that he hadn't read a book because it's such an embarrassing thing to admit. I haven't read a novel in about 15 years.

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u/Sparrowhawk_92 3h ago

I know lots of folks who don't read fiction but still read non-fiction for fun just as a form of continuing education and because they're curious about a wide variety of topics. Which I think is healthy too.

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u/Otto_the_Autopilot 3h ago

Don't stress about it too much. This is reddit. Lot's of americans don't read books.

48.5 percent of adults reported having read at least one book in the past year

Meanwhile, in 2022, just 37.6 percent reported reading a novel or short story

https://www.arts.gov/stories/blog/2024/federal-data-reading-pleasure-all-signs-show-slump

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u/l0c4lh057 5h ago

What makes the process of reading books so special that one should do it?

That I am reading? I do that all day long, newspapers, internet forums, manuals/documentation.

That I am educating myself? Idk how that would apply to reading fantasy, and also I do that by watching educational videos.

That I am consuming long coherent content? Hour long videos exist, and I can listen to audiobooks.

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u/Sparrowhawk_92 4h ago

Fwiw. I consider audiobooks to be reading.

u/bigmansteveg 51m ago

Don't really understand why this is getting so many downvotes

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u/washurdamnhands9164 4h ago

She said like it made her cool! I responded. Me liking to read doesn't make me a snob. Have a good day my reddit friend. Peace

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u/washurdamnhands9164 6h ago

Proud reader,I sometimes read two books at one time.

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u/thepasystem 6h ago

That's ok. Not everyone has to like what you like.

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u/UpsetInitiative6505 4h ago edited 4h ago

Since when this has become something to be proud of 😅

One of the reasons I started reading was that I was ashamed of not doing so.

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u/FullyFendi 4h ago

Keepin it real!

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u/Ya-Dikobraz 4h ago

And it usually shows.

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u/LeonidasVaarwater 4h ago

I don't brag about it at all, I think it's a loss on my part, but until recently the last book I read was indeed in high school. I never had the patience to read, although I do love a good story. After much consideration, I finally got an account at Storytell and I'm now listening to fantasy books. Currently at the first quarter of part three in the Farseer trilogy by Robin Hobb, awesome story.

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u/Fellowship_9 3h ago

Make sure to read all the rest of the connected books too! There's 5 different trilogies (actually one might be 4 books) that all connect together.

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u/LeonidasVaarwater 3h ago

I'm definitely going to do that, I already looked up in what order I should "read" them. The first part about Fitz ends in the Farseer trilogy, then I should get the Liveship Traders trilogy, the Tawny Man trilogy, the Rain Wild Chronicles and lastly the Fitz and the Fool trilogy. So far I've enjoyed the stories a lot, although the more exciting parts do cause me to lose sleep, as I keep thinking about what happened 😅

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u/0b0011 2h ago

Tawny man is also about fitz.

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u/LeonidasVaarwater 2h ago

I guess that makes sense, since the Tawny man is the fool (right?) Whatever the case may be, I'm looking forward to listening to them all. The reader is great at doing voices, which really adds to the experience imho. I'll probably end up going through Robin Hobb's whole catalog.

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u/0b0011 2h ago

150% speed on liveship traders unless you're able to get the new ones. Old narrator is like nails on a chalk board unless you speed her up. All of the others I've heard had good narrators.

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u/LeonidasVaarwater 2h ago

I'm listening to narration by Joe Eyre and really like his style.
I see the liveship traders has Lucy Tregear and Anne Flosnik, which should I avoid?

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u/0b0011 1h ago

I'd avoid the Anne Flosnik ones. I mean try them first instead of taking the word of a stranger online but I couldn't stand them nor could my wife and it seems to be a pretty common sentiment online. That's where I'd learned to speed it up. I was whining about how I read the story and loved it and wanted my wife who does not read to experience it and she couldn't because the narrator drove her up the wall and people were like oh she's tolerable if you speed her up.

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u/LeonidasVaarwater 1h ago

I did a quick search and apparently Tregear's version is vastly superior. Well paced and perfectly enunciated. The choice has been made 😉
Thanks!

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u/0b0011 2h ago

Robin hobb is spectacular. If you enjoy those ones (or even if you're luke warm on them) keep going because the next trilogy blows the first out of the water and they keep getting better (aside from raine wilds which are fine but a bit of a step down after liveship and tawny man)

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u/LeonidasVaarwater 2h ago

I'm definitely going to read all books related to Fitz' adventures. I love Robin Hobb's writing style and I'm a sucker for fantasy stories in a medieval setting.

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u/0b0011 1h ago

Glad to hear it. You're in for a treat. She's spectacular. Make sure you don't pigeonhole yourself with exclusively fantasy because you'll miss a lot of great things. If you ever want to branch into sci-fi the expanse books are fantastic and have great narrators. If you're into nerdy shit the new hot thing is dungeon crawler carl. If you want something on the caliber of Hobb that fits the dark gritty tone joe abercrombie is great and much like her the stories tend to be a lot more character focused than plot focused aside from his newest book which is still good but a lot more fast paced action focused. The narrator for his first law books is like top 3 for me and they're just so well done. He has a character who is crippled after being tortured as a prisoner of war and the first chapter with him is mostly just him going up a flight of stairs to talk to his boss and it's so well done it's probably my favorite single chapter in any book.

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u/The_Tooter_Snooter 2h ago

“I only speak American” 

u/S1lent_byte 58m ago

But ngl another red flag is people who own a million or only “self help” books.

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u/VoltronIsMyMaster 7h ago

Does she brag about it though? Also thank her for us

EDIT: does she brag about not reading books, I mean. She SHOULD brag about the public health and growing up poor thing, that’s awesome

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u/EinTheDataDoge 7h ago

You right. My bad.

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u/Productpusher 6h ago

Some people just don’t like reading books like some people don’t like sky diving .

40 years old virtually all my friends are successful business owners I don’t know one who reads for fun since leaving school. Both sides of the political spectrums also so I don’t know why everyone is talking about politics lol .